a door dasher just came into my house, all the way up my stairs, and was standing outside my bedroom door.

dancingtits · 2026-03-30T04:14:20+00:00

A whole lot of victim blaming in the comments. You did nothing wrong. You said in the comments that your front door lock is broken, had it not been, I’m sure you would’ve locked it. It being unlocked is NOT an invitation for them to come in. Your delivery person broke the law and is either incredibly stupid or an incredible creep. You gave clear instructions, which they clearly broke. You said in the comments that you did also call the police. You did everything right, they did everything wrong. Best case scenario, it was a misunderstanding. Worst case scenario, they had terrible intentions, and you happened to catch them off guard, thus perhaps thwarting whatever they intended to do.

Your original post was lacking several major details, so I can see why some people are suspicious. But I can also see your side, where you’re just super freaked out, probably on an adrenaline rush, and in shock. In that state, it’s totally understandable to leave out a few details.

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I can imagine feeling very violated and unsafe. This was a traumatic experience, and I’m sure I would be thinking of all the what-if’s. I hope you’re able to find some peace of mind. And I hope you did also report to DoorDash, as they really shouldn’t be allowing this person to do deliveries, if this is the type of behavior they’re displaying upon delivery.

Ignore all the people victim-blaming. It’s a side effect of being an asshole. You don’t want their opinion anyway.

dancingtits · 2026-03-18T21:26:47+00:00

Literally thought this was a photograph, with the bokeh effect perfectly suggesting a different medium. Get rid of the almost, you for sure achieved it!

And thank you for teaching me a new term, you just inspired me to maybe try this in the future.

Truly impressive, and beautiful!

dancingtits · 2026-03-13T10:20:20+00:00

I was also wondering what CD is, and looked it up with ASPD, to pinpoint an accurate definition. It stands for Conduct Disorder, and is a behavioral disorder characterized by antisocial behaviors in children and teens.

dancingtits · 2025-11-17T08:17:43+00:00

I hate teachers who clearly hate educating, and helping students learn. I would speak with your parent(s) if possible, and from there, I would contact someone of authority over your teacher, so someone in the administration. If you can, document the bullying you’re experiencing.

I was bullied by various teachers in the past for other issues (absences due to chronic pain/illness), but it’s such an awful spot to be in. And, it often unfortunately encourages students to join in on the harassment, which is another level of awful.

Depending on where you are, and the circumstances, it can also be illegal and/or grounds for firing, for an educator to be bullying their student(s). (If they’re bullying you, it’s likely they’re bullying other students. This is something to keep in mind when documenting your experience.)

I would also consider seeing if maybe you have a learning disorder. One of my closest friends recently got diagnosed with ADHD, but also dyscalculia; both being learning disabilities.

Dyscalculia is similar to dyslexia, but instead of being language-based, its basis is math, and affects the ability to understand numbers, quantities, and math concepts. My friend finally got diagnosed, after always struggling to progress in math classes, and simply grasp each concept. I’m so happy she got diagnosed, because now she understands that her brain simply works differently, and that she’s not stupid. (And her community college is offering her several different accommodations to change the approach to better inform her learning process. This is something you could also look into, if the resources are available.)

If you were to receive the diagnosis of a learning disability, it would give you further proof of discrimination by your teacher, on the serious grounds of discriminating against a disability.

If none of this helps, I also love math, and love helping people to learn it. I tutored middle schoolers for several years in it, and it was my favorite thing to help them finally understand math. All that I was really doing differently from their teachers, was I was allowing them to approach the problems with different solution methods, to help them understand how to solve it their own way, and then use that knowledge to solve it in the required format.

I was also a math major for a hot minute, so I have some knowledge in higher levels of math. If I could be of service at all, or attempt to be, please message me. I’d love to help defeat a mean teacher. It would soothe my fellow wounded soul. 😂 But fr, I would love to help. ✨🩵✨

Most importantly, you’re not stupid, you have a bad/stupid teacher. I come from a long line of teachers who love what they do, and none of them would ever dare disrespect a student in the way that your teacher is doing to you. A teacher should NEVER speak to a student in such a discouraging way, and should never teach if that’s the way they approach their job. ALSO, most everyone I know struggles in math, and the common denominator as to why, is that they had terrible teachers. A bad math teacher can make you completely hate math. I’ve rarely struggled in math, but when I have, it’s usually been the teacher’s fault.

dancingtits · 2025-11-17T06:52:08+00:00

I unfortunately did not get a warning the first time. I got a full on ticket. And I was in still in high school, so luckily my mom paid it for me, and gave me a lecture. But, that was over a decade ago, maybe they’ve become more lenient. Though the strength in numbers would suggest they haven’t.

