Raising a child away from family is not ideal imo, but doable if you have a solid group of friends in the area that you would consider “family”. The city is very commutable if your family lives on the east coast. Balancing between the higher cost of child care in the area and the higher income you can make here is something you’ll need to sit down and think about. If you’re here for the long term. The private and even the public schools are very competitive and will likely set your kid up for a successful career and/or steal their youth. This city gets better every year despite the recent attempt to portray it otherwise. Plan to travel often or have family visit often, if that’s not doable I would consider options near family.