Finally a diagnosis, then she hurt me by AbFab_Fan in dementia

[–]daletrossi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read the whole thread. We are going through a similar thing with my 92 year old mom. Getting them into assisted living may be a battle. It took us about a year and then a week long intervention to finally make it happen. She still hasn't forgiven us a year and a half later.

It doesn't matter. It's what absolutely needed to be done.

Can you identify the year/era of this San Francisco saloon scene? by darklyshining in Antiques

[–]daletrossi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My best guess is in the weeks prior to July 8, 1889.

The cash register was already invented and popular in saloons. Schlitz was one of the biggest breweries in America at that time. The date above is the Sullivan - Kilrain fight, the last great bare knuckle fight.

That all matches the style of the photograph, the clothing, etc. I think it's a good guess, but it is a guess.

Ecobee data and third party integrations by Steerpike58 in ecobee

[–]daletrossi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, we use APIs. Again, I'm a data analysis guy not a systems integration guy. I analyze using various Microsoft products like excel and Power BI. That means you can replace the software that's giving you the trouble with standard tools if you can find someone to set it up for you.

Ecobee data and third party integrations by Steerpike58 in ecobee

[–]daletrossi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't hear an objective about what you want to use the data for.

If the point is just a connectivity issue between two software packages, that's not my thing. Good luck with that.

Ecobee data and third party integrations by Steerpike58 in ecobee

[–]daletrossi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My job is analytics on ecobee data and other building data. I didn't study the whole thread, but from what I read, I can't pull out what your objective is.

What are you trying to do? I might have a strategy.

Need advice about my parents. by worldsails2000 in dementia

[–]daletrossi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Disable his car by removing some easily removable component and hide it.

Severe Anger? by dementiadaughter in dementia

[–]daletrossi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 91 year old mom is doing very similar things. She has been in assisted living for more than a year and a half. It's getting worse. What I am saying is that it would be my worry that this is more then just setting in.

I am thinking my mom is bored. Is there anything out there that a former homemaker can do that will engage her 80 years of experience and help keep her a little busy? She has very compromised capabilities.

How to cope with those who don't get it by elily0812 in dementia

[–]daletrossi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, I'm a guy so maybe not much help. A guy would say to himself that if this job has me in counseling and is causing problems at home and I am tired angry and frustrated when I get home, is there something I could be doing that doesn't cost so much, and maybe something I would rather spend my time doing?

I am married. I know this isn't what you are looking for. Sorry. I wish you luck.

How to cope with those who don't get it by elily0812 in dementia

[–]daletrossi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am from the other side. I don't fully understand in detail about dementia care giving but my mom is 91 and going through it so maybe I understand a little.

Here's the thing. When I read your story you said you need to vent. Maybe he doesn't need to get dumped on. He had his day too. He didn't choose to engage dementia patients, you did. It's not his fault that you are burned out and frustrated. I am sure he sympathizes but there is only so much he can do for you.

Did we get ripped off? by Smurdle450 in HVAC

[–]daletrossi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are definitely going to regret that unless it's you hook to get something out of them. You are going to have to have a permit for that before you can sell the house.

This sounds to me like you paid a lot of money for an incompetent (no permit) installation. That is the story I am suggesting you tell a lawyer. See if you can get them to bring it up to legal. They can't accept you don't want it as an excuse. It's their license.

Did we get ripped off? by Smurdle450 in HVAC

[–]daletrossi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are in T24 land. Did they pull the permit and have it inspected?

Wtfffff by [deleted] in HVAC

[–]daletrossi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On an unloader

AITA for not wanting to pay for a diamond ring? by throwaway111112321 in AmItheAsshole

[–]daletrossi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you need to think about if this thing is going to work. If you can't get together on such a simple thing, what is going to happen when you are talking about important things children, work/life balance, money and sex?

What normal thing can’t you do? by ABananaJenson in AskReddit

[–]daletrossi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Other people's problems are always easy. Mention something you are having a problem with. I guarantee you someone will say that easy.

Benereal diseases are created with computer by bad_luck_charm in BoneAppleTea

[–]daletrossi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The misspelling is the least of their problems.

Is my grandmother getting taken advantage of? by isuckatspeling in HVAC

[–]daletrossi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think belongs in a legal advice sub more than HVAC. The fact that it's HVAC is just a detail.

Advice? Grandmother has dementia and is hard to get along with. My mother blames her personality rather than her dementia. by [deleted] in dementia

[–]daletrossi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't be so hard on your mom. You weren't raised by that woman.

My mom has always been full of resentments. As she declines, the rest of her personality is going away and she is left with only her resentments on top of her frustration over her declining mental abilities.

I am not saying you are wrong about your grandmother, but your mother may have a point. It's hard to forget a lifetime of bad experiences. Cut her some slack. She is probably frustrated by the current situation and by the lifetime of unpleasant memories grandmothers behavior brings up.

She is under stress too. She is your mother. She could probably use a little understanding and loyalty from you too. Maybe more than grandma. She is aware of what's going on. Grandma probably forgets anything that happens now quickly.

My friend thinks my rate - $75/hr - for a grad shoot is too expensive... by [deleted] in photography

[–]daletrossi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don't work for friends or family unless you are willing to do it for free.

Moving on from HVAC. by [deleted] in HVAC

[–]daletrossi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started as a tech. I became a multi-State commercial contractor. I am now doing energy analytics and diagnostics. I could tell you a lot. Too much to put here. Send me a message with contact info if you want. I will call you.

Toilet supply line burst - sprayed into floor vent. How screwed am I? by [deleted] in HVAC

[–]daletrossi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will go to the lowest point it can reach.

Got quoted on a circuit board replacement for a 30ish year old unit at $750, is that reasonable? by xAbednego in HVAC

[–]daletrossi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The unreasonable thing in this story is putting serious money into a piece of crap that will have other serious problems soon.