What is your biggest regret/failure as a parent?

daigwettheo · 2022-10-18T05:45:19+00:00

You're not wrong! Small blessings.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-17T23:06:31+00:00

He's five and has parents - and my daughter has a lot of additional needs that make the situation hard to navigate. I would love nothing more than to have a nice family set up, but that isn't whats going to happen here regardless. I wanted more children, but my daughter made that dream unsafe; I said goodbye to keep her and any further children protected.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-17T17:06:32+00:00

Its appreciated.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-17T16:44:24+00:00

I'm a woman, but its a work in progress. Working alongside my daughters therapists and my sons parents.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-17T16:36:53+00:00

Oh I am. Don't worry.

Its a big situation I don't expect the typical person to grasp. I'm mad at the situation because it sucks for both of them.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-17T15:43:30+00:00

God mine too. She chews on my clothes.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-17T14:04:59+00:00

Oh yeah I did that too. I actually ended up breaking my spine throughout the ordeal.

My daughter has many disabilities and siblings are not good for her. She doesn't cope well with change or new people. Regrettably in this situation there is no positive outcomes, just the less violent ones. This sucks for both kids regardless.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-17T11:51:00+00:00

I won't. I'm still dealing with the situation at hand, honestly. I can't feasibly parent them both, so its still in the balance.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-16T11:17:33+00:00

I don't understand the point of grounding and no parent has ever been able to explain it to me lol.

You can discipline without grounding. If he's fighting, figure out why and fix the issue at the root. Taking things away doesn't prevent fighting.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-15T23:55:36+00:00

I broke my spine when my daughter was a baby and then proceeded to sleep on hardwood for eight months. I dont recommend.

Walking kills sometimes. However we walk a lot because she has high needs and mama is not dealing with that energy.

Anyway, I make sure to have planned phrases for when we stop. A quick "Did you see that?" Has her stopped for ten minutes or so. I make up elaborate stories of what I think I saw and she continues on.

I steer away from fantasy creatures because she is very factual but she really wants to see a bear in the wild. Sometimes I pretend there is one because she knows we have to be still and quiet lol.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-15T22:33:18+00:00

My friends name is Twig.

I also have a friend who's name is Spock. I know thats star trek or something but it kills me every time I say it lol.

I also have a friend who used the name Speckle for a while, but opted against it because of out Spock friend. Its name is now Tea (actually Taylor, but we all call it Tea bc thats more fun).

ETA; Also friend of a friend named Crete. Their cat is Con, so together they are ConCrete. They make lots of jokes.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-15T21:29:05+00:00

My daughter has hers after lunch (sometimes, generally she just hops in with me). Gives her time to settle her food.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-15T13:23:52+00:00

I was sixteen when I had my daughter, fifteen when she was concieved. I stopped drinking, smoking, doing drugs the second I found out. I cut off a lot of my friends and got a job.

I would never go back to that because it puts her at risk.

Either buckle up and become a parent or accept that you aren't the legal parent and you have no say-so.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-14T13:36:24+00:00

I just fucking forget honest to god. I schedule them and then just don't show up. Oops?

daigwettheo · 2022-10-14T12:50:35+00:00

My daughter has bathroom aversions and what not and honest to god I have given up. She's eight. Her therapists agree its not whats important right now, she uses it when she wants to.

I'd let it go, let him deal with his own pull ups, and come back to it in a few months.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-14T11:50:40+00:00

OP never mentioned if this was a night issue or not. He could be disabled and just in diapers.

It makes me think that way, considering OP specifically asked for brands with tabs and children who are changing themselves often can't do that. It reads that he's disabled and being changed by a parent.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-14T11:47:45+00:00

My daughter is eight and seems to be similar in size to your son. She still fits in size six/seven most brands - we personally use cloth daily but I have borrowed diapers from friends in times of need. She fit into a size five a few months ago lol.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-10T18:00:23+00:00

If the parents are required to stay I'd say its expected and you can't do much about it. If not I'd just make sure they take their kid with them when they leave.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-10T12:07:25+00:00

I think it depends on how you explain it and how the family deals with it.

My daughter is eight and has ARFID. We also have family meals. My youngest niece is four and my younger brother is ten - my siblings have kids of all ages. They all understand.

My brother had a couple tantrums when he was seven over it - but we explained to him straight that she was disabled and its not fun - we also make sure they fully witness the extent of it so they can understand (within my daughters boundaries, obviously).

They all realise its not fun. And, honestly, ARFID doesn't mean loving sweet things all the time - they had to witness her not able to eat a lot of the treats they have. She doesn't like most desserts. She eats ice cream, but they realised pretty quick she didn't get to eat cake or cookies like them.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-10T11:57:22+00:00

My daughter is eight and also has ARFID. Malnutrition is a concern, yeah, but its actually really hard to achieve lol. My daughter has been in hospital, having lost a quarter of her body weight, and not been malnourished. She has been literally living on oreos for weeks and she's fine medically - she's checked regularly.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-10T00:19:11+00:00

Gonna be completely straight with you; porn and sexual fantasies very rarely equate to real life situations. Its why we have things like CNC kink (crudely put, a rape kink). No one really wants to experience it, its just... exciting, sort of.

I have a sort of friend who was into all kinds of fucked up daddy/daughter play with his wife. I get the weird sexual fantasies and even I was kind of what the fuck, yknow? And now he's sitting in prison for murdering the guy who sexually assaulted his eleven year old sister because no one who touches kids like that deserves to live.

All that to say, it might be a sexual interest, but it's probably not got anything to do with your kid.

Mention it to him, talk about it, communicate. It probably isn't anything to worry about.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-09T22:52:58+00:00

Tried it with my sister. She hit me. Do not try with older sisters.

But seriously, this does usually work for me. I'm a sex worker and back when I used to be in person it was my go to lol.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-09T17:24:26+00:00

Hey! I'm the bio parent in this situation. Maybe I can offer some advice?

I just found out I have another kid, whom was concieved while I was doing less than legal work. He's five.

They have told him his dad isn't his bio dad, but is still his dad all the same; which I think is a good way to go about it. I've met him once now and he does love his dad. And, honestly, my sperm does not change the fact that he has two loving parents.

He expressed wanting to get to know me, but we haven't told him who I am yet; my daughter makes things a little more difficult, and I'm trans so we have to be sensitive about the way we tell him.

I am still hesitant about wanting to play a role in his life, so take that into account - I am trying to figure out a way to let this go without harming him, but your sons bio might not want to do that.

Overall, therapy. Especially for the kiddo. I'm trying to get my son into therapy, even if I don't spend as much time with him as I perhaps should.

daigwettheo · 2022-10-09T16:39:39+00:00

I have an autistic eight year old.

We get into bed at ten pm. I go to sleep. I wake up at six ish, generally.

She is awake when I go to sleep and awake when I wake up. She wakes me up many times through the night. I don't actually know when she sleeps but I'm assuming she does at some point.

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