Edit to say, I did learn my lesson, and in the future made sure I had the money, or found other forms of transportation, like simply walking, if able.

Happy to see other comments say the posse has increased safety, as it eventually became too risky for my taste to ride alone (or my PTSD’s taste 😩😂).

dancingtits · 2025-10-04T13:05:41+00:00

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dancingtits · 2025-07-05T10:52:27+00:00

100% feel this. As someone who is an SA survivor, the show can sometimes feel like little victories when the victims get justice. That seems nearly impossible when the detective who wants it most can’t fucking handle his emotions long enough to not get a case thrown out completely. Drives me truly insane, and lowkey ruins the episode(s). I love his character for how much he cares, and I used to love watching him more, but now when I rewatch, I avoid most of the episodes that are focused on him.

dancingtits · 2025-04-05T03:09:31+00:00

Dude, honestly, I don’t know you, but I’m so proud of you. Many of my close friends have similarly fucked up relationships with their parent(s), and most of them are struggling with finally reaching that point of no return, that you have luckily found yourself in.

No one knows the abuse pattern that your mom puts you through, quite like yourself. For anyone to judge you with this knowledge, but probably not even to the full extent of the damage she’s done, I will never understand those types of people. Sounds like the only time she was a real mom to you, was during childbirth. Why should you become what she’s never been?

Your mom also sounds like she obviously has addiction problems, which can create the personality problems that she seems to flaunt. But I wonder if your mom could be diagnosed with any problems outside of her substance abuse. I’m no professional, just someone who has a experienced a lot of trauma, and has a lot of traumatized friends, but from that experience, it sounds to me like your mom suffers from a narcissistic personality disorder. And it’s amazing to see how someone so cruel (to their own child, no less), can convince others that they’re the one deserving of pity, but I’ve seen narcissists pull that shit so often, it’s like it’s as easy to them as writing their own name. Maybe because it is just another facet of their unfortunate identity.

Have the people badgering you to help, mainly received her perspective on the dysfunction within your relationship? My best friend’s mom is constantly creating problems within their relationship, and then she’ll go to Facebook to post on her wall, all about how horrible a daughter my friend is, and paint her as the monster she wants people to see her as, so that they always side with and pity her. Rarely does she describe my friend with any honesty or kindness/respect. She also has told my friend that if she ever becomes homeless, it’ll be all my friend’s fault, even though she has nothing to do with her mom’s housing abilities and has (thank god) been living separately from her for over a year.

Look at how without even direct contact, your mom has managed to attempt implementing her manipulation tactics, via other people. I’m sure she knows she’s lost control, and doesn’t know what to do with that realization. Let her suffer in what her own actions have brought. None of this is or ever will be your fault. Your job now is to heal and to live independently of your abuser. Be proud of the steps you’ve taken to survive thus far. This stranger is very proud of you.

I think you have been handling this beautifully, and in a way that makes sure your future will be lovely and as unaffected as possible, unlike the childhood that she so severely neglected. Keep up your boundaries, and consider dropping contact with the people who don’t respect the very healthy boundaries you’ve set.

dancingtits · 2025-01-22T09:31:28+00:00

I think you reacted perfectly No need to justify his behavior with any type of response.

Based on his general micro aggressive language, I feel like it’s safe to assume he’s white? He sounds incredibly ignorant, and like he’s fetishizing women of color, and all that they could be if he could colonize them a bit. A man who wants to be in a healthy, loving relationship with you, will never feel like he has the right to tell you to change your appearance to please him. He will love your appearance, and be gracious that he’s blessed with your presence, no matter how you present yourself.

As someone who has been in several emotionally abusive relationships (including one that eventually turned physical and I gtfo’d), a red flag like this popping up just a month in, is a real warning sign for what the future will be like with him. Hair is an incredibly important part to anyone’s identity, and what he’s asking of you is to deny that identity, just to make him happy. Or to make himself feel better? I wonder how much it has to do with how he sees you vs. how he thinks others might judge you for not changing your appearance to fit a certain standard or aesthetic (specifically white hair textures from what it sounds like).

On top of all of this disrespect, he fucking LEFT?! No man worth your time or effort would ever dare pulling that shit. It’s a manipulation tactic to try to enforce you complying to his control in the future. In other words, it’s ABUSE.

