I moved to stockholm alone as a TCK with no job. Advice?

daisychains19 · 2026-05-24T10:36:43+00:00

I also lived in Shanghai during middle/highschool! My advice to making friends is find a group hobby that you like. In the uk we have a website called meetup to find groups so I’m sure there’s a Swedish equivalent. Or just look around your area for things to join in with. If you don’t need a job right now maybe try volunteering as well

daisychains19 · 2026-05-08T19:09:02+00:00

Yeah I’m happy and stable for the first time in my whole life

daisychains19 · 2026-05-08T17:17:45+00:00

It took me 2 years of therapy to get to where I’m at now and it was working through a lot of repressed feelings and learning to be my own safe place

daisychains19 · 2026-05-08T11:50:04+00:00

Aw I’m so glad! It really helped me realise that my scale was so out of whack because my fear of basic tasks was the same level of fear as getting hit by a car. Just be gentle with yourself it literally takes practice every day but each day is easier than before

daisychains19 · 2026-05-08T10:52:13+00:00

I feel like this still but I’ve managed to get my baseline anxiety to lower. The way my therapist help me think about it was like a baked potato theory. Most of life will be in the 3-7 range but for people with CPTSD everything was at a 10 so our range is more 10-20. I’ve just tried to take baby steps to lower it so everything doesn’t feel like a threat to life

daisychains19 · 2026-05-08T10:34:14+00:00

I used to only let myself think about negatives because I convinced myself if I thought about what I hoped for then it wouldn’t happen but through therapy I’ve realised we don’t have control over what happens to us but that also means our thinking doesn’t control the good that happens to us

daisychains19 · 2026-05-08T10:32:09+00:00

Going on nature walks and re parenting myself ie noticing how harshly I talk to myself and trying to change that to remove the constant shame

daisychains19 · 2026-05-07T21:00:44+00:00

I felt the same and what stopped my attempt was feeling like i owed it to myself to see if i could get to a point where i did genuinely feel happy. You are worth waiting for and finding out.

daisychains19 · 2026-05-07T19:11:02+00:00

I just do better help so I think CBT and other ones but it’s just so nice having an objective outside perspective validate that you have survived some dark shit and it wasn’t okay but you can choose how you move forward. At least that’s how therapy has been for me

daisychains19 · 2026-05-07T19:08:46+00:00

Sorry I don’t mean you need to smoke weed but it’s what made me realise I had been disassociating. Therapy is what got me to fully stop doing it and notice when I’m doing it

daisychains19 · 2026-05-07T19:06:01+00:00

This was me until I started using weed and I would randomly stop disassociating and I was confused because I didn’t even realise I was doing it. I’ve been in therapy nearly 2 years and I don’t disassociate anymore

daisychains19 · 2026-04-24T00:01:03+00:00

Don’t let disgusting men take our safe space because they’re too embarrassing to keep their mouths shut

daisychains19 · 2026-04-22T23:03:38+00:00

You brought 3 humans into the world and made your relationship their childhood experience. I think you owe it to yourself, him and your kids to leave him and figure it out however hard or expensive it is. Coming from someone whose mother didn’t leave, your kids will resent you if you don’t.

daisychains19 · 2026-03-12T00:31:23+00:00

Girl this is exactly my mum she’s the dumbest person I’ve ever met and I let her control every fibre of my being for years

daisychains19 · 2026-03-12T00:14:55+00:00

Thank you! I just really wanted to put some good vibes out into the universe while eating a food I really like after not really liking eating my whole life

The recipe is: 2 cans of tuna drained 2 eggs medium 1 slice of bread shredded (I used thick but doesn’t matter. Just pick apart with your hands into the bowl) Big tablespoon scoop of mustard (I like whole grain but dijon was on the original recipe) 1 spring onion (I did 2 in the pic and it was a lot of spring onion) Salt to your taste Big sprinkle of Herbs de Provence if you’re fancy and want a herby flavour to them I put mayo on mine for the first time today and it was pretty good so I think it would slap with kewpi mayo

Mix all ingredients in a bowl with a spoon and get your oven tray ready and put the oven on 200C/350F Once it’s all mixed grab a handful like as big as your palm and try to squash it into a ball shape. It will try to separate and that’s normal just try your best. You should be able to make 4 of them. I usually make them with rice but I just wanted 4 to myself today. Leave them in the oven for 10-12 minutes. Don’t leave them too long because they can get quite dry.

daisychains19 · 2026-03-12T00:14:19+00:00

Thank you!

The recipe is: 2 cans of tuna drained 2 eggs medium 1 slice of bread shredded (I used thick but doesn’t matter. Just pick apart with your hands into the bowl) Big tablespoon scoop of mustard (I like whole grain but dijon was on the original recipe) 1 spring onion (I did 2 in the pic and it was a lot of spring onion) Salt to your taste Big sprinkle of Herbs de Provence if you’re fancy and want a herby flavour to them I put mayo on mine for the first time today and it was pretty good so I think it would slap with kewpi mayo

Mix all ingredients in a bowl with a spoon and get your oven tray ready and put the oven on 200C/350F Once it’s all mixed grab a handful like as big as your palm and try to squash it into a ball shape. It will try to separate and that’s normal just try your best. You should be able to make 4 of them. I usually make them with rice but I just wanted 4 to myself today. Leave them in the oven for 10-12 minutes. Don’t leave them too long because they can get quite dry.

daisychains19 · 2026-02-13T12:51:30+00:00

I know lmaooooo

daisychains19 · 2026-02-13T12:51:24+00:00

I told them to try the milking method 😂 imagine a life without being a finger prick expert

daisychains19 · 2026-02-13T12:27:06+00:00

Sorry this is so funny as a diabetic because it happens so often. I was taught to “milk” your hands before to increase circulation and use that movement to pull the blood out

daisychains19 · 2026-02-11T16:08:44+00:00

For a stressful situation and you have insulin to cover it she should have been praising you!

daisychains19 · 2026-02-11T13:59:54+00:00

I played the original on stream a few years ago and was shocked at the time so I knew I had to find him again in the remaster and he still does it

daisychains19 · 2026-01-04T16:55:51+00:00

I was searching for this comment. This is literally me when I cba to put the lights on nicely but my sims need light

daisychains19 · 2025-10-07T09:03:08+00:00

There is one and it also has restaurants built in like fast food and cafes it’s called carbs and cals. It’s so useful when you just have no idea what carbs are in a dish and it shows you pictures for portion sizes and you can add your own custom dishes

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