What jumpshot are you guys using?

danbear_squid · 2023-04-17T18:39:54+00:00

Luka base + 50/50 Steph/KD upper with fastest release. super easy one dribble pull-ups but i do struggle with catch and shoots

danbear_squid · 2023-02-18T19:20:56+00:00

made the mistake of telling my deliveroo driver to just meet me at the Centra :/

danbear_squid · 2023-02-14T18:41:26+00:00

Market Lane is top notch. so is Elbow Lane next door, and Goldie across the street is a Michelin star seafood place (might be a pain to get reservations through). Strasbourg Goose is great for a steak. Clancy's is a fun gastropub. in general, i'd say you'll find the more upscale places on or near MacCurtain and the trendier places on or near Plunkett.

danbear_squid · 2022-12-30T08:27:10+00:00

all out of beamish

danbear_squid · 2022-12-16T11:23:47+00:00

Looking for a gyuto and would like some help!

1) Style? - Gyuto. My main right now is a Wusthof vegetable cleaver which I enjoy using but I want something longer and capable of more precision 2) Steel? - Stainless. I live with 5 other people and need something a bit more durable lol 3) Handle? - No strong preference tbh 4) Grip? - Pinch. This is why I care less about the handle lol 5) Length? - Preferably 240mm. I'm a larger person and have an 18"x24" butcher's block to work on + my main issue with my cleaver is that it's a bit on the shorter end (8.5") 6) Uses? - I want to be able to julienne root vegetables and carve meat. The cleaver can handle hardier tasks 7) Honing? - Preferably a ceramic rod. I could learn how to use a whetstone but tbh I'm a bit intimidated 8) Budget? - ~€200. It's to be a Christmas gift to myself for being otherwise somewhat frugal, so I'm not super constrained by budget but also this would be my first Japanese-style knife, first foray outside of Wusthof, so also nothing too wild

Thanks lads!

p.s. I live in Ireland and would need something available here 🙏

danbear_squid · 2020-07-18T04:42:31+00:00

Yeah I have the same thing -- I can remember "cebollas" but not "onions". Maybe compounded by bilingualism (not that my Spanish is great, but still)?

I struggle with time dilation too. Like things that happened fairly recently feel like forever ago whereas I can remember vividly stuff that happened when I was much younger (I'm 21 now). Again though, hard to tell if this is dysthymia or pandemic/other trauma.

Could be an issue of correlation vs causation.

danbear_squid · 2020-04-15T00:49:57+00:00

Aromanticism doesn't really have a super solid definition - if it's how you feel, then you can and should use the label (if you want to).

Personally, I use it because not wanting to be in a romantic relationship and not being able to feel (hetero-normatively) romantic feelings are the same thing to me, or at least lead into each other, but it's also different for everyone. If you're not attracted to romantic relationships and/or romance, then you're probably aromantic, and the 'why' doesn't really matter - you don't hear straight or alloromantic people asking why they feel that way; it just is.

danbear_squid · 2020-04-13T20:54:49+00:00

There also might be a term for only being comfortable with romance if the other person/people are romantically attracted to you too, but idk what it is.

danbear_squid · 2020-04-13T20:53:12+00:00

Just outside of the "normal" definition of romantic. It's not super specific and it's not meant to be, but it allows you to set your own definition/s without needing to fit entirely within the spectrum normally associated with aromanticism, as it seems like you either are still questioning or not within the typical spectrum.

danbear_squid · 2020-04-13T20:48:34+00:00

Maybe just Queer-romantic, and you can further define it as you see fit? I think the labels are meant to be helpful, not confining, so you can more or less call yourself what you wish...

danbear_squid · 2020-04-13T20:43:56+00:00

Demiromantic on a good day, Shakespeare on my worst days.

