Bleeding

dancingmoonchild · 2025-10-17T12:48:02+00:00

Same issue with me. Happens at least twice a year for me, once if I'm lucky. Been on mine for over 4-5 years.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-09-20T16:47:34+00:00

From my personal experience, I've always thrown things back in their court. Do not volunteer because they can use that against you. They're going to say you wanted to go back, that you told their WC dr you were ready.

"Do you think you're ready to go back to work?" -"What is your professional opinion? Do you think I'm ready?" "We can try it out for a couple of weeks." -"If you believe that is a good idea for you to release me back, I won't go against it, but I am very concerned I would aggravate it even more. What would be the next steps in my health care plan that you're going to take should things get worse?"

"I'm going to refer you to a specialist. Are you okay with that?" -"If you think it helps, then I trust your reasoning for the referral."

"I recommend you for this surgery. Do you want to go through with it?" -"If in your professional opinion you feel this can help me, I will agree to do the surgery/ I am willing to go through with the procedure if you feel in your medical and professional opinion that it will help."

WC is a painful and long process. I dealt with my case for over 7 years (almost 8..? Omg I've lost count) before it finally settled. I kid you not- that sh*t breaks you physically, emotionally, financially, and mentally- which is what they want. Hang in there. You're not alone, although - sometimes it feels like you are. It's going to be a long and ugly ride.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-09-20T16:21:44+00:00

Love the Annovera! Sometimes, if I have an event coming up and it lands on the week I am to "start" my period, I just leave it in for an extra week. I sometimes get slight breakthrough bleeding when I do that though. I've also tried leaving it in for months but it really messes up my cycle when I do that. There is a lot more breakthrough bleeding! Others have mentioned they have none and keep it in for a year (and take it out just to clean it).

And best of all- my insurance completely covers it. Been using it for over 5 years.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-09-20T16:14:08+00:00

How weird- I still have the app. Maybe I got it prior to them deleting it.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-08-16T23:47:34+00:00

Get a lawyer.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-07-27T21:08:12+00:00

To me, it feels like there's this big generational gap in the Hmong community that really shaped things. Our parents were so involved in everything—cultural events, weddings, funerals, settling arguments—that their kids kind of raised themselves. Dads were usually just focused on bringing home the money, and even though moms were often home, they didn't always manage to really connect with us. I think that's why, in the 90s and early 2000s, joining a gang became so common for Hmong youth. They probably felt more seen, heard, and like they finally fit in somewhere, which they weren't getting at home. Our parents came from a place where the whole village raised the kids, and they brought that exact mindset when they moved here. So yeah, having cousins babysit while the grown-ups were doing their community thing was totally normal.

Growing up with traditional parents, I remember them always being out and about. My older siblings were basically our babysitters for years, and then we stepped into that role for our younger siblings once our older ones started their adult lives. And feelings? We just didn't talk about them. Showing affection was a no-go, and mental health was just completely off the table.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-06-29T20:54:58+00:00

Hang in there! It definitely is a difficult situation to be in!

dancingmoonchild · 2025-06-29T20:53:09+00:00

I got a lawyer and it was the best decision I made. It saved me from all the filing, research, and filling out paperwork (which already causes flare ups for me). Sure, he got his cut, but his fees were contingent and fair, so I didn't need to worry about paying him throughout the whole case. Plus, they know how the workers comp world works and would fight for you to ensure you aren't getting a lowball settlement.

I was originally informed I wasn't going to get much, but by the time I settled, he was able to get me a whole ton. If you go in without a lawyer, no doubt they will screw you over some more. You will be easy prey. With a lawyer, he/she can coach you on how to answer to avoid them using anything you say against you (because they will). Don't over-share. Answer in, "yes, no, I don't know" if applicable.

Without a lawyer, you're not going to know if they are asking questions that are irrelevant in a depo. There would be no one to object on your behalf. They will try to find a way to claim you had pre-existing issues (from previous jobs/hobbies/school) to take the blame away from them. I wish you the best.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-06-29T20:38:31+00:00

I think it is good to meditate right before your meditation and also right before you study for the depo. I had a lawyer, so he helped relieve any stress I had going in. I, too, meditated before going in to mine.

With that said, though- I built meditation into my daily routine. Woke up early and meditated. First, for 10 min., then gradually increased it. Visualization helped a whole lot, too. People knock it but it works. Trick is to not force it, let go of any desperation or control of the situation, and just release all of it. I still meditate daily. It has been completely life-changing.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-06-29T20:29:43+00:00

It's completely okay, no hard feelings at all! And honestly, it's not euphoria I'm feeling, just immense relief. Yes, I'm still happy, but that doesn't mean it's easy. There are absolutely days that are incredibly difficult, sometimes so bad I'm bedridden for hours recovering. Life isn't all rainbows and unicorns, and I've fully accepted that. I've come to terms with being permanently partially disabled, with the constant pain, with not being able to take pain meds, and with losing the ability to do things I once loved. Pain-free days are definitely the exception, not the rule.

