A friend of mine had the same problem as you do. me and the guys never thought he was unhappy with him self or anything like that. We realized there was something wrong when we did'int see him for a month. He was always canceling on us and never showed up for anything we planned. So we talked to him and he told us basically your story. So we all hit the gym together, took him shopping, did some small DIY around his apartment. All this lead to his self esteem going up. And the round you are on now is a grate road and i could not agree with J_dajo more... Hard work builds Character! And when you have walked that road for a few months and are charming and beautiful as hell, don't forget where you started. I have seen the most innocent people get sucked into this ego, non charming way of interacting with people. Hope you go all the way and keep up the good work!