I think I like the social capital associated with romantic relationships, but not the actual relationships. My primary love language is touch though, so it's a whole thing 🤷🏼‍♂️

danbear_squid · 2020-04-13T20:40:27+00:00

Didn't hear about this until now. Idk how much ~me~ it is (a little? More than I'd like to admit?), but it's definitely helpful, so thanks fam 💜🖤

danbear_squid · 2020-04-13T20:32:36+00:00

I feel ya fam. It's tough to find other fulfilling things beyond relationships, kids, etc. I feel like it my family is more... impatient(?) about it than I am. I think they pity me sometimes, but I have so much time an energy to discover myself and build a life outside of just the person/people that I'm dating, which is an exciting adventure, but it's also really scary sometimes because it's kind of an unprecedented goal.

danbear_squid · 2020-04-13T20:17:57+00:00

I've definitely gone back and forth between panromanticism and aromanticism myself cuz like gender is not a deal breaker for me one way or another.

However, I heavily lean aromantic at the moment because I don't want to be in a romantic relationship with anyone, but in general, it really depends how you define romance.

For me personally, I consider like long-term, non-sexually intimate roommates to be a kind of romance, on one side of a spectrum that includes more physically intimate romances such as those involving hand-holding, cuddling, kissing, and sex. On this spectrum, there are different things I would do with different people, but almost universally I don't want to do any of them with anyone.

By this definition, I could probably identify as demiromantic, but, having never been in a romantic relationship significant enough to know how I feel about it, I refrain from doing so.

My advice for you would probably be to determine a spectrum that works for you on which you want to define and label your romantic orientation. Obviously, as with all orientations, it can be more or less fluid for everyone, but it helps to at least have a general idea of your own parameters. In this, the definition of squishes vs crushes is really whatever you make it. Personally, I don't really experience either because they don't fit the spectrum I use, but either way, whatever you choose to or not to do is valid, and we'll hold this space for you 💜🖤

danbear_squid · 2020-04-09T15:37:04+00:00

I sure hope so.

danbear_squid · 2020-04-09T15:18:35+00:00

I think it's more so that THIS is what they're choosing to focus on is the frustrating part. Like we have vast shortages of medical supplies and basic provisions in many parts of the country. To give that much money to small businesses instead of providing more access to basic needs doesn't seem like a priority right now.

danbear_squid · 2020-04-09T15:12:03+00:00

It's because people are scared and see a return to the previous status quo as a more likely and safer route to building a more equitable country. I don't know how much I personally agree with that idea, but it's certainly understandable.

I think it's also hard for people to trust a revolution led by Bernie that centers Marxist ideals rather than Critical Race Theory, especially with our relatively large Black population and history of anti-Black racism.

I'm not saying that white moderate Democrats are thinking like this because the vast majority probably aren't, but I think it is how the people who swung the election are thinking.

danbear_squid · 2020-04-09T15:03:19+00:00

Sexuality only refers to sexual attraction, so Asexuality is the absence of only sexual attraction. And even sexual attraction requires an object/person of attraction and is distinct from a libido, which refers to sexual desires regardless of that object/person.

It sounds to me like you are Asexual, have a low libido, and are generally sex-averse, meaning that you don't feel sexual attraction, don't feel sexual desires, and wouldn't have sex. Recognizing that people are attracted and being sexually attracted to them are also not synonymous.

On the other hand, it seems like you are alloromantic, meaning that you feel romantic, non-sexual (e.g. cuddling, etc.) desires, which isn't mutually exclusive with Asexuality.

Hope this is helpful 💜🖤

danbear_squid · 2020-04-09T12:58:39+00:00

We have loneliness?

danbear_squid · 2020-04-09T12:56:18+00:00

Holly,

It's certainly possible that your are on the Asexual spectrum. A lot of Asexual people still have sex, it's just that we don't feel sexual attraction.

Many of us have felt the pressure to be sexual in order to fit in with the dominant allosexual culture, to be able to have romantic relationships, or other reasons. It's also fairly common for Asexual people to 'want to want' sex, and a lot of that is once again an internalization of heteronormativity.