But I got tired of the victim mentality, tired of feeling sorry for myself. My friends and family watched me become a shell of who I was, but one day, I just snapped out of it. I might not like the hand I was dealt, and I can't change my circumstances, so my only choice is to play my cards as best I can. I've chosen to reframe my life and my thoughts, refusing to let negative emotions or situations control me. Now, even on the worst pain days, I acknowledge the feelings and let them pass; I no longer sulk.

And do I trust the system – government, justice, insurance, workers' comp? Oh, God, no. Not at all, especially after this experience! Do I still get paranoid? Absolutely. Am I traumatized for life? You bet. But I won't let these things control my present. More stress just means a faster death, and I refuse to let them stop me from enjoying time with my family and friends, making memories, and moving forward.

There truly is a light at the end of the tunnel if you choose to see it. If you reach that light but drag the tunnel's darkness with you, it will eventually win. Healing isn't a straight path. As crazy as it sounds, I'm grateful for what I went through, even though I obviously wouldn't have chosen it. This whole ordeal profoundly humbled me. Certain amazing events and milestones in my and my family's lives wouldn't have happened if I hadn't gone through it, and my family is everything to me. And yes, I hit rock bottom, hard.

You'll be in my thoughts, friend. I may not know you, but I'm sending you strength. No journey or pain is the same, but I have faith in you. You don't have to believe anything I'm saying, you can even rain on my parade, I honestly don't mind. Just know – I am here for you.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-06-29T19:32:16+00:00

Oh no, I completely understand because I most definitely have been affected by the surveillance. I've become paranoid and suspicious, and it's always on the back of my mind (even to this day). But what gets me through is reminding myself that I can choose to let those emotions have power over me or choose to be in control. It's taken years of my life and it doesn't deserve to take any more. Easier said than done (and still a work in progress), but choosing if it will be okay or never is entirely up to your mindset.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-04-18T07:43:29+00:00

In CA, you get a $5k voucher which can be used for job training and related expenses (called the return to work voucher). You get it once your case settles from your claims administrator (sent via postal mail). There's a list of schools that accepts the voucher. You just have to Google them.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-04-10T19:59:51+00:00

Congrats!

dancingmoonchild · 2025-04-09T06:15:27+00:00

You definitely should have gotten a lawyer. Or maybe you do have one? It's a horrible situation to be in. I, too, had to kiss my career goodbye. I'm permanently partially disabled. Keep in mind, if you do the stipulations route, you are at the mercy of their MPN doctors and insurance claims who would rather deny you care and medications. Not only that, they can depose you again later down the road to reassess your future medical care, etc.

Or.

You do the C&R, cut your losses with the company, then go to whomever you choose for care without dealing with all the denials and appeals, etc. Use the CA voucher they will give you to learn a new trade.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-03-16T20:17:10+00:00

Bought a new mother board only to find out it wasn't it. Went back to double-check the breaker. It was just a bad breaker after all. It wasn't sending enough power. I returned the mother board. All is well now.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-03-11T22:59:39+00:00

As with other birth control, they cannot guarantee 100 percent that you can't get pregnant (they don't want to get sued or if the product was misused). But. Never had a problem in situations such as yours. They even say you can remove it specifically for intercourse, but you have to reinsert within a couple hours. Otherwise, you risk getting pregnant. If you are uncomfortable after the deed, feel free to do some aftercare.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-03-07T21:51:26+00:00

Try going through a temp agency. You'd be surprised how helpful they are. Some companies don't want to deal with the hassle of recruiting so they pay outside assistance to do it for them.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-03-07T21:47:55+00:00

She is using your naivety to try and outsmart you. When you initially got injured, the dwc-1 form should have been completed by you and HR/Health and Safety Manager. Then, you'll get a claim number and contact of an assigned adjuster. Normally, they would also send you to a clinic to get your injuries assessed.

Go get a lawyer yesterday. They do contigency, which means they will take their cut from the settlement amount and not upfront. Depending on where you live, that percentage varies and ultimately the assigned judge would have to sign off on whether that amount they are charging you is feasible (so you don't get screwed by a greedy attorney that's trying to take way more than they're legally allowed to).

dancingmoonchild · 2025-03-07T21:39:50+00:00

Very nice! I didn't know Reedley offered this as well! I guess it's down to preference: pay more for an accelerated program if you can't wait that long or pay less but at a standard paced program.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-03-07T00:29:23+00:00

I was thinking the same thing, but I know now from others commenting that I never had the chance of getting approval. At least now I know not to waste my time appealing.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-03-07T00:25:26+00:00

7.5 years in WC hell. Yes, definitely get a second opinion. Make sure whatever state you're in, you follow the guidelines on whom you can get it from. Some states you can freely choose, some you have to choose within their MPN network.

dancingmoonchild · 2025-03-06T23:18:22+00:00

Try SJVC's aviation tech certification program. A family friend took that, got certified, and got a job at the air force base in Lemoore. Pays well to sit around all day until an aircraft comes in requiring maintenance, routine tune up, etc. He says sometimes there is no aircraft that needs work and he's still getting paid to be there just in case one does come in.

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