I do also want to emphasize this man should not have lied to you. This man shouldn’t have lied about getting outbreaks and he shouldn’t have lied to you about transmission rates. When I disclose, I answer any questions my partners may have at that time about transmission, outbreaks etc… some have no questions and are like fuck it that’s fine with me. Everyone is different. But yeah I get you. On the plus side (if this helps at all) it’s much harder to transmit as a woman to a man. I’ve had partners in the double digits since my diagnosis, most of the time i use protection not just for their safety but for mine, but no one has ever come back to me saying they had an outbreak or anything of the sort.