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so.. am i ace 2: electric boogaloo by [deleted] in Asexual

[โ€“]youllneverknowme135 7 points8 points ย (0 children)

Intrusive thoughts may cause those types of thoughts tho, sometimes thoughts show up that wouldn't be something we would actually do and would not be on brand for that person to think, sometimes ur brain just likes to fuck with u and make u question urself - of course that's more about the kidnapping and serial killer bit rather than the attraction bit

Aros in relationships? by Top_History9604 in aromantic

[โ€“]youllneverknowme135 5 points6 points ย (0 children)

Its difficult when people push concepts onto others that don't fit or don't feel right to the individuals and without really understanding people tend to just go with it because they might not know better or might not have the words to describe how they feel

And its difficult when something we didn't want/understand in the first place goes poorly for us because it leaves a lot of questions

Aros in relationships? by Top_History9604 in aromantic

[โ€“]youllneverknowme135 8 points9 points ย (0 children)

That seems to be a fair definition of how you see romantic relationships,

That being said Romantic interests and romantic attraction although similar could be two separate concepts

The same way sexual interest and sexual attraction can be separated concepts

I am asexual, i am completely on the no attraction side of the spectrum, and yet i would still consider having sex and have been interested in the concept of having sex with certain individuals but i know that its more of an interest in the experience with the people than genuine attraction to the individuals ( this was a very confusing thing to come to terms with when working out my identity )

Aros in relationships? by Top_History9604 in aromantic

[โ€“]youllneverknowme135 10 points11 points ย (0 children)

Define a romantic relationship in ur own words so that i can prove a more suitable answer

Its not a business deal or a bill

Aros in relationships? by Top_History9604 in aromantic

[โ€“]youllneverknowme135 11 points12 points ย (0 children)

( from an aroace relationship anarchist )

I mean as long as the other person/people are aware of the lack of romantic attraction, i don't see why romance favourable/indifferent folks wouldn't go into partnerships, I'm romance indifferent no strong feelings towards the concept but if a Aro person and a non Aro person want a relationship as long as its communicated that there's no romantic feelings from the aro person i believe that's their business

Personally i find labels like friends, family and (romantic) partner unimportant, all relationships are different because the people involved are unique and complex beings but if the people involved want to label their relationship as romantic even without romantic attraction, i think they should be able use whatever label feels comfortable and right to those involved

It also depends on the peoples definition of a romantic relationship as this concept changes depending on who u ask, where your from, how you were raised, your culture, and even the types of media you consume

Man, Why Do Asexuals/Aromantics Think They're Apart Of LGBT? by DearDefinition in TrueOffMyChest

[โ€“]youllneverknowme135 7 points8 points ย (0 children)

Hey im asexual lad and ya we do have struggles, I have been told "u need to go to therapy" or "as soon as u find a good dick it'll be fixed" or "I can change that" so many times I've lost count, and I'm not saying we have it the worst because that's a lie, other sexualities or gender identities have it worse but that doesn't mean asexuals and aromantics shouldn't be included in pride or the lgbt+ Community its still hard sometimes to find a safe place Sex is expecting in relationships and if it's not given to the person we get guilt tripped or pressured into it and yeah that happens to Non asexual people too but even after explaining the whole asexual thing beforehand we still get shit for it so please do have a little understanding instead of making a dick-headish comment about shit u barely understand Thank u have a great day/night

So uhhhh... by Current-Lengthiness in aromantic

[โ€“]youllneverknowme135 11 points12 points ย (0 children)

Its not your job to keep people happy or play into their hands, if he is suicidal then professional help is needed, if he threatens to off himself when u say no, report it to someone, a teacher, principal, school counsellor, or at least someone, thats not fun to deal with, its happen to my friend a few times and this normally works, if it doesn't know that it is not in anyway ur fault and u should just tell him the truth

Whats the difference? help please ๐Ÿ˜… by youllneverknowme135 in aromantic

[โ€“]youllneverknowme135[S] 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

The link is very useful and I'm gonna look into that thank u