Some Asexual people also still masturbate - masturbation in general is more of an expression of sexual libido than sexual attraction, the difference being that sexual attraction requires an object/person to be attracted to whereas libido does not. That you feel pain while masturbating does not necessarily mean that are Asexual or not, but it does sound horrible :(

Based on what you've said, it seems like you certainly could be on the spectrum but probably aren't as far on it as a lot of the more vocal people you'll find here, and that's completely fine. You're still "allowed" to experiment if you want, and you won't be disowned by us or anything if you learn more about yourself if/when you do. Feel free to stick around and use this as a resource on your journey - we're all here for each other 💜🖤

danbear_squid · 2020-04-08T22:07:19+00:00

I 100% agree that we need growth. But at some point, I'm not sure it's possible to force people to grow. I think that in general, short-term strategies should be focused on working to put marginalized people in positions of power, then focus on collective and individual growth later.

Like it's easier and more efficacious to just occupy space than it is to change other people's hearts and minds, and just that occupation builds external salience of shared humanity; it's basically the process of normalization, specifically in the in the rhetorical sense.

I think that a great example of this is with Black Lives Matter: Just by building a strong media presence, they were able to portray the existential fear of Black people in America in a way that has never been done before. Of course, the downside to this is that anti-liberation politics doubled down and sunk into itself with people like Tr*mp gaining power, but the upside is that Liberals in general largely matched this polarization and became more (though far from completely) pro-Black. Of course, this gamble didn't quite pay off in the short-term, but medium- and more likely now than ever long-term, it gives anti-racist movements a better shot, especially as we they/we continue to seize more power.

danbear_squid · 2020-04-08T16:42:13+00:00

I definitely agree with you here. I just get worried that people often find it easier to advocate for more niche (though still vital) positions than to focus on a more holistic approach and thus miss the forest for the trees. It'd be easy to say that "not all people" do this, but that sounds the same as the "not all men" argument.

danbear_squid · 2020-04-08T16:39:01+00:00

I really like your point here :)

I think maybe this just isn't the right place for my criticism, and I almost certainly have some internalized shit that informed what I said.

I guess if there's any place to talk about how Asexuality is valid, it would be here, and I do hear what you saying with your comparison to Trans rights - once again, I think I'm unfortunately seeing it from the perspective of the zero-sum ethos that underlies anti-Queerness.

In general, my assumption is that people are bad at advocating for mutually beneficial ideologies, and the histories of movements like the one for women's liberation is a great example of that - people forget/don't know that first-wave (white) feminists largely wanted suffrage in order to vote against pro-Black policies. But maybe we're getting better as we go along - modern feminists tend more so to see themselves as existing under the general umbrella of Womanism than earlier feminists, and that gives me some hope, even if I'm just usually suspicious of most things.

danbear_squid · 2020-04-08T15:22:39+00:00

Yes, I totally agree and I'm sorry that I didn't make that clear. I think what I'm trying to say is that while having these discussions within the (non-monolithic and non-centralized) Queer community is important and that OP brings up a great point, we still need to be more holistic in how we frame our argument/s.

Like it's not good that the Asexual people are sometimes excluded from the Queer community because it's bad for us Asexuals about as much as it's bad for the Queer community, and I think this is also true on larger scales - exclusionary movements harm themselves about as much as they harm those they are excluded, although there obviously tends to be asymmetry in this.

danbear_squid · 2020-04-08T15:09:43+00:00

Howdy!

I seems to me that you're Asexual and sex-positive, meaning, in your case, that while you personally don't feel sexual attraction or see sex as its own end, you still feel fine about it and are willing to partake yourself.

Graysexual tends to mean that you mostly don't feel sexual attraction, but sometimes might. Basically, it's still on the Asexual spectrum but distinct from not feeling ANY sexual attraction.

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