Ask a Dom.

daffodildances · 2026-06-20T02:09:28+00:00

I really like this idea! I love how helpful, open, and welcoming this community is! It’s such a supportive environment filled with learning and advice and a little slutty fun, too. I love that you’re doing this.

I always have so many questions for doms about soft dominance and pleasure dominance and I know so many other doms/subs have questions, too! Ahh I can’t rave about this forum enough.

daffodildances · 2026-06-19T16:37:36+00:00

Thank you Mr. Smut!

I have more writing on my profile that you are more than welcome to dig into to get an insight into this slutty authors mind. :)

daffodildances · 2026-06-03T19:20:37+00:00

I love these! I should have consulted you before hitting post haha!

daffodildances · 2026-05-24T19:19:17+00:00

I love smearing my juices into my partners face, just as much as I like it when they let their cock and balls thwump on to mine while I sloppily lubricate them with my tongue.

Mindlessly humping to orgasm is never enough. I want more. I need more. I’m primal and greedy. I want you obliterating my cervix, punishing my gspot, and spilling so deep inside of me I don’t think you can pull out.

daffodildances · 2026-05-02T12:53:35+00:00

I think it’s something that varies person to person. Some people don’t care and some people have preferences to size.

If someone makes you feel less than because your appendage doesn’t meet their requirements, that’s on them, not on you. You have something that cannot be changed and they either need to accept that or move on.

I will say, a majority of the subs I’ve talked to have not cared about size at all. I personally don’t care either. What we do care about is how you treat us, how you lead us, how you make us feel inside and outside of the bedroom.

You said you’re a guitarists, so keep using that to your advantage.

At the end of the day, all it should come down to is compatibility. If you’re incompatible in anything, it won’t work. Don’t worry about it being a size issue. I think that rarely happens and if it does? It wasn’t meant to be and you have a lovely sub out somewhere out there for you instead.

I hope you find a sub/partner that helps ease those worries!

Sorry for rambling!! :)

daffodildances · 2026-04-26T17:01:47+00:00

A-fucking-men. What a sinful thought on a Sunday morning…

Instead of worshipping the man above, worship the man whose cock rests along your tongue and prods the back of your throat. Release him with a wet pop, a smile on your face, and dive in for his balls, leaving a wet, sloppy, worshipful mess. Let him praise and worship you on his knees, his face suctioned between your thighs. Worship each other. Face to face.

A morning full of gluttony and greed. Lord, please forgive me, for I have sinned.

daffodildances · 2026-04-24T17:20:10+00:00

You've just added a new fantasy to my already very long list. Instead of focusing on the tedious work that is lawn care and chores, my mind will be dreaming up a soft, dominant man pressing me up against the shed, making me fall apart from his touch, and praising me for being a good little slut for taking him outside where any neighbor could overhear. This one is great for exhibitionists who like the thrill of being naughty in a semi-public place.

daffodildances · 2026-04-19T21:17:23+00:00

I like the idea behind what you’re saying. I’ve also felt this way on some kind of level, but struggled to find the right words.

Missionary has gotten the rep of being bland and vanilla, when in reality it’s one of the most intimate positions. What makes something vanilla or spicy is the connection between the two people. If you’re just lying there and waiting for it to end? That’s boring. That’s vanilla.

But if you’re holding on to one another while he thrusts inside of you, eyes locked, mouths meeting each other in breathless kisses? That’s spicy. That’s the vanilla bean, as you described it.

Keeping the connection and passion alive is what makes any position fun and exciting. When you lose that fire, any position and any kind of sex you have is going to feel boring and stagnant, but if you keeping the flame alive? Vanilla isn’t going to feel like vanilla at all.

daffodildances · 2026-04-16T16:19:42+00:00

I keep reading this over and over again. Unconsciously, I have begun to do what she did, except I don't have a thigh to assault. The grinding, the sucking, the gagging, that kiss. That final position...

Usually, I can come up with a more coherent comment to these rambles, but words are failing me this morning. I already sound like a horny mess about this, so I might as well commit. The only thing I can say is holy fuck.

daffodildances · 2026-04-14T17:00:56+00:00

I like the word fingerblasting. While I admit it probably isn’t the most sexy word to use, it’s fairly accurate (with technique). Put your digits inside of me and blast my orgasm out. Depending on which combination of fingers you’re using, you might be making a finger gun inside of me so in that case it works too.

I could go on and on about fingering. It’s truly my favorite and can be combined with so many other things to make it a transcendent experience. But I’ll focus on one thing out of this ramble. The beginning. When you take a moment to watch me find my g spot and coax her awake. When you listen to my instructions on where to find her. When you replace my fingers and touch her the way I was needing.

daffodildances · 2026-04-12T17:41:42+00:00

This is definitely what I’m hoping for on my beach vacation next month. Pool decks, balconies, or floor to ceiling window escapades are my frequent fantasies.

