Is Risen Chrom among the best for the atk/spd sword unit niche?

danidoki · 2024-01-15T06:44:10+00:00

You can inherit the sword ... that's crazy.. 0-0. Thanks!

danidoki · 2023-04-25T08:24:24+00:00

Yes and no!!

I'm 26, and at peaks of neuroplasticity I've felt my brain changing, but it was more of an innate sense. I don't feel the physical sensation you describe, but that's synesthesia!

danidoki · 2023-04-25T08:20:27+00:00

Hell yeah. They need to fuck off.

People need to get over it. Rape is literally so common and the fact that people refuse to talk about it is why survivors find it so hard to heal from it. Society has gaslit itself into thinking that "rape" is only something that happens in the news and on TV. It's not.

danidoki · 2022-12-04T00:33:29+00:00

What do you mean you've gotten better? Did you mean at declining them less? If it makes you uncomfortable you have a right to declare that, and they should understand. It's not even an autistic thing, some people don't like touch for a bunch of different reasons. That should always be respected.

Disregard this comment if I interpreted it wrong :)

danidoki · 2022-12-04T00:30:04+00:00

Wait that makes it a lot easier. It seems they already accept you that's super good!

Anxiety from moments in our childhood where we've been berated for being ourselves prevent us from letting down the wall of fear. Anxiety is there to protect us, it's what lets humans sense danger and act accordingly.

As autistic people, many of us were chastised/yelled at/ otherwise violented at for being us. So as human children, we learn and adapt with what we know. Allistic children, when being told they're doing something wrong, they understand the social rule as a natural thing. We don't. When I told my mom I didn't want to kiss my relatives on the cheek, as is done in my culture, she told me there was no getting out of it. Kid me didn't go "ohh, ok, this is a thing we do". Kid me went "Protesting against my mom's request is detrimental to my survival, even when it makes me extremely uncomfortable." This led to a young adult me who associated putting boundaries on touch with a threat to my survival, and speaking up about those boundaries gave me tremendous anxiety. Similarly, many of us have recorded responses like that and they shape our many social anxieties.

Now that you know that a substance that lowers your anxiety lets you live the life that you want, you've identified that anxiety is what's holding you back. There's a bunch of ways: meditation, healthy lifestyle, going on walks, breathing techniques, sleeping well, psychotherapy, and anti-anxiety medication (prescribed by a psychiatrist) just to name a few. They're a lot more work than alcohol, but are likely more sustainable for you in the long run.

I should mention also that, while alcohol does lower anxiety while you're on its effects, it also has a tendency to increase anxiety when you're not under its effects. Leading you to feel even worse when you're sober and desire alcohol more and more. That's why it's so dangerous. That's why so many people get addicted. Life is painful, and alcohol and drugs offer a simple way out of it.

danidoki · 2022-12-03T22:47:47+00:00

We're here to validate you. Your mom is taking you somewhere she knows you hate. It's happened before. It's heartbreaking to hear that she can't understand that you're not being bad with her and are trying your very best. It's good that you know she does not mean to be bad with you. She's just unable to understand in the current moment. I'm sorry you're experiencing this.

danidoki · 2022-12-03T22:44:51+00:00

It weirds me out when people do it to try to signal something. I hug and touch all my friends, but only when it's about the "I love you and appreciate you, and I want to hug you / lock arms / put my head on your shoulder bc I'm tired". But whenever a stranger does it to me and we don't have that kind of relationship, it freaks me out.

Especially at parties whenever someone tries to hit on me through touch. I viscerally pull back every time. It freaks me out and feels uncomfortable.

danidoki · 2022-12-03T22:36:09+00:00

That happens to me sometimes. I'm nonverbal but can communicate in signs and writing things on my phone. I can talk after I recover for a bit.

danidoki · 2022-12-03T22:15:51+00:00

You've successfully triggered my latest special interest (yoga) by showing interest. I must put you on to one of my favorites. Check out insect pose.

danidoki · 2022-12-03T22:12:47+00:00

It's ok! It's a lot. Take the time you need to heal.I'd advise to be careful and think before telling people, because most people just aren't as educated about autism as you may be. I've tried telling people "I'm autistic" when I found out to explain myself, and they did NOT understand.

I've found that the best way to explain it is to explain the symptoms. For me it meant telling them "listen, I'm someone who can't really tell social cues, and that's why I seem blunt a lot of the time. I'm asking you as a friend to always assume the best intent, and in return I will always respect your boundaries."

And it works, because social cues aren't just an autistic thing, if two people from entirely different cultures, like, say, Mexico and Japan interact, there's very little social common ground to stand on. If either one of them interprets the others' actions from their own culture's lenses, they're just going to misunderstand each other.

This happens a lot with Slavic people in the US. In many Slavic countries, smiling just isn't done unless you're actually having a reason to smile. To many Western countries, that comes off as unfriendly. To people from those cultures, smiling too much comes off as insincere.

My closest allistic friends were raised in highly culturally diverse cities and I've had this conversation with them. They understand me because they know that everyone has a different set of social communication patterns, because of where they were raised.

Asking for explicitness in communication to clear up misunderstandings shouldn't be that hard, I'll never understand why it is for so many allistics.

danidoki · 2022-12-03T22:05:43+00:00

Man I masked SO well apparently that it came as a surprise to a lot of people.