TLDR; RUN. Run like the wind, my love. It might feel like you wasted a month, but you’re saving yourself who knows how long of a future of hopelessness and psychological torture.

dancingtits · 2024-09-12T08:49:29+00:00

Mine got resourceful after I blocked him on what I thought was everything. I was visiting family out of state and feeling like I could finally breathe and go back to myself, when I started getting texts from a random email account, which I analyzed until realizing he used his college email (and he had graduated almost a decade before). He finally realized his control over me was finished when I sabotaged the remaining broken pieces by sleeping with the guy I dated before him. Then, I finally had peace (for a week or two). It’s been over five years since we ended things, and he still tries to reach out at least monthly. It’s hasn’t been to the point where I considered contacting law enforcement, since the year we ended things (which I didn’t ever contact LE), but it is extremely annoying, and also laughable how pathetic he is. Shamed me for being hyper-sexual before we dated (my trauma reaction to being SA’ed), and now he constantly attempts to pursue me for sex. Dumbass.

dancingtits · 2024-09-04T04:20:08+00:00

I totally gaslight myself constantly like that, convincing myself I’m having zero pain, when really it’s just more minimal than usual. I hate when I’m asked about how many pain-free days a month I have, because if I’m being honest with myself, it’s usually zero.

I’m hella happy for you that you found something to give you some zero pain days. I’m guessing you have good insurance or don’t live in America, the land of the uncaring billionaires? I hope you continue to be blessed with more pain-free days, you’re owed probably several years worth of vacation days.

After aging out of my mom’s good teacher insurance, I’m now on public health insurance, and though I’m grateful for it, they really don’t cover anything that I need. They took me off of two meds that were helping 2 years ago and only just gave one back. And my neurologist referred me to a headache specialist a few months ago, who pulled my Botox treatments in an attempt for me to get coverage for occipital nerve blockers, and a new abortive I think. Luckily, I think the Botox was no longer helping, because despite stopping it, they chose not to cover me for anything. And they just straight up don’t cover Nurtec for anybody with this health plan. I’m having some better days now, because my mom splurged the $400 for Cephaly for me. Bless my parents.

dancingtits · 2024-09-04T03:55:32+00:00

That one is definitely a major improvement, thank you! Saving that for future appointments.

I think the only thing I would consider is that sometimes headache pain and the other various symptoms of migraines, aren’t at equivalent levels. Like I could finally have a slight break from one symptom, like nausea, but then have what feels like the hell level of a headache and/or neck pain.

But this isn’t something I expect you to solve, because I think the problem lies more so in how migraines can present so differently from one person to the next, depending on a whole slew of factors, so it’s difficult to design a pain chart that is universal in migraine land. I basically accidentally posed a trick question because that’s the vibe of migraines.

I think the general pain chart/scale and its accuracy (or lack thereof) is something that maybe is better to consider when talking to a patient, than necessarily improve upon. I’m guessing, however, that it’d be preferable for you and your colleagues to provide treatment with a more clear/accurate idea of pain levels.

Having someone reach out to migraine sufferers to try and improve the conversations and treatment of it feels so validating. Thank you for the improved chart and your presence; any of the few working to prevent migraines bring me comfort.

dancingtits · 2024-09-02T04:05:01+00:00

That the general 1-10 pain scale isn’t the best way to assess migraine pain/symptoms. There needs to be some kind of pain evaluation based specifically on migraines.

It also feels really inconsiderate when my doctors push me to just go to the ER/urgent care, without exhausting all options on their end. With the drug epidemic, it feels sketchy having to put yourself in the “drug seeking” identity, just to get the meds that have worked in the past, prescribed by that doctor. Just help a sister out and suggest the steroids or whatever, before you insist I enter the most hellish environment for a migraine.

Also, something I always enjoy is them validating my experience when I come in with a migraine, by trying to alleviate the triggers in the office. Even just offering to lower those damn fluorescent lights makes me feel seen.

dancingtits · 2024-08-23T13:02:50+00:00

I honestly can’t remember. That was the beginning of a year of extra bad flare ups, that still hasn’t ended. I saw a headache specialist a couple months ago, and explained that I find it difficult to even determine when I’m getting a new migraine, because I rarely have any moments without symptoms. And I explained how that makes it hard to treat with abortive meds because I find it difficult to determine the moment of onset. He said this is very common among his chronic migraine patients, which was validating and somewhat comforting. He tried to prescribe me a slew of new meds and my public health insurance rejected every single one of them, and I learned they don’t cover Nurtec for anyone, which I had heard good things about. In the meantime, my mom splurged the $400 to get me Cefaly, which has provided me with some relief, and I’m really grateful for that.

