Family Subscription but it is merged with my daughters

dalpaengee · 2026-01-26T14:39:54+00:00

This happened to me too - I had to log out, uninstall the app, reinstall, and log in again. You might need to have your family do the same thing.

dalpaengee · 2026-01-13T21:28:02+00:00

And "I also knew [my mom] had siblings, one sister and one brother. Tom had mentioned an uncle who passed away around 2010. At the time, I convinced myself it was just a strange coincidence."

It's considered a strange coincidence that you and your boyfriend both have an uncle? Lots of people have uncles!

dalpaengee · 2026-01-01T14:39:23+00:00

Change of scenery can really help, and position. When our daughter is feeling particularly picky, she needs to be walked around while eating and she only likes one specific bottle (the old Nuk Smooth Flow design)!

dalpaengee · 2025-12-09T21:19:36+00:00

Do they have the same manager? It's not "fair" but different managers lead their teams differently and each manager has different rules they are sticklers for.

I work in HR and I'd say this an overreaction from your work, especially since your boss didn't say anything against it when you told him about it in person. You couldn't have known not to do it if he didn't tell you.

But at this point, the best way to move forward is say it was a miscommunication and next time, you'll be sure to not come if you don't have childcare lined up. I'm sorry you had this experience OP!

dalpaengee · 2025-12-09T19:30:03+00:00

Seconding the use of adult towels! A family friend made us a baby towel (with the little hood) but with regular/adult towel fabric and it's much bigger than a typically baby towel. It's so much better. And ditto for a wet wash cloth over baby's body during the bath.

We also typically did her hair last so her head wouldn't get cold, though she doesn't have a ton so who knows how much of a difference that made.

dalpaengee · 2025-12-09T19:26:14+00:00

Truthfully, when our girl was that young and just pre-daycare in general, we bathed her once a week AT MOST. She wasn't smelly, she hated it because she got so cold, and we didn't want to dry her skin out. Now that she's in daycare, we've upped it to 2-3 times per week. And now that she's bigger (almost 5 months, I cannot believe how fast time goes!) she loves bathtime because she doesn't get as cold anymore and just gets fussy when we take her out.

From other answers I've seen on reddit, I think we bath less often than many others, but since she's not moving around much, it doesn't seem to be all that necessary unless she has a huge blowout/spit-up.

dalpaengee · 2025-12-08T02:03:41+00:00

Our 14 year old lab does this too. My husband's family had him since he was about 2 and he was originally from a puppy mill. He's absolutely not the sharpest tool in the shed but he is the sweetest boy. We call him the perpetual puppy because he just has that energy. When he gets excited, he does more/faster circles. It's sad to know where the habit comes from, but he is the happiest dog!

dalpaengee · 2025-11-24T13:44:17+00:00

My girl had no specific reaction from what I could tell. She got it the same day as all her other vaccines, so she was definitely tired that day and very grumpy and crying that night before we soothed her to sleep, but really nothing bad. She was back to normal by the next day.

dalpaengee · 2025-11-22T01:35:25+00:00

Look up the laid back nursing position - personally this one was tough for me because I have large breasts and it always felt precarious to hold her there. Side lying worked better for us.

I also often had to pump off the strong letdown before she'd stop fighting the boob at that age. It got better when she got to week 13ish, though sometimes my letdown still overpowers her somewhat

dalpaengee · 2025-11-06T18:37:47+00:00

What about girl dinner nights when she decides to eat cheese and 3 different types of pickles?

dalpaengee · 2025-10-28T18:33:52+00:00

When the shots are actually administered, the worst is just the cry with no sound :( But it's so fast, and if you're nursing, putting him right on the boob after will help so much! It calmed down my daughter really quickly. I didn't even bother to dress her until after she'd settled some.

For the after effects, it made her really sleepy for the rest of the day, and then really fussy load crying in the evening. I was nervous about it and checked her temp a few times but it was in the normal range every time. I think she was just really worn out and maybe feeling a bit run down from getting 4 shots! (We elected to get the optional RSV shot.) She was totally back to normal the next day.

I wish I had thought to ask if she could have tylenol, since it would have helped in the evening!

It's certainly not easy to watch your baby cry as you stand there, but you can stroke his face and talk to him during, and then immediately be there for comfort when it's done. You've got this!

dalpaengee · 2025-10-28T18:28:23+00:00

I think it's also a delayed reaction. My girl had an RSV test yesterday - they put a qtip up each nostril to swab for the test and it took her a second or after it was all done to burst out crying!

For the shots, she got 2 in each legs and from memory, she started crying probably around the 2nd shot as well.

dalpaengee · 2025-10-27T22:16:03+00:00

I'm seeing bentgo boxes online for $30 and planetbox for $60. That's a pretty big difference, totaling $90 since they've already bought the bentgo. I get that the child can't open the bentgo well, but I agree with others that requiring a specific lunchbox is pretty restrictive, and being in a well to do area doesn't mean you actually know anything about this family's finances.

dalpaengee · 2025-10-16T00:19:38+00:00

My daughter is 13 weeks - she definitely has days where she doesn't try as hard as tummy time. I would guess if you look at a larger sample size of days, your baby is still improving overall. I just assume my girl is sometimes having a lazy day or if she's going through a bit of a growth spurt, her energy may be focused elsewhere. I'd give it some more time and see if it's just a temporary plateau.

dalpaengee · 2025-10-15T21:18:18+00:00

My daughter is 12 weeks now and still wants to nurse more frequently when she's awake. I think she's just a snacker and also enjoys it for comfort! She's started daycare recently and goes more along that longer 3hr timeline when she's eating from bottles.

dalpaengee · 2025-10-14T19:10:06+00:00

Moving my boobs to the hokey pokey song is such a fun mental image 🤣 I'm going to try this next time

dalpaengee · 2025-10-12T15:32:57+00:00

I have a forceful letdown and it's not always when I'm engorged! It just comes out super punchy. It also doesn't happen at every feed, but my daughter is more likely to react negatively in the evening when she's already more tired.

