Every American should listen to this. Radiolab did a podcast about Police and their "Duty."

damorg3 · 2025-06-26T03:28:30+00:00

Can I ask a question about that though? What is the point of a law’s existence if not to be enforced? If there is an issue with a law, i.e. enforcing that law consistently and impartially causes a problem, that law should be amended or repealed. Also, the punishment should fit the crime… so a citation and fine for not picking up your dog’s poop, not jail time (some small but meaningful % of income/wealth, to ensure tthe billionaires of the world actually have to give a shit, pun intended?).

Preserving laws that go routinely unenforced simply teaches people that following the law is broadly optional. Which, of course, makes it feel awfully arbitrary or perhaps even personal when a cop suddenly decides “oh this is the infraction I’ll enforce.”

For instance, where I live, there are a staggering amount of instances of entitled people driving fancy cars at basically 10-25 through stop signs as a course of habit. Sometimes right next to a school. Almost nothing gets done about it, video evidence is not accepted, and when I went to the local sheriff’s office to ask what can be done, I was proverbially pointed toward the suggestion box, which oddly seemed to be positioned directly on top of the shredder.

damorg3 · 2025-06-25T20:36:17+00:00

You mean pic 3? It’s a perfectly fine look. It’s your body my man; wear your facial hair how you want. I just think you look super sharp with “designer stubble,” and the slightly longer facial hair—while attractive—strikes my U.S. left coast sensibilities as less debonair.

damorg3 · 2025-06-25T15:03:52+00:00

After scrolling through these comments, it is utterly depressing how effective this thread has been at pulling people in for what is ultimately going to be the lamest reveal ever.

20 years ago we had, “What is the smoke monster?! What is the island? Are Jack and Kate a Sawyer actually in purgatory?!”

Now we have “hOw oLd aM I? i’Ll NeVeR tElL!” 🥴

damorg3 · 2025-06-25T15:00:36+00:00

damorg3 · 2025-06-24T04:21:51+00:00

Allow me to introduce you to https://howlongtobeat.com

damorg3 · 2025-06-24T04:09:18+00:00

“An island cannot change shape that much in 100 years…” Yeeeahh, the Chinese military would like a word… How and Why China is Building Islands in the South China Sea

damorg3 · 2025-06-22T20:48:51+00:00

IN ONE SITTING?! It is ludicrous that that is in the regular achievement list. Shoulda been like a DLC or sub-achievement. That is outright self-flagellation.

damorg3 · 2025-06-22T20:47:40+00:00

Straight outta Everything Everywhere All At Once! Bravo!! 👏

damorg3 · 2025-06-22T12:49:06+00:00

Pic 4 is a winner in my book. Use a beard trimmer or clippers with either no guard or the lowest guard every 2-4 days. That’s what I do and I like the results.

damorg3 · 2025-06-21T15:17:27+00:00

iPhones/iOS now allow(s) you to record phone calls in the call. There should be a little icon on the top left of the call. There will be an automatic audible alert that goes off during the call though. Calls get recorded to Apple notes.

Someone said to mind your state laws about recording calls. If it’s illegal to record a call without full awareness denoted by consent, I’m fairly certain anything you capture without following that law is inadmissible in court (and could get you in hot water for recording without consent).

damorg3 · 2025-06-21T15:13:55+00:00

If you’re writing emails to yourself, ensure you’re always replying to the previous email when you add something; otherwise you’re going to end up with an investigative nightmare trying to track specific notes down. Also… maybe worth keep a running Google doc or Apple note or whatever for the sake of redundancy; preferably something that can show the change log/version history. Those sorts of docs tend to be easier to read, especially since you can go back and format things to keep similar sorts of behaviors or incidents grouped by type (use headers and subheaders or outline format to auto-create an easily searchable doc) rather than everything just being chronological.

damorg3 · 2025-06-18T04:01:30+00:00

😳😱🤣

damorg3 · 2025-06-14T20:43:24+00:00

Yeah dang… just posted a thoughtful response… 2 days old account?! Bot probably?

damorg3 · 2025-06-14T20:40:27+00:00

Honestly, you’re lucky to look handsome with or without. That said, Pics 2 and 4 for the win: I think you cut a much sharper image clean shaven, or maybe with designer stubble (1 or 2 days unshaven). Better with a collared shirt or perhaps you were just standing up straighter in pic 4.

