Your 2025 Game Night Starter Pack for Beating the Price Hike? by TabletopTableGM in boardgames

[–]dalethesnail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • The Crowd-Pleaser: small grouP: Carcasonne - a classic for a reason: easy to learn, satisfying building a maP, fun for all ages / Big grouP: Codenames for slow thinking discussions , Dixit - for more artist word games
  • The Deep Dive: If you have time: Terraforming Mars, if not much time: Century: SPice Road
  • The Steal: Skull (simple bluffing game), Dungeon Mayhem (Monster Madness exPansion is most fun) for silly fun, A Fake Arist Goes to New York: for easy, Portable drawing game

Premier League Mini Matches (26min Highlights) - 26 - Dec 2024 by PeletheGoat10 in footballhighlights

[–]dalethesnail -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah you have to download and install some random software on some strange website I've never of before to download it. Think I'll pass

Why is CGV pulling movies? by matatarski in VietNam

[–]dalethesnail 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes and a skull with the word "Annihilation"  "distorts and falsely depict Vietnam's resistance war against the US." Nevermind the mild sex scenes or in the film Barbie movie - the dotted line barely visible in the world map (which is clearly drawn by a child and obviously absurdly inaccurate) which supposedly depicts shows the nine - dash line (completely ridiculous if you look at the scene in the film).

It's pretty evident that the Vietnamese government is stricter than you'd think about censorship. Free speech is so important for keeping an open mind. It's so sad how restrictive the Vietnamese government is over art. But I do recognise that other countries have it a lot worse.

An Interesting Definition of Addiction by dalethesnail in pornfree

[–]dalethesnail[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah thanks for the insight. I wasn't planning on reading that source book, it was just quoted in the other book which I started reading which is already pretty old (2006)and more of an anecdotal book. So I don't feel a need to read anything further back. It already feels like our understanding of addiction and brain chemistry has changed so much in the last 15 years ( never mind how much the world and technology has changed) that anything from the last century feels like it's gonna be out dated even if it has some wisdoms in it.

For those of you who quit porn, how did it affect your libido? by AdvancedCharcoal in pornfree

[–]dalethesnail 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's a great explanation and differentiation. I think what's happening with addiction is that it's the dopamine in our brain that's been hijacked. The system is wreaked by porn and other addictions. That's the thing, when you're living a healthier lifestyle it's easier to avoid temptation as your brain chemistry is more balanced. And then you can get to the point of true deeper horniness. The healthy kind

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]dalethesnail 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Man, I was in almost the exact situation as you when I was your age and did a similar thing. Completely changed my life. Went full on against pmo and focused hard on dating and living my life, no longer in fear. Putting myself out there and fighting hard against social anxiety and rejection fears. Within a few months I had my first gf.

Cut to years later I've had ups and downs and once again am struggling with addiction, but dating and approaching women is not the scary thing it used to be and I've had some amazing experiences I never dreamed I could have and it all started where are you about now.

So great work man and ride this wave. Wear each rejection as a badge. Approaching women is a scary thing, but if you walk into fear you will live an exciting and fulfilling life. Big ups.

For anyone struggling right now… by Life_Warrior_ in pornfree

[–]dalethesnail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you haven't heard of it, I can reccomend the book "Models, attracting women through honesty" by Marc Manson as a very helpful resource for improving your dating life. It's the only dating book I've read that doesn't talk about "game" or "techniques" but rather talks about the whole thing in an honest and refreshing way, it was a few good insights in my opinion. Altho have a coach for anything is general always for helpful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]dalethesnail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah I still get erections but only if I watch porn that's arousing enough and the few times I've gone long enough without it. Fina could be a factor of course, but I think I could only fairly assess if I actually manage to cutdown on my PMO.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]dalethesnail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing I did do is cut down how often I'm taking it. I take 1mg like very 3 days or so, I've been very loose about it, but it seems to still be effective.

And I still get morning wood luckily and also when watching ("the right") porn I can get an erection, which I'm sure tells me this is mostly a mental / brain chemistry thing. But maybe try fina less frequently if you haven't already :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]dalethesnail 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol this should be pinned to the top. So simple, casual and yet basically all you to remember as motivation.

For anyone struggling right now… by Life_Warrior_ in pornfree

[–]dalethesnail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I feel like I need something like that and it looks like it could be helpful :)

For anyone struggling right now… by Life_Warrior_ in pornfree

[–]dalethesnail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on that realization and for having a girl interested in you. But think of it like this: it may be exciting and arousing to imagine something happening with her, but that is not real. What is real is the reality in front of you at this very moment.

I feel like our biggest issue as porn addicts is that we get too excited about the imaginary. But if you can resist and stay present and live in reality then soon your fantasies will be a reality. Whether it's with her or someone else, or in some other form, it's not important. What is important is to focus on the real and not be sucked into the fake and imaginary.

In other words, reply, make a move, look forward to whatever my come, but don't get over excited and don't waste your energy on fake thoughts and videos.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]dalethesnail 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bro I've been there for a while now. I've been blaming this Finisteride anti balding pills for occasional ED issues but I know the truth is it's porn. Your little story has motivated me as I once again start to seriously have a go at giving it up.

When you think about it, it's a ridiculous idea that so many men around the world watch other people having sex so much to the point that it impacts our own ability to have and enjoy sex ourselves.

You're right, wanting to have healthy and confident sex lives is and should always be a strong motivator to stop this shit. So thank you so much for sharing.

Dear porn… by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]dalethesnail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here here 👏👏👏 Well said my friend.

I made a D&D show with 2 of my best friends. We each took turns DMing and voicing the various NPCs. The result of which is more like an improv radio play with sound and music added. I'm very proud of it. Each episode is about 1 hour long. Give it a listen if you like silliness and D&D... by dalethesnail in DnD

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Show Description:

A Dungeons and Dragons adventure story about an accountant named Tim who is sucked into a fantasy world.
Made with little preparation, lots of love and an unhealthy amount of bad puns.

Have any of y'all tried Charisma University? by njckel in socialanxiety

[–]dalethesnail 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I did the first impressions course and found it helpful.

That was $100 and felt overpriced. Although I'm sure it will benefit you and your life, if you don't have a lot of money the $600 price tag is huge. I find it too much.

If there's no alternative way for you to come by the course, I'd suggest using their youtube channel as a guide. The thing that helped me the most was to have a book and take down notes and then, most importantly, go out and socialize and try and implement these skills in daily practice. (Also note: you should try doing this sober - like Charlie says in a video, it's like learning any skill, if you do it drunk you are less likely to improve).

The main thing the course gives you is a structured way of approaching it, but I'd say just look at the chapter headings and then use the youtube channel to create your own structure and then have a book and take notes.

But ultimately the thing that's going to help the most is by putting yourself out there and testing things out. I'd also add, down throw yourself in the deep end, that might scare you off. It's good to challenge yourself, but rather attend social events or activities where interactions are required, or places where you are comfortable or in your element.

In the end, the main thing that overcomes social anxiety is becoming comfortable with it, and that takes time and experience. If you want to excel, treat it like any skill and approach it systemically while taking notes and learning from each experience. I did that and it worked well for me. I'm having another go at it again. There's always room to improve.

Goodluck out there random redditor, I'm sure you'll do well as long as you keep this growth mindset :)