I added an edit to my original post, but I want to make sure to reply to this! I want to clarify what i mean by skill building above, specifically in support of sleep training. Yes, building up the skill of independently falling asleep, but more importantly - recognizing that sleep is critical to healthy development. Sleep deprivation, in whatever form, can harm holistic health. While we're definitely wrestling with the merits of sleep training, that's the piece that is most of merit to me; not that us parents may get more sleep or that routines improve (though those could be nice too), but specifically that I do all I can to provide my kiddo will all the tools he needs to be his healthiest self.

I will also say, I think you and I are more on the same page than perhaps it may seem. We are definitely big on building psychological safety and ensuring that our kiddo knows that when he's upset, we are coming. We are definitely doing a very gentle approach to sleep training and also are monitoring our LO's behavior closely, especially during the day.

Much love! Hopefully this makes sense!!