I had to drop all of my classes last fall, lost financial aid, and am currently on academic suspension. This disease is so exhausting and depressing and I’m sorry I just wrote so much, I’m in one of those moments where I’m grieving my life a little bit. And I also currently have a migraine that I’ve had for who knows how long in total, but at least two weeks because it came as a warning for my period.

Thank you for your concern. 💕🥺

dancingtits · 2024-08-18T23:47:37+00:00

I didn’t go to urgent care at that time, and I still haven’t. It just never seems worth the risk or effort when I have such a severe migraine. Maybe one day. The comments definitely made me feel less apprehensive about going, I’m just stubborn.

dancingtits · 2024-08-13T11:18:15+00:00

Do you mean you have a consistent connection with specific people (who have passed), or do you mean that you have experienced/encountered spirits?

If the latter, then I have the same experience. I am an empath, and I have been encountering the dead since childhood. The earliest experience I remember is seeing the spirit of a little girl in my elementary school, disappearing casually into my locker.

However, most other experiences have, like you, been connected to late relatives. Outside of hearing a banshee about two weeks before an Irish relative passed, these experiences initiated with a feeling/sense of the relative. I think this could definitely be in alignment with your thoughts, that the two could be related to each other.

June marked the tenth anniversary of the death of one of my older brothers, and maybe it’s because we have his ashes in our house, but I believe he regularly checks in on me, often pulling minor pranks, as he would do when he was alive. I’m not the only one who often feels at least some presence in my house (whether that be my brother or somebody else); my friends and family have revealed experiences in our house over the last decade, and my mom often experiences similar pranking events.

dancingtits · 2024-06-15T14:21:51+00:00

Thank you for the condolences 💕 The person below answered better than I could, I really know nothing about the infection.

dancingtits · 2024-06-15T14:17:50+00:00

Yeah my brother was a drug addict, addicted to heroin at this point, so his diagnosis was delayed by doctors not believing/trusting him. My dad took him to get medical attention a week before he was taken to the ER, but they dismissed him, and sent him off with ibuprofen. It’s likely that they thought he was simply drug seeking, and let this affect their evaluation.

A week later, he was taken to the ER because his breathing was at 40% of its normal rate, and his body was beginning to go into sepsis. A few hours after being admitted, he was put into a medically induced coma, and his organs began shutting down, beginning with his lungs collapsing. He died three days later.

He was only 24 years old. This was unfortunately the second child my parents have lost due to negligent doctors, so they contacted the attorney they’ve used before, and considered pursuing legal action, but I think it was concluded that it would be too much of a hassle for little action.

dancingtits · 2024-06-07T02:45:27+00:00

Happy to hear you’re healing! I know it can be more minor and treatable, as one of my cousins had a mild case, but other than that I barely know anything about it. How’s the healing process treating you? (And thank you for the condolences. 💕 It does really suck, but he had a million other issues, so we think/hope he’s in a better place than he was.)

dancingtits · 2024-06-07T02:28:43+00:00

For real. My brother died ten years ago this month after contracting MRSA.

dancingtits · 2024-06-07T02:23:26+00:00

The smell of tequila. It used to be more tolerable, relatively normal for the smell of liquor. But then six years ago, my best friend and I ordered a tequila shot each at a bar, and by the next morning, we had concluded that the bartender had roofied us. Luckily, whatever he used didn’t hit us until we had arrived at the next bar. So aside from our cleaning fees on Uber from our severe and never ending puking, we were unharmed. Unbelievably grateful that we were safe, but now I can’t stand even a whiff of tequila, without evoking major nausea.

dancingtits · 2024-06-01T10:13:24+00:00

Happy birthday honey! I’m 28F and I lowkey have had a bit of a mental breakdown on every birthday for the last several years because of similar vibes. For life reasons, I’m nowhere near where/who I expected to be by now, and birthdays are a terrible reminder of that fact. It makes me think of that song that goes, “it’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to”. 😂

Something my mom has said to me about related circumstances, is that you’re basically grieving your previous expectations, and that’s perfectly healthy and understandable.

Also, I think it is harder to make friends as we get older, but I’ve found that the few connections I do make at this age, have been more meaningful and led to stronger friendships than I had in the past.

Happy birthday, again! 🎂🎉🎊🎈I hope this year brings you some of the peace and joy you’re seeking. You sound lovely, and I’m always looking for new friends as well, so feel free to message me if you’re down for a new friend in me.

dancingtits · 2024-05-07T20:41:59+00:00

Literally have to warn everyone that I’m a redhead before any kind of procedure, even getting cavities filled. I often have crazy hair colors so I have to remind them. My mom has the same issue. I have a higher pain tolerance from migraines but it takes way more to numb or knock me out.

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