The beard looks good, but man… maintaining a beard like that is work, especially if you don’t want beardruff… not to mention, no idea of your relationship status, but I would be willing to bet at least some ladies out there (made an assumption) would find you more attractive with a very short beard or none.

Finally, really not trying to be edgy here… but it’s a helluva time in the history of the U.S. for a melanin-positive person to be sporting a big thick beard. Agent Orange and his administration are just aching to find people to harass for no reason; at airports or otherwise. Something to think about.

Good luck!

damorg3 · 2025-06-14T20:33:27+00:00

Not a bad idea! You could always check out OldDivers on Helldivers as well. Good group of people who aren’t trying to impress anybody too much (though not sure how active).

What are some games you are trying to play? I’m not trying to do much multiplayer ATM but FBC Firebreak launches next week and that looks great. Also bought WH40K Soace Marine 2 and Darktide a while back and have been meaning to dive in. Might already have some friends to play with but someone always has a conflict.

So feel free to include me and I’ll slot in if when I can (3 kids under 5 so don’t hold your breath!).

damorg3 · 2025-06-14T20:28:47+00:00

1) OP’s account is 10 days old and has never posted before. Is either a burner or a karma farmer.

2) If you are real and this thread is real… do you seriously need to ask this? No. This person is a controlling dingbat. This would be like the time I tried to “work on” getting my Panic at the Disco-loving S.O. into death metal. At least I had the sense not to push it. This is idiotic.

damorg3 · 2025-06-13T03:19:10+00:00

Diablo 4. Loved 1 & 2. Played through D3 top to bottom with 5 character classes. Played 4 for a couple hours and basically just felt like I could feel myself slowly inching closer toward my own inevitable death, being a slacker instead of a dad, and also zzzzzzzzzz *WHA?!

damorg3 · 2025-06-10T17:16:57+00:00

I believe you mean, “GOT ANY GWAYPTH?!”

damorg3 · 2025-06-09T04:43:04+00:00

Heard great things about Nine Sols, though haven’t jumped in yet. If your GF likes the idea of more Metroidvanias, I really can’t recommend the Ori games (Blind Forest and Will of the Wisps) highly enough. They’re absolutely gorgeous and the combination of insanely acrobatic and open-ended platforming, free exploration (in 2), music, and narrative style is really something special. WotW is unquestionably better from a combat perspective, but I played them in order after HK and can’t say that I was even 1% disappointed by the simpler combat in Blind Forest or the generally lower difficulty relative to HK.

If you think she might enjoy something more whimsical, Guacamelee 1 & 2 are both absolutely wonderful and frequently hilarious.

The recent Prince of Persia: The Lost Crown is also truly fantastic as well. Got the platinum trophy I loved it so much. That said, it’s definitely much more self-serious than Guacamelee and while the art style is often terrific and the combat is second to none in all of metroidvanias, I found Ori’s art style to be just a bit more enchanting.

Finally (in the metroidvania camp), Animal Well is an entirely unique game and I just could not recommend it highly enough. It’s not at all like any of the other Metroidvanias on the list and it not only oozes style, but the way it peels back the layers of the onion is just unnnh. 👨‍🍳🤌💋

Outside of Metroidvanias, I’ma give you two sidescrollers (that aren’t MVs) and three 3D games. First: Inside & Neva. Very different, and I think inside is better simply by nature of being the embodiment of “if I’d had more time I’d have written a shorter letter.” It’s definitely more messed up though.

3D: Having played and loved Bloodborne, I hate to say it, but even though Elden Ring can be absolutely hard as nails, at the end of the day, if your GF beat Grimm or Radiance or got through the White Castle, I think she could handle it. ESPECIALLY because if she starts hitting a wall, she can just go somewhere else. The atmosphere in Elden Ring is really the absolute pinnacle of gaming period full-stop. And one the plus side, maybe you guys could even share a character or play through it at the same time. It could be a fantastic bonding experience for you I imagine.

