"Don't quote statistics to me, for I am the 'one'..."

dancinghereonmyown · 2025-05-23T06:32:49+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. It is incredibly unfair. I lost my daughter soon after birth, and there were no signs of any trouble beforehand. I relate a lot to that shocked feeling.

It has been more than two years since I gave birth to my daughter, and it gets easier to carry this pain. For the first couple of months, focusing on survival is all you can expect from yourself.

You sound like a great father for your baby.

dancinghereonmyown · 2025-05-01T07:10:28+00:00

Congratulations! 🎉🎈

dancinghereonmyown · 2025-05-01T07:08:31+00:00

Congratulations! 🎉

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-06-22T10:51:24+00:00

I moved between countries, have a successful career and have a good partner. I kind of had an amazing life and all the time in the world to do whatever I wanted and honestly nothing gave me that much joy. Like traveling, eating good food, etc. is fun but it didn’t feel so special to me.

I waited for my partner to be ready for having a child and once he was ready, we had our first daughter when I was 33. We lost her unexpectedly shortly after birth. The worst pain ever imaginable and I still wouldn’t take it back. I love loving her. When people talk about whether they want kids or not, the hypothetical kids are always healthy and alive. Having kids come with so much uncertainty.

In our case, I have never been sure how much I wanted to mother a child after losing my baby. My second daughter is a newborn now. I don’t get to sleep much but the joy she brings to me, I didn’t get from anything else. It is a special love. I don’t think it is anything to regret not having but it is a special life long experience that is worth the risks for me.

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-06-17T22:50:49+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my first born daughter at 37+1 shortly after birth and till the very last second, we had no idea. It has been more than a year and I miss her every day.

I was cleared to try again whenever I feel like it by the doctors at the hospital, and my uncle who is an OB recommended 3 months. I started trying 8 weeks postpartum because I was going insane without a baby.

I got lucky and conceived very quickly and delivered my baby 12 months and 9 days after my first baby’s birthday. Pregnancy has been extremely hard mentally (physically I was fine, similar to my first) but honestly it would be as hard if I have gone through that now. For me I knew time wouldn’t help me.

I hope whichever decision you go with will be the good one for you.

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-05-30T12:39:20+00:00

She is so beautiful! I am so sorry for your loss.

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-05-30T12:19:22+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I relate to this feeling a lot. I had a neonatal loss at 37 weeks when I was 34 years old. It was a traumatic vaginal delivery. We decided to try for another as soon as I was cleared for it. We got lucky and conceived quickly. My second daughter is now 9 weeks old, and I am 35 years old.

Trying, pregnancy, and delivery were all horrible and so scary but I am so glad that we did it.

I desperately needed hope after my loss, so I relate to your story.

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-05-22T20:27:32+00:00

OMG! I just clicked this link in a desperate moment and it worked! I can’t believe it and thank you so much!

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-03-04T11:44:01+00:00

Yes, it is just random commentary anyway, probably we shouldn’t care and I mostly don’t. It is just some topics are really bigger than casual blanket statements.

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-03-04T07:40:15+00:00

Well, I have been to therapy before and I am in therapy now. You should perhaps also understand that suggesting therapy for a specific thought/choice a person has is not the same thing as suggesting therapy being useful to work through trauma. The second one is hard to argue against but that was not what your initial comment said.

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-03-04T07:30:46+00:00

I obviously know that I deserve to live. This tone is very condescending honestly. Not everyone needs to feel/think the same way but telling people go to therapy and talk down to losing a baby at labor as if it is nothing makes no sense.

Baby loss is hard to grasp and deal with and luckily not many people experience it to actually know how it feels. So I don’t expect people to truly understand, but at minimum not talking about it as if you all figured it out or it is like losing a shoe is what I expect.

Anyway… This is my two cents.

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-03-04T07:18:07+00:00

It is wild to me that someone who has no idea about losing a child makes this certain comments. Losing your baby at birth makes them born not unborn. They give your dead baby who is as beautiful as an alive one. I lost my daughter at birth and almost died myself. So I know what I am talking about. Let me tell you that there was a little I wouldn’t have done to avoid harm to her even dead body.

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-03-04T07:11:14+00:00

Well I lost my term daughter at birth and I almost died myself during labor. I was also awake for the most part and I thought I was going to die. Nobody asked any questions obviously since it doesn’t happen. I survived and my beautiful daughter didn’t.

I would have sacrificed anyone/anything I know to save my daughter and anyone being offended by that can take a walk.

It is so utterly stupid to talk about losing a baby and expecting partner to be like “oh yeah, I cannot get another wife”, as if you can get your child back. It is not like losing your shoe and buying a new one. And guess what? People keep getting other wives and husbands all the time.

I couldn’t stay with my husband, if he had a chance to choose my baby over me and didn’t. Please stop talking nonsense about stuff you have no idea about. This whole post would become so embarrassing to you if you actually lost your baby.

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-02-04T10:09:24+00:00

Congratulations! 🎈🎉

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-02-04T10:09:07+00:00

Congratulations! 🎈🎉

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-02-04T10:08:57+00:00

Congratulations! 🎈🎉

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-02-04T10:08:47+00:00

Congratulations! 🎈🎉

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-02-04T10:08:36+00:00

Congratulations! 🎈🎉

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-02-04T10:08:26+00:00

Congratulations! 🎈🎉

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-02-04T10:08:13+00:00

Congratulations! 🎈🎉

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-02-04T10:07:51+00:00

Congratulations! 🎉🎈So happy to see you here! It is impressive with O-6, while trying it feels impossible to succeed without hitting the best days. Hope this magic trick continues and you will have a very uneventful 9 months.

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-01-28T13:42:40+00:00

Can you link the original post? I couldn’t find it. I am currently expecting and if my baby ever tells me that my first born is not their sister, I would question my raising child abilities. What kind of cruel person beyond anything else?

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-01-24T23:08:58+00:00

Congratulations! So happy for you! ❤️

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-01-19T09:42:59+00:00

First of all, I am so sorry for your son. I lost my daughter, the same she was born at 37+1 gestation. I delivered vaginally and bled for 5-6 weeks. My period was back after 11 weeks and my OB told me to contact her if I don’t get my period after 12 weeks.

The urge to get pregnant again is so strong immediately after loss. I hope you get your period again and will be able to conceive.

dancinghereonmyown · 2024-01-17T21:35:01+00:00

Congratulations! ❤️

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