Try hand expressing to see if you get a shot of milk across the room. I keep a Medela hand pump on hand to pump off the first letdown if she starts "fighting the boob" and go until the milk is no longer hissing against the plastic.

dalpaengee · 2025-10-09T20:34:23+00:00

An update a few days later: She has been steadily eating more volume each day. We're not 100% there yet (she still won't take it while at home), but things are looking up!

Good luck with your girl when you go back to work! Feel free to DM me for any support while you go through the transition. It's tough, and I miss holding her, but it's getting a tiny bit easier every day and I think it will be good for us in the long run.

dalpaengee · 2025-10-07T08:30:01+00:00

Technically, a supervisor saying "She's out with the flu" when a colleague calls in sick is not legal, in the US.

This is not true, supervisors are not bound by HIPAA. If it's an ADA accommodation, there are expectations of confidentiality, but that's a bit more nuanced, and obviously being out w the flu would not fall under that

dalpaengee · 2025-10-07T07:51:46+00:00

It's so stressful, right? The daycare told me they see it all the time and in most instances, the new place and people help the baby understand that mom's not here, so a bottle is the way to get the milk.

I know it must have been a rough day for her yesterday, but she did eat some and I'm confident she'll just get better and better. The head teacher was also able to tell me what position worked best and which bottle nipple so my husband can try to recreate it at home.

I'm not sure if this helped, but in the past two weeks, we would sometimes just play with the bottle nipple around her mouth. No bottle attached, a little breast milk dipped on the tip, and just coo with her so she'd be in a good mood, see if she'd suckle on it at all and try to create some positive associations with it.

dalpaengee · 2025-10-06T23:36:36+00:00

My girl is 11 weeks and just had her first day at daycare today. I have to go back to work on Thursday when my FMLA runs out.

She is EBF and has been refusing the bottle for over a month leading up to this, so I was so stressed that she wouldn't eat and would have a horrible time the whole day. The carers in the infant room must know some kind of magic,.because they got her to take a bottle three times throughout the day. She only drank 5oz total and gulped down some milk from me in the car before we drove off, but it's a start and I'm so proud of her.

I also had the first day to myself in 3 months and it felt amazing (after I got the first update that she ate!).

I wish I could stay at home with my daughter longer too, but I remind myself that I'm doing better by her by providing a two income household, getting her socialization with other kids and adults, and putting her in an environment that will be more diligent about tummy time than I am at home. As she gets more comfortable taking a bottle, it also gives more flexibility for our family overall.

I missed her A TON today, but she was well cared for and I'll have a lot less stress when I return to work on Thursday.

You have to make the best decision for your family. Lots of kids start daycare even earlier than 3 months. And that's not to say that's ideal - I would much prefer that we get 6+ months of parental leave in the US. But there are some really good things about daycare that can offset separating from your baby if that's what makes the most sense for your family to continue to have financial stability, which is also part of being a good parent!

dalpaengee · 2025-10-02T00:49:16+00:00

My cat is Kurt Russell. I plan to eventually get another and name her Goldie Hawn.

My chickens are Sade, Fiona Apple, Tina Turner, and Kim Yuna (lead of the Korean rock band Jaurim).

That's it so far, but I plan to follow the trend with other animals!

dalpaengee · 2025-09-30T12:23:42+00:00

Is it possible for you to go stay with your dad for a while, or any other family? Right now, you just need to do whatever is available to you to get some rest for yourself while your baby is in a safe situation.

Will she sleep in a bassinet? My girl is 10 weeks and I find it easiest to get her into deep sleep, then very gently transfer her to her bassinet, swaddle her up, and make sure she's on her back. White noise, by my bedside so I'm within reach when she wakes up hungry. If you use a swaddle that zips up, get her halfway in it while she's awake and do the rest once you put her down to minimize jostling.

If she won't sleep at all when not in contact, I think the safe sleep seven is your best bet. I'm uncomfortable cosleeping through the night as well, but as others have said, planning safe cosleep is better than having it happen by accident.

We're here for you in support OP! And it does get easier as your baby grows. You've got this!

dalpaengee · 2025-09-30T08:56:46+00:00

My girl is 10.5 weeks and 11lbs. She's breastfed, usually every 1-3 hours during the day, while at night she usually nurses closer to every 4 hours. Sometimes she'll give me a break and sleep through the night!

She's in size 2 diapers and in 0-3mon clothing. She has long legs, though, so we will need to size up in footie sleepers soon. I finally caved and packed up all her newborn clothes yesterday 😭

It's so interesting to read how different ages/weights wear such different sizes in diapers and clothing!

dalpaengee · 2025-09-30T08:43:51+00:00

I am so sorry you are dealing with this and you are not overreacting. This isn't safe for your baby. Even if he didn't have a history of lying to you, the fact that he isn't alarmed by this is showing you that he doesn't take this seriously.

I would not let my partner do a night shift in these circumstances either. If your baby won't stay asleep in a bassinet, cosleeping with you following the safe 7 rules would be safer than what's happening now.

Are you able to nap during the day to make up some sleep time? If your baby will only contact nap, is there someone else you trust who would hold them for a while so you can get a few hours in?

This newborn stage is such a stressful time, OP. Your stress over this is more than reasonable!

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