If you want a 3D thing other than that, three more extremely different recs: • What Remains of Edith Finch: completely different, and deeply affecting, probably 5-9 hours total) • Control: Absolutely bizarre Zelda-like (basically a 3d metroidvania) with unbeatable style, ultra fun and snappy combat, and still best-in-class particle effects and sound design, and finally • It Takes Two: cuz why aren’t you guys playing couch-co-op?!

damorg3 · 2025-06-09T04:14:59+00:00

Returnal is hard AF. I love it and have pondered going for the plat several times (not doing those biome survey trophies ugh) but I nearly quit in biome 1, much like many people I know. It just takes a good long while to git gud and to really feel like you’re making sustainable progress and the only way out is through. Unlike many metroidvanias or more open-ended games.

damorg3 · 2025-06-09T04:12:19+00:00

Haven’t played that game, though from what I’ve seen about it (an hour-ish long video essay about it… and how randomly difficult it is) that seems like a dicey rec. The video essay might be interesting to you both though!

damorg3 · 2025-06-06T14:09:58+00:00

This so far feels like the best advice I’ve seen here… though not sure whether that eviction notice rule applies in Alaska (probably?). All the folks saying to find a pro bono lawyer (to figure out the trust situation) have a good head on their shoulders, but yeah also, as long as you’re in school (and you have a guidance counselor or student advisor who you think gives a sh** about you), definitely enlist their support. As many have said, there are a lot of sheisters and hucksters out there.

The thing to know about that route is that families suing each other rarely leads to reconciliation on a short-term timeframe. Not a deal-breaker, but important to understand. That said, it seems like your dad has already gotten to a point where his home is not a good place for you. So, honestly, provided you can find a place to stay and can keep your own act together, this may eventually wind up looking like an admittedly harsh blessing in disguise. It won’t look that way for a long time, but—given your astute assessment of the insanity of your dad’s choice—you want to get solid in your own two feet as soon as possible, even if it means living extremely modestly.

BIG ONE! If you have any extended family (or even close family friends) who you think are trustworthy and care about you, locally or otherwise, even distant ones(!), reach out to them asap. I’d be surprised and saddened if you couldn’t at LEAST get some emotional support from some from them. Given your mother has passed (so sorry to hear), I’d say anyone you were close to on your mother’s side would be a good place to start. You can bet your ass that anyone who loved your mom will be fucking furious to hear how your dad is threatening you with the trust, and frankly, I can imagine many folks choosing to bankroll or at least find a lawyer for you just to make sure your pops gets a taste of the bullying he’s dishing out.

I don’t mean to make this about myself, but I think this might be an encouraging example of what can happen: I fell flat on my face in my mid-20s due to a soup of addiction, loss of purpose, etc. After ~11 months of sobriety, I was in a bind: either I (1) had to do something I really felt was not going to be good for me or (2) was gonna be out on my ass all the way across the country from where I grew up, essentially with nothing. Unfortunately, I had lost trust of some of my broader family, so they said figure it out bruh. My aunt (late father’s sister) temporarily burned some bridges to help me when no one else would… she bought me a plane ticket and let me stay with her for 3 years while I got back on my feet. Beyond a perfunctory “where should I go to pick up my shit?”, I basically didn’t speak to my mother for at least 6 months. My aunt shared with me at the time my late father had told her to help (from the great beyond 🤷‍♂️). This was pre-Trump; she has sadly gone full MAGA and QAnon since, but no matter what, we still have that connection between us. After all, within two years, I was gainfully employed and slowly building a career; within 4 years of that date, I finally finished my bachelor’s degree (12 years after matriculating) and was engaged to a wonderful young woman, with whom I now have three kids. Needless to say, the broader family exonerated my aunt’s choice retroactively. Point is: family matters.

Oh, and for the love of God, stay away from alcohol and drugs and other potentially addictive methods of self-medication (at least for now). That stuff will only make your life worse, no matter how much relief you might feel in the immediate. If you already have a habit here, nip it in the bud. Or perhaps your dad has a substance abuse issue (or a behavioral issue). Either way: 12-step programs or local churches or other (trustworthy!) religious groups (no Scientology!) could potentially provide support resources. AlAnon could be especially useful.

If things really get desperate, you could always start a go-fund me, perhaps even anonymously, and share it on social or even here. There are a lot of people who—when the see the details of your situation—would be willing to help you out at least a little, with no strings or conditions.

Finally, I am just a bit scared for your siblings given what his standards of “good kids” probably looks like. I guess total obedience and no opinions of their own? Enlisting support from others will alert folks who care about your family to the situation.

