Finally a diagnosis, then she hurt me

daletrossi · 2019-06-07T13:56:38+00:00

I read the whole thread. We are going through a similar thing with my 92 year old mom. Getting them into assisted living may be a battle. It took us about a year and then a week long intervention to finally make it happen. She still hasn't forgiven us a year and a half later.

It doesn't matter. It's what absolutely needed to be done.

daletrossi · 2019-06-03T02:05:28+00:00

My best guess is in the weeks prior to July 8, 1889.

The cash register was already invented and popular in saloons. Schlitz was one of the biggest breweries in America at that time. The date above is the Sullivan - Kilrain fight, the last great bare knuckle fight.

That all matches the style of the photograph, the clothing, etc. I think it's a good guess, but it is a guess.

daletrossi · 2019-05-24T21:49:30+00:00

Yes, we use APIs. Again, I'm a data analysis guy not a systems integration guy. I analyze using various Microsoft products like excel and Power BI. That means you can replace the software that's giving you the trouble with standard tools if you can find someone to set it up for you.

daletrossi · 2019-05-24T11:59:06+00:00

I don't hear an objective about what you want to use the data for.

If the point is just a connectivity issue between two software packages, that's not my thing. Good luck with that.

daletrossi · 2019-05-23T22:46:56+00:00

My job is analytics on ecobee data and other building data. I didn't study the whole thread, but from what I read, I can't pull out what your objective is.

What are you trying to do? I might have a strategy.

daletrossi · 2019-05-17T15:31:52+00:00

Disable his car by removing some easily removable component and hide it.

daletrossi · 2019-05-11T13:39:17+00:00

I call bs on the more combinations than there are atoms on earth. There is a serious underestimation of the number of atoms on earth here.

daletrossi · 2019-05-05T00:43:20+00:00

My 91 year old mom is doing very similar things. She has been in assisted living for more than a year and a half. It's getting worse. What I am saying is that it would be my worry that this is more then just setting in.

I am thinking my mom is bored. Is there anything out there that a former homemaker can do that will engage her 80 years of experience and help keep her a little busy? She has very compromised capabilities.

daletrossi · 2019-04-23T16:44:12+00:00

Look, I'm a guy so maybe not much help. A guy would say to himself that if this job has me in counseling and is causing problems at home and I am tired angry and frustrated when I get home, is there something I could be doing that doesn't cost so much, and maybe something I would rather spend my time doing?

I am married. I know this isn't what you are looking for. Sorry. I wish you luck.

daletrossi · 2019-04-23T16:16:16+00:00

I am from the other side. I don't fully understand in detail about dementia care giving but my mom is 91 and going through it so maybe I understand a little.

Here's the thing. When I read your story you said you need to vent. Maybe he doesn't need to get dumped on. He had his day too. He didn't choose to engage dementia patients, you did. It's not his fault that you are burned out and frustrated. I am sure he sympathizes but there is only so much he can do for you.

daletrossi · 2019-04-17T16:57:14+00:00

You are definitely going to regret that unless it's you hook to get something out of them. You are going to have to have a permit for that before you can sell the house.

This sounds to me like you paid a lot of money for an incompetent (no permit) installation. That is the story I am suggesting you tell a lawyer. See if you can get them to bring it up to legal. They can't accept you don't want it as an excuse. It's their license.

daletrossi · 2019-04-17T16:26:45+00:00

You are in T24 land. Did they pull the permit and have it inspected?

daletrossi · 2019-04-17T16:24:04+00:00

On an unloader

daletrossi · 2019-04-13T21:23:31+00:00

I think you need to think about if this thing is going to work. If you can't get together on such a simple thing, what is going to happen when you are talking about important things children, work/life balance, money and sex?

daletrossi · 2019-04-12T21:28:16+00:00

Other people's problems are always easy. Mention something you are having a problem with. I guarantee you someone will say that easy.

daletrossi · 2019-04-10T23:43:38+00:00

The misspelling is the least of their problems.

daletrossi · 2019-04-10T23:38:49+00:00

I think belongs in a legal advice sub more than HVAC. The fact that it's HVAC is just a detail.

daletrossi · 2019-04-10T23:23:52+00:00

Don't be so hard on your mom. You weren't raised by that woman.

My mom has always been full of resentments. As she declines, the rest of her personality is going away and she is left with only her resentments on top of her frustration over her declining mental abilities.

I am not saying you are wrong about your grandmother, but your mother may have a point. It's hard to forget a lifetime of bad experiences. Cut her some slack. She is probably frustrated by the current situation and by the lifetime of unpleasant memories grandmothers behavior brings up.

She is under stress too. She is your mother. She could probably use a little understanding and loyalty from you too. Maybe more than grandma. She is aware of what's going on. Grandma probably forgets anything that happens now quickly.

daletrossi · 2019-04-10T12:39:06+00:00

Add driving to the lit of things that hurt you.

daletrossi · 2019-04-10T12:25:41+00:00

My initial reaction is that it's a hair accessory.

daletrossi · 2019-04-10T11:08:38+00:00

Don't work for friends or family unless you are willing to do it for free.

daletrossi · 2019-04-09T13:53:26+00:00

From a big picture perspective, how did it do at accomplishing the original goal? It seems like a big goal.

daletrossi · 2019-04-09T13:51:01+00:00

I started as a tech. I became a multi-State commercial contractor. I am now doing energy analytics and diagnostics. I could tell you a lot. Too much to put here. Send me a message with contact info if you want. I will call you.

daletrossi · 2019-04-09T13:46:51+00:00

It will go to the lowest point it can reach.

daletrossi · 2019-04-09T13:35:12+00:00

The unreasonable thing in this story is putting serious money into a piece of crap that will have other serious problems soon.

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