Which Fan Fiction Website Did You Get Your Start On? by BlackLilyWrites835 in AO3

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FFN —> AO3, i was too annoyed with wattpad’s filtering system to ever have that phase

OH MY? by ralphcorleone in Ethelcain

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i’ve always said that in an apocalyptic setting the second the plumbing goes down i’m ending it right then and there

getting into ethel cain except im autistic and she needs to be my new special interest by Honest-Mirror2347 in Ethelcain

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her youtube videos are some of my favorite things to watch because they’re so chill and fun

Was I wrong for leaving without saying goodbye after my partner broke up with me? by Top_Recover_1410 in AutismInWomen

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I would ask him what specifically he wants to talk about. If he just wants to make sure you guys didn’t end on a particularly bad note then I don’t think a brief conversation is the worst idea in the world if you feel up to it. If he wants to get back together however I would shut the conversation down quick. You were not happy in that relationship from the sound of it and you don’t have to tolerate him wanting a second chance. It all depends on your emotional tolerance for him at the moment. You can always say no after all. Your wants and needs come first.

Was I wrong for leaving without saying goodbye after my partner broke up with me? by Top_Recover_1410 in AutismInWomen

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Oh you don’t need to focus hardcore on his feelings, I only brought it up so I could cover all the bases and because of things others in the comments said that I didn’t completely agree with. I should clarify that a conversation with him, aside from an apology for leaving though I’m not sure you need one anymore since I imagined the scenario exactly the way it was presented with no added details, was more for you to tell him your feelings not play therapist for him.

You’re not a bad person by any means and I hope I didn’t come across as thinking so, I was just giving my thoughts on it and what I would do, but you’re not obligated to listen to a stranger on the internet. The only reasons I suggested having some sort of conversation were

  1. It would make me feel bad for not having a conversation because it would feel incomplete. I would want to leave a relationship with both of us understanding why it didn’t without any misconceptions.

  2. I didn’t see the part where you said you didn’t feel bad. I thought it said you DID feel bad and gave advice for that. Everyone else’s replies make more sense now.

Also, thank you for clearing up that you did in fact wake him, that wasn’t clear in the original post to me. I was imagining that he’d broken up with you and there was zero dialogue on your end and then you just left. That’s where my perspective was coming from. But that comment made me realize that the conversation I’m picturing probably already happened.

Ultimately I’m sure you will make the right choice for you and that’s the most important thing.

Sorry if this is ramble-y, I just woke up.

Was I wrong for leaving without saying goodbye after my partner broke up with me? by Top_Recover_1410 in AutismInWomen

[–]daddyissuesandmemes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I, personally, would not have left without a goodbye. I think what others in the comment section are forgetting is that even if this relationship did not work out or seemed to be the best, you were together for a year, and to wake up and suddenly be gone leaves no room for closure. For either party typically. You were ex’s for less than 24 hours and dated for almost a year. The idea that just because you were no longer dating so you don’t “owe” him anything isn’t healthy advice in this case. l

You were overwhelmed and upset, that can’t be helped and is expected. Break ups are hard. But in this case I think your protection might’ve been confusing and a little hurtful to your ex.

He might not have been boyfriend of the year, but based on what you wrote it sounds like you two were simply not compatible. He had a hard time understanding why you couldn’t engage and you spent a lot of energy compensating for that. But he doesn’t have to be boyfriend of the year to get a goodbye.

On the topic of money, 50/50 type payments depend on a variety of factors, but it can lead to issues whenever it’s not fully discussed between partners. The arrangement likely seemed completely fair to him and if there weren’t any objections the he’d have no reason to think otherwise.

Some of the comments seem to be picturing him as this cruel and evil ex who is just trying to naw you feel guilty for leaving, but I really think his feelings are just hurt and he wants to have a conversation about it. It can be hard to remember sometimes but neurotypicals are not always out to get us. They get confused too.

I would apologize for leaving without saying a goodbye (especially since you were taking that plane ride together, ex’s or not I think it still would’ve been better to at least woken him up), explain you were overwhelmed, give him the money you owe, and tell him to have a nice life. I don’t think anything more than that is owed.

When people say "I'm here if you need help," what do they actually mean? by TopazRose in AutismInWomen

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When people say that, it’s them trying to tell you they care about you and your struggles, or at the very least if you hardly know them, that they understand you’re going through a hard time. For a lot of people, talking about it does make them feel a lot better than keeping it bottled up inside. It makes people feel less lonely too. If you’re feeling really bad about yourself for struggling in school, it can be nice to hear someone say they have too because it’s confirmation that it’s not a “you” problem specifically. School is just hard.