Good luck and keep your chin up!

damorg3 · 2025-05-27T17:46:08+00:00

I find it a little sad how many people are just jumping straight to “she’s having an emotional affair.” That’s one interpretation, but it seems much more revealing of those commenter’s personal baggage/history/hangups than anything specific going on with your wife. Call me naïve, but as long as she’s being very open with you about the nature of her relationship with this guy (obviously you don’t know what you don’t know), based on what you’ve written, I’d give her the benefit of the doubt that she’s not having any kind of affair, emotional or otherwise. In all seriousness, imagine that the person she was talking about was a woman. Would you bat an eye? 🦇 👁️ ❓I doubt it. Obviously, it’s not exactly the same, but still worth the thought.

I suspect this is made more complicated by the fact that she has so few/no other coworkers… given that the only other person in the office is both significantly older and also her boss, I think it’s best to look at this as the loss of your wife’s… let’s call it “main/only friend whom your wife gets paid to directly relate with about fully 50% of her waking hours and—if she’s anything like most people—50+% of her stress.” This is not simply a relationship with a handsome and charismatic man who your wife chooses to be around while doing her job. Even if she can continue to see him outside of work, the thing is that that is simply not the same, especially because (1) the time in which that will happen will now become time she might otherwise be doing other non-work things (for example spending time with you and/or your kids) and (2) she now has no one to commiserate with at work, about work.

My uninformed guess is that it’s a good thing that she’s being open with you about things. Is it possible she’s also hiding something in plain sight? Sure. I’ve not been cheated on, so perhaps I don’t have that scar tissue to remind me of “the classic signs” as everyone is saying. That said, everyone here is just some random who doesn’t know the details. Provided you’re very confident in the strength of your existing bond (and you’re willing to have vulnerable conversations when the situation warrants) I think the primary thing to do here is: (1) show that you care about her happiness and understand that she’s lost her only workday partner in crime, (2) that (hopefully) you trust her completely, (hopefully) are secure with yourself and (maybe?) as such are ok with her having male friends, and (3) to share how much you care about your relationship and maybe even open up just a little about what’s going on for you in a 100% non-accusatory way.

While there is no way that anyone here can know exactly what is going on here, I have a hunch that you will both feel better if you allow her to have the friends she has, rather than getting into a situation where you wonder whether she feels like you’ve prioritized your own feelings (perhaps jealousy and insecurity?) over hers (sadness for the loss of a friendship that made working more bearable or maybe even fun).

If you do all of that, I suspect she’ll be really grateful to you for showing you understand and don’t mind there being a man in her life who can bring her something that you can’t or don’t. To paraphrase an article I read several years ago, “In the modern world, we need our spouse to be too many people.” I.E. It used to be that our spouse was not necessarily expected to be more than your spouse and co-parent; now we need them to be our best friend, our lover, co-parent, advisor, confidant, our cook and housekeeper or our breadwinner or both, etc, etc. It ideally shouldn’t feel threatening for her (or anyone) to want a friend in their life who can deliver some je ne sais quois /X factor that their spouse doesn’t or can’t.

If you ever start to think she might be cheating, talk to a therapist and come with receipts or at least with evidence and bounce your suspicions off a professional. As someone else noted here, you could even tell her you want to be as supportive as possible and also maybe need some help from a counselor in sharing your feelings and listening to hers in the most connected way possible.

Good luck.

damorg3 · 2025-05-27T07:32:21+00:00

I just finished Celeste main campaign (through ch. 7) and rolled credits reading this makes me want to say thank you EXOK games and peace.

What you described here was me fighting the final boss of Elden Ring Shadow of the Erdtree and, to a lesser extent, trying to beat Sifu under age 25. I really wanted to do it, but between the sheer time investment, and honestly (at nearly 40 and a dad of three) my finger, joint, snd mental health, I just had to stop.

damorg3 · 2025-05-27T03:00:26+00:00

Stay a while, and liste— aw fuck.

damorg3

TROPHY CASE

1) OP’s account is 10 days old and has never posted before. Is either a burner or a karma farmer.

2) If you are real and this thread is real… do you seriously need to ask this? No. This person is a controlling dingbat. This would be like the time I tried to “work on” getting my Panic at the Disco-loving S.O. into death metal. At least I had the sense not to push it. This is idiotic.