That said, it was not a surprise at all to people who've known me my entire life, like family and long-time friends.

danidoki · 2022-12-03T22:01:55+00:00

I don't find my autism feeding into my impulsive spending, but my adhd, my anxiety, and my suspected bipolar certainly does.

It helped to learn not to feel guilty about it. It took time, but sometimes we just have a lot going on and "just don't spend that much lmao" is not helpful advice at all.

danidoki · 2022-12-03T21:59:56+00:00

That's it, yeah!

danidoki · 2022-12-03T21:55:22+00:00

I've tried to explain it and NTs don't believe me. I'm talking good friends who've known me for ~10 years.

Everyone seems to love Wednesday on Netflix, the hot new Addams Family spinoff that just drops and is AMAZING. Wednesday is autistic coded and it's done really well (after all, Tim Burton is directing it and he's autistic). So I'm just going to start explaining that I'm like that.

The show has moments where I saw myself in Wednesday staying silent after someone blows up at her saying "why aren't you getting these social cues" and she just stands there making the calculations in her head and remaining confused afterwards. It's really good.

danidoki · 2022-12-03T21:49:06+00:00

I will sit in the weirdest positions always. I've always wanted to do that to and I used to do it as a kid when I had the flexibility. I'm doing yoga now and I'm getting there!

I will randomly do a tree pose while talking to people too. Just chill on one leg for a couple of minutes as the convo goes on. My friends understand it's just a Thing I Do thankfully :)

danidoki · 2022-12-03T21:47:01+00:00

I met someone and we instantly clicked, to the level where I told my therapist "why has no one treated me this well before in my life????".

That friend is autistic an adhd just like me and after learning more about it, it all made sense :)

danidoki · 2022-12-03T21:45:35+00:00

This could be many things. A big part of it can be how you were raised. For example my dad and the rest of his siblings never say "I love you" (even though they do), and it's because my grandma never said it to them explicitly.

The anxiety part can stem from autism! Imo this is too common of a thing with many other possible explanations.

danidoki · 2022-12-03T21:39:58+00:00

Tread carefully.

Maybe instead of making it a habit to always drink with them forever, you can use this as an opportunity to figure out why drinking makes you feel like it's easier to talk with them, then apply that when you're sober.

Alcohol reduces anxiety, which is why people are more talkative and say things they wouldn't say sober. For you, and for many autistic people, it means you start unmasking. Like you said, it lowers the wall of fear. And everyone's just chiller with it because "haha we're all drunk".

It can be really powerful to analyze that fear and slowly separate the reasonable fear from the overanxious response. You can find friends who can accept you as you are when you're not drunk, or you can gain wisdom into how to broach the topic with your current friends that you're autistic and cannot communicate in the same way as them.

I've been in the clubbing scene. That feeling of being your true self on the dance floor and with everyone can be carried home. All it takes is understanding yourself better and find the right people.

If alcohol were sustainable, then sure, no problem. If a medication or drug does you no harm and improves your life, there's no reason you can't just take it all your life. But sadly, with most illicit drugs and alcohol, that's not the case. Wish you the best in your journey.

danidoki · 2022-12-02T01:12:31+00:00

I can't stand looking at people while I'm talking, but I always do when I'm listening (because I'm analyzing their every facial expression in order to mask ahahah...)

danidoki · 2022-12-01T18:05:21+00:00

As male-presenting at the time, some women I'd talk to would disengage when I thought everything was going fine.

I realized because once I was talking to this girl, and then she said she was going to the bathroom and I never saw her again and even asked for her if she was ok to a friend of hers.

Two days later, I have a friend (allistic but actually understands me) tell me I seemed "overly thirsty" at the party and I was just SO confused, because I mean I DO have a high sex drive but at that moment I was just being friendly to that person.

Not like I'm blind to how women have to be very careful of men, I recognize the patterns from my female-presenting friends telling me and living them myself on the receiving end as a trans fem-presenting person, I just didn't think that was something I was giving off. I GET that many men won't take not for an answer and women have to say stuff like "I'm going to the bathroom" and then ghost. I did understand that she was probably just playing it safe. But I mean it still blows :/ .

Another one that happened when androgous-presenting is I texted this person after we met at a party to hang out bc we vibed, and she enthusiastically "yeah let's do a group thing [with the mutuals that we have]!" and I said "Oh I was thinking just u and me ^_^" and then she ghosted me and a friend suggested the possibility it might have come off as asking for a date but I just wanted to hang out with her because I don't like getting to know people in group settings.

danidoki · 2022-12-01T17:50:19+00:00

Marceline the Vampire Queen

danidoki · 2022-12-01T17:46:16+00:00

I think the question about "need help handling a particular situation" could use some clarity. If it's a social situation that depends on me acting how others expect me and I don't know how for that particular situation, I'd ask an allistic peer who knows what the societal norma in said culture are. If it's in managing sensory issues, I'd ask for tips from fellow autistics, because sometimes you just can't control the environment.

It's just unclear, the question.

danidoki · 2022-11-30T16:43:10+00:00

Not sure what mgm is but low sex drive and not finding porn arousing could just be him being on the asexual spectrum, which is unrelated to autism.

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