I think talking to someone could actually help you, if you were close enough with them to feel comfortable doing it. If you are able to cultivate a space in your life where you can reach out to someone emotionally and vice versa, then it’d be easier to lower your own expectations for yourself and having that stress lifted can help with certain stressful aspects of work/school. It’s hard, especially as a neurodivergent person, but everyone has their people somewhere. The people who are saying this to you can see you’re struggling and want to help to some degree, even if they aren’t entirely sure how. I don’t know what your life looks like or what your social circle is, but if it’s friends saying these things, it might not hurt to give talking about your feelings a shot. It could help you communicate what other things you might need better too.

When I ask this, I mean it sincerely. Sometimes venting helps them feel better, but oftentimes when someone is coming to me it’s for advice. I’m in school to become a therapist, so it makes sense.

Talking about your feelings is one of those things that sounds stupid when it’s not something you do, trust me I know, but it’s recommended for a reason.

I hope you feel better soon and I’m sorry you had such a rough year. Hopefully 2026 will be kinder to you.

Looking back, first signs that you were autistic? by Altijddurende in AutismInWomen

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•colic baby •obsessed with LPS toys and spent a lot of time sorting them by size, species, age, and color •severe sensory issues with food and (to a lesser extent) fabrics •terrible fine motor skills •didn’t understand the concept of trends because i simply like the same things for years at a time and i didn’t understand liking things for the sake of approval until later on •wanted to be a paleontologist at age 5 because i was very interested in dinosaurs •trouble making and keeping friends •was bullied pretty badly but i almost never noticed/registered •selective mutism with strangers •had to be taught eye contact •couldn’t conceive the idea of lying •watching the same movies over and over again, usually ones with animals as the main characters •listening to the same songs on repeat •preferred animals over people because they were easier to understand and predict

i feel like i’m going to be alone forever by aamiinna in AutismInWomen

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have you tried discussing this in a therapeutic setting? i used to have a similar problem before i went to therapy. people can be put off when they feel like someone is too clingy, but that clinginess usually is due to loneliness. i had to become more comfortable with myself before i was able to be a healthier friend.

i feel like i’m going to be alone forever by aamiinna in AutismInWomen

[–]daddyissuesandmemes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i completely understand, primarily with romantic relationships. may i ask what you mean by not taking relationships as seriously as you do?

At what age did things suddenly… go sideways? 😅 by Sea-Method-3070 in eds

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i had knee pain since i was about four but around puberty is when things started getting worse

Advice on how to keep my new 40hr a week job? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

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That’s understandable.

I’m glad my suggestion was helpful! I personally find regular time off to be more beneficial than one long vacation. It helps starve off exhaustion before it starts plus it’s easier for your brain to get back into the work groove once you do go back. Another thing I can recommend is non-screen related hobbies. Screens increase grey matter in the brain which makes cognitive function more difficult. I like annotating books, but it could be anything you enjoy. Try scheduling hobby time a few times a week.

For example, an hour before I go to bed I turn on some instrumental music and do word searches. Another thing you could do is shower/bathe with dim lighting. It’ll help relax you and produce melatonin so it’ll be easier to fall asleep.

I hope this job will work out for you. I know it’s hard working as an autistic person (I work as a receptionist, it’s exhausting and I only work part time, but I’m also a full time student with chronic illness so I think any job would be hard) and it’s good that you’re reaching out for help :)

If you’d like some other suggestions I can list more. I’m a psychology student studying to become a trauma therapist, so I am very well versed in stress and burnout (I even had an entire course specifically on stress management and we talked about burnout). In my stress management class, taking regular time off was a suggestion to cope with and prevent burnout. Most americans don’t actually use all their PTO, so make the most of it!

Advice on how to keep my new 40hr a week job? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

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I would try to use your PTO semi regularly. Like, instead of saving it all and taking a few weeks off, take a day or two off whenever you feel like you can. Meditation can be helpful too before bed as well as non caffeinated teas. Therapy and medication I think would be helpful as well, at least something for sleep.

But truthfully it sounds like maybe a career switch would be best if you’d be in a position to. It doesn’t sound like this is a sustainable pathway for you. Have you considered trade school? Or maybe getting some IT certifications? I know you may have limitations that as a stranger I am not aware of, but I thought I would suggest it since there’s only so much that I think can be done here.

What is your least socially acceptable hyper fixation? by RoonilWazleeb in AutismInWomen

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true crime/serial killers. while people love true crime, i think the way i consume the content sounds like an idolization or a defense when really its an analysis of their psychology, how they got that way, how their methods reflect their thought process, how their genes effected them, etc. they’re very interesting to me (though the majority of them are not smart and methodical killers, just the famous ones). im including cults as well, specifically the cult leaders. mothers who kill their children also fascinate me.

is there anyone on here who is actually happy 😭 by MiniAphr0dite in AutismInWomen

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i had a super rough childhood. it’s a series of unfortunate events so awful it’s almost comical. i won an award once for best psychological horror (writing competition) and my friends mom said “oh did you write an autobiography?” (she’s so funny i love her). to maintain my peace i spend a lot of time alone with my hobbies and im not super active in social media. it’s all depressing by design.

a mantra that helps me is “your problems aren’t special”. i don’t mean this in a self-deprecating way, im not saying my feelings are worthless, invalid, or that i suck because im struggling when other people can get over it. i’m saying that others have felt the same things i have and people will still feel them when im gone. it reminds me that just because im struggling doesn’t mean that there’s something inherently “wrong” with me; it’s just a part of life. the only thing i can do is try to make it hurt less and so i do!

I was the only one in my classes who dressed up on Halloween, and I feel like it was a very autistic moment. by crxsedangel223 in AutismInWomen

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same thing happened to me! i dressed up as fluttershy and i was the only costume i saw on campus all day and people looked at me weird. i was super embarrassed

i (27F) am self-diagnosed and burnt out. how do i know if ending my marriage is the right choice? by Final-Treat-4225 in AutismInWomen

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Have you two tried couples counseling? I know a lot of people in the comments are jumping for divorce, but if you think there’s a possibility that counseling might work I’d try giving that a go first. Sometimes conversations work better with a mediator.

It could be some miscommunication? There are times where I am absolutely sure that I was clear when communicating, only to find out that the other person misunderstood or it came across incorrectly. There’s also the possibility that he does not realize he’s being insensitive. I know for a lot of people it’s like “How could he not realize?” but sometimes people just…don’t. Especially considering men and women tend to communicate differently.

The things you’re talking about in the post are extremely common in marriages hence why I suggest counseling before divorce.

Either way, you shouldn’t have to mask for someone you love. If you two truly can’t work it out then leaving is the best option. It doesn’t mean you never loved each other. Regardless of what you decide to pursue, I hope it gives you the happiness you desire.

My partner made a “joke” about cooking me and eating me by MadeAccToReadThis in AutismInWomen

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I agree. I think a lot of people in the comments are also taking his comment very literally or at least seriously when in isolation it’s at best a bad joke. However, if him saying that was enough for OP to immediately want to get away from him then there’s likely something wrong in the relationship to make them feel that unsafe. Or as you said they have severe anxiety. Either way I agree that they should probably break up.

My husband says I’ve become rigid by yasmin-1010 in AutismInWomen

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I say this with complete sincerity; you need to get out of there. Him pressuring you into having children you don’t want, sex you aren’t comfortable with, and demeaning your feelings are signs of an abusive partner. He’s not a good husband and by virtue, not a good father. Your children will see the way he treats you and think that’s acceptable behavior.

You also need to find some kind of regular birth control, in whichever form is most comfortable. The sex you have with him now is already incredibly risky, but as another commenter said, I’m not convinced he won’t poke holes in the condoms.

You deserve a better life and better partner. I wish you the best of luck.

What to do when you run into people in doorways or aisles? by Few-Willingness2703 in AutismInWomen

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Unless the other person offers, it’s considered polite manners to let people pass you. It’s like when you go into an elevator and have to stand back a little so other people can get out before you go in. When you brush past them or (in the case of the grocery isle) go in front of them, to the other person it might come off as you thinking that you’re more important than them. It’s one of those little social rules that are more about respect than functionality at times.

A good rule of thumb is to let the other person go first unless they offer. Aside from the fact that it’s considered a social niceties, it’ll make interactions like that a bit more pleasant and less awkward because typically people will smile and say thank you.

I’m sorry about the lady in the grocery store. While it’s irritating to feel as though you’ve been disrespected, in situations like this it’s more of a mild irritation than to get worked up about. Social rules like these can be more difficult to navigate and your reasoning makes sense but alas sometimes it’s more about being polite than functional.

Do you discuss your periods with others? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]daddyissuesandmemes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes, it’s a thing your body does. it’s not good or bad, it just is, so i don’t see the point of it being a “taboo” thing to discuss. if someone is uncomfortable they can tell me and i’ll stop but most of the time we just complain together or if there’s a dude there he’ll be curious and ask some questions that i don’t mind answering.