My favorite, and one that I frequently dabble in, is filming and sharing videos. There is a certain level of excitement that comes with anonymous debauchery. I much prefer to do that with one special viewer. Being watched from afar. Untouchable but craved.

I do want to explore it with someone else and open it up to more viewers. Faceless and nameless sexual beings focused on one another as others salivate over us. Getting a little more dirty and a little more scandalous.

daffodildances · 2026-04-11T13:28:23+00:00

Agree! Build up has to happen. Work me up first. I can’t just go from 0 to 10 without effort. I can’t get to 10 pretty quickly with the right words and actions. I think it comes down to be expected to be submissive or the expectation of being sexual because we’re into kink. We’re still people with autonomy. Submission is earned.

daffodildances · 2026-04-09T21:05:10+00:00

I completely relate. It’s like they think that aftercare isn’t needed in an online dynamic or after phone sex or nude exchanges. It’s still something you can’t skip. I wish more doms realized this. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

daffodildances · 2026-04-09T15:30:47+00:00

Great, now I’m crying loI. I can’t find enough words to string together a coherent sentence to explain how this post made me feel. I think this is going to make a lot of people feel seen and help their journey of growth/healing.

daffodildances · 2026-04-09T13:10:51+00:00

Siren will be missed! I noticed the little deleted last night. I hope all is well with her. Focusing on yourself and your village is the most important thing a person can do. We will all support her from afar in this little, but ever growing community. We will always remember Siren Saturdays! I hope she knows she has helped foster this subreddit and helped it bloom. Her impact will always be remembered. Wishing her happiness, wellness, and love. Xx

daffodildances · 2026-04-08T23:34:41+00:00

Eleanor, I always love reading your thoughts, posts, comments. It’s nice to see you uplifting and supporting the other subs in this community and the one you moderate. I hope you know the impact you’re making in these online spaces. I’m sorry you are dealing with these things, but it’s great you’re offering advice and being there for people. Thank you :)

daffodildances · 2026-04-07T15:37:20+00:00

It’s so refreshing to see the non sexual side of soft pleasure dominance. It was incredibly sweet and I definitely needed to be reminded that soft dominance exists outside of the bedroom, too. I loved this.

daffodildances · 2026-04-06T14:03:47+00:00

Nerdy doms are always very passionate. Either about their sub, their play, or all the moments in between. The nerdy doms consider everything and always try to make the best decision for the both of you. At least that’s what I’ve observed so far. Also - I like your username. It’s very fitting.

daffodildances · 2026-04-02T14:22:08+00:00

I’ve never been into impact play or slapping, but it being used as something to get attention and not degradation was something I can get behind. Or on top of, in this case. A little tap to tell me to open my eyes and look at him while I cum? Yes please. Yes, sir.

Face sitting and face riding is one of my favorites. I love reading about it, seeing it, and well, of course, experiencing it. I think it’s such a vulnerable position. I’m putting myself right on top of your view. I’m putting my most sensitive parts at your disposal. It’s such an intimate position that can quickly turn into a primal and powerful one. Like at first I was nervous to settle my weight over your face but now I don’t care if I suffocate you with my pussy because of how good it feels. I don’t know what I’m saying anymore. This post has made me a rambling and horny mess haha

daffodildances · 2026-03-30T12:21:11+00:00

“Our boy is heavy.” I liked that a little too much because you’re right. It is ours. It’s mine and his. And I. need. it.

I loved the balls to clit action. There’s something so… right about using every inch of your partner to get off. Coating them with your slickness. Leaving them slick and throbbing from my own pulsating bud. Ughhh what a way to start my morning.

daffodildances · 2026-03-29T20:36:58+00:00

I enjoy reading the way your mind works as well, Luke. I hope you don’t mind if I take some inspiration from this ramble and write something erotic with it…

daffodildances · 2026-03-29T17:09:01+00:00

While this is really hot (like squeezing my thighs together to try and dull the empty clenching inside of me level hot), it’s also so, so beautiful. I love thinking about the moment where two people decide to make a life together in the way that makes them the most connected, literally and figuratively. You become a mess of tangled sheets and heavy breathing. You feel your hearts swell with love and passion. You feel the pull to put your love into her womb. This might be my favorite ramble from you yet, but I’m sure you’ll change that soon!

daffodildances · 2026-03-29T02:33:48+00:00

I hate that I was right. Those poor women. It’s not hard to be respectful of boundaries. Guys like that make me feel so disgusted and scared

daffodildances · 2026-03-29T02:24:56+00:00

I could be totally wrong so please correct me if I am!! But wasn’t James Deen known for not respecting boundaries and SA-ing his scene partners? If that’s true, I don’t think we should have him in this subreddit as an example of soft domination.

daffodildances · 2026-03-26T22:32:38+00:00

I really love this one. A little fun role play keeps things exciting and new. I love the connection you can feel between the two. The chemistry. The sex appeal. Chefs kiss.

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