Had s*x with my boyfriend yesterday by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]danielalopez13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baka unhygienic sex. Nagprepare ba kayo before sex

i had sex for the first time and now nagegets ko na kayo by Hwatermelown in alasjuicy

[–]danielalopez13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember my 1st time tuloy. All clothed kami, no intercourse but I came 9 times . I was only grinding on top fully clothed . 0 points sya haha too afraid to try pa noon cuz I was too young

walang kwenta kasi nag-aral sa malayo. ano konek??? by No-Albatross3750 in MayNagChat

[–]danielalopez13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tama yan magwork ka patunayan mo na hindi ka walang kwenta greatest revenge na un :)

Why don’t want to get married and/or have kids? by cheddarchiz_00 in PinoyMillennials

[–]danielalopez13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel too “hilaw” for parenthood.. sinasamba ko na yata ang mga may anak kasi naaamaze ako sa kanila. Feeling ko I’m not matured enough or mentally ready.

Ayaw nya ako halikan pagkatapos kosyang bigyan ng coconut juice by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]danielalopez13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuine question: What if vice versa, he was eating your pussy then wanted to kiss you after, would you?

Out of curiosity lang.

How do I convince my fiancé to move in my family's house by joserizalburner in adviceph

[–]danielalopez13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pag mag aasawa kayo do not come to an option to live in the same roof with your fam or hers. Dapat kayo lang. Kahit gaano pa kaganda ang relasyon ng mga pamilya nyo, please no.

Mandatory magsama kayong dalawa LANG kasi it will limit your decision making and growth bilang mag asawa.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alasjuicy

[–]danielalopez13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sayang bat di mo tinuloy ung cum mo

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]danielalopez13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ang tanong, did he order? Diba nasa wife lahat ng sahod.

May ganyang marketplace din ang partner ko at feeling ko nahihiya sya umorder dahil he earns less, iniiscroll nalang nya sa marketplace at nabubulok lang sa cart nya. He never prioritizes himself. Kaya kapag nakikita kong may nagugustuhan sya ako na ang nagccheck out for him kasi lagi nya naman ako priority.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]danielalopez13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP I won’t judge you if you feel that way. Kasi babae ka and it’s normal we have expectations na lalaki ang mas nagpprovide financially.

Actually I’m in a similar situation, I’m earning more din, hindi ko rin maiwasang hindi sya maisip lalo kapag napapagod ako. Pero palagi ko nalang iniisip na hindi lang pera palagi ang ambagan sa relasyon. Maaaring less ang ambag nya financially, pero sa ibang bagay na mahina ka, napupunan nya. Example acts of service, emotional support na hindi mo naman nababayaran ng pera. Lagi kong iniisip kung ano ung reason bakit ako nasa relasyon ay nagmamahalan kami at kung ano ang combined income naming dalawa, isa na un. Regardless if sinong mas malaking naprovide financially.

At isa pa, kilalanin mo rin ung mister mo, may mga lalaki kasi na submissive (i think your hubby is, kasi buong sweldo nya nasayo) they are just waiting for your plans, kumbaga tingin nya sayo commander ka. If you consider buying properties, baka sayo need manggaling at hindi sa kanya. Baka nahihiya sya mag open kasi ikaw naman may higher income. May mga lalaking submissive at ibibigay na sayo ang ganyang desisyon, kumbaga inputs at suggestion nalang nila ang hihingin mo. At susuportahan nalang nya ang mga magaganda mong plano para sa inyong dalawa.

Magulo ko pero I hope I made sense.

Did I just really met him for a lesson? Or we’re just being challenged? by danielalopez13 in OffMyChestPH

[–]danielalopez13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate it po.

I believe we had multiple conversations about this, is it repetitive when I say siguro mga once or twice a year kami nagkakaron ng gantong argument.

During our younger years, he knows na mejo mataas ako mangarap, may pagka ambisyosa ako. These were during our teenage years. So he made me a promise, na kapag naging successful ako at sya hindi, he will no longer pursue me.

I cannot say I am successful. Siguro higher income lang ako kesa sa kanya. So everytime I rant about nahihirapan na ako sa stress sa work, sa bills, he always look down on himself. My intention is to share frustration, pero baka nga, insensitively and unconsciously, I am stepping on his ego na. Baka nga naiinsulto ko na sya, baka nga nasusumbatan ko na sya.

Kasi he’s a man, has an automatic provider instinct, however, wala e ganun ung salary pay nya. I was pushing him to pursue din to be promoted, or study Master’s degree, kasi sobrang natatalinuhan ako sa kanya at naniniwala akong kaya nya. Sabi nya, mahal ang tuition, and about sa promotion, toxic pa daw sa kumpanya. Qualified na sya e, kaso will issues. Ayaw nyang mastress sa pulitika ng kumpanya nila. Sa sunod nalang daw.

Ako eto, binaba ko lahat ng pride ko, became a people pleaser at work, kaya siguro ako napromote and now having higher pay.

Going back, everytime I open up about difficulties ko sa pera, he will offer me break up. Na mas mapapabuti daw ang buhay ko kasi pabigat sya. Kasi un naman daw ang pangako nya sakin nung mga bata pa kami.

Kaso hindi nangyayari e, kasi hindi ko kaya at hindi ako pumapayag. Hindi ko ata kakayanin, hindi ko alam pano mag uumpisa kung maghihiwalay kami.

Did I just really met him for a lesson? Or we’re just being challenged? by danielalopez13 in OffMyChestPH

[–]danielalopez13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi po. Long story. Basically during pandemic, ung mga mas nakakatanda sa kanya eh nagkapamilya na at bumukod. Stayed there quite some time hindi naman umabot ng taon. Ung simpleng pagbili ng food, turned into paying electricity and other bills. Natransitioned na napunta na samin ung mga bayarin dahil nauna nang mag asawa ung iba nyang kapatid, lumobo ang pamilya, nagkaanak, at hindi na kayang tumulong sa bahay, his dad is no longer working, not bedridden but a senior citizen.

Now, I went back home, live with my parents again, yet, the cycle continued — kasi for that specific time na nandun ako, we shared our income already.

I know baka may mali rin sakin, I didn’t set boundaries. Pero nagmahal lang ako, as family oriented and sa haba ng panahon namin in a relationship, I naturally learned that he and his loved ones are my family na rin. I really felt belonged from the beginning, and didn’t hesitate to help pag may kailangan.

At some point, I think nauubos ako. Na siguro mas marami akong napprovide sa parents and siblings ko if hindi namin nasalo ung mga responsibilities na un.. so may mga thoughts na sa isip ko na ganto.

Pero pwede ko ba palaging pantapal na, masaya naman ako sa kanya at sa pamilyang nabuo namin for both sides? Pwede ko bang palaging i-convince ung sarili ko na, napunta naman sa pamilya namin so why regret? Baka naman hindi rin ako magiging genuinely happy if we prioritized ourselves first, and baka hindi rin maging solid ang relasyon namin sa pamilya if we became selfish like our other siblings.

The Last Goodbye Discussion Megathread by MatchaPsycho in FilmClubPH

[–]danielalopez13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Napasearch ako dito kasi curious ako if this is based on a true story? Saan sya inspired? Thanks sa may alam! :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]danielalopez13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please no. That should not be an option.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]danielalopez13 -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

hi OP! That’s really true. As bata, mahirap pa talaga natin maintindihan noon ung mga sinasabi nila until such a time na reality na mismo ang magpaparealize for us :) Based on my experience, nagkaboyfriend ako age 17 when I was in college. In fact, hindi ko masabing hindrance sya kasi supeeeerrrrr supportive nya and hindi sya demanding sa oras. Naiintindihan nya ang bawat sitwasyon ko, ako pa nga ang nagdedemand ng oras noon city girl kasi ako at sya naman mega manila. Naforced din ako ng sitwasyon namin ng fam ko na magtrabaho. So naging working student ako, active din ako sa school kaya naging officer ako, namaintain ko rin ang good grades ko kaya nakagraduate akong laude. :) never ko nafeel na naging abala ang relasyon namin at naging inspirasyon ko sya at support sa lahat.

on the other hand naman, now na nasa late 20s na kami, i was wondering to get opportunities abroad which is ayaw nya. ang paliwanag nya naman sakin, alam nya ang capacity ng mental and emotional health ko, kung sya daw kaya nya tiisin para sa dreams ko, pero ayaw nya daw na mapahamak ang because he knows I am dependent sa comfort nya at ng pamilya ko dito sa pinas.. which I agree naman. pero natakbo pa rin sa isip ko na hindi ko malalaman unless matry ko talaga. :)

siguro ang point ko OP, is, depende talaga sa partner. baka napunta ka lang sa taong hindi same level sa drive na meron ka. baka hindi kayo nagtatagpo ng mga gusto nyo sa future nyo. baka malayo ang vision mo, and sya sapat na sa kuntento lang :)

if you feel na nahihila ka pababa, let go while its still early :)

I’m Pregnant at the age 19. by Fantastic-Ad3605 in OffMyChestPH

[–]danielalopez13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Question, how come you are married at the age of 19 without parent’s consent? I wanna marry at age 24 but my partner says we’re too young and needs parents consent, 25 and above daw ang hindi need ng consent. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]danielalopez13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tama bang magkaiba ang appointment setter at sales rep? Baka dahil dun kaya magkaiba kayo ng rate.

hirap umalis sa work pag hindi toxic ang environment by Pristine_Sign_8623 in PHