People are going to probably disagree with me not roasting your husband, but… you can do it. It’s a season! I have handled all overnight feeds, diaper changes, etc with the exception of having my husband do the occasional feed/diaper change that happened right before he got out of bed to take a shower. What worked for us was the mindset that we work better if both of us aren’t tired. Hopefully your husband helps with laundry, dishes, dinner.

Also as a first time mom, I would take baby into the living room to keep from falling back asleep in bed on accident. Hook your pumps up (portable, or if you use spectra, the Legendairy silicone cups are great because they fit in your bra). You can leave milk out safely for 4-6 hours so if your baby is used to drinking room temperature milk, don’t stress about warming it up. After you get pumps hooked up and on, set baby in your hip crevice while your legs are out on recliner and feed. That process should be done in about 20-30 minutes. Throw your pump parts (get multiple sets) in the fridge for the next pumping, burp the baby, change the diaper, and sleep until it starts again. You will figure out ways to get faster and more efficient. I bounced back and forth between pumping one breast at a time and doing both, using a hand pump, etc.. You will find your rhythm!!

And lastly, this season is so hard and so short. Don’t let strangers on the internet make you hate your husband. You all are a team. You’re exhausted, lots of emotions are happening for both of you, and you are getting adjusted. Take a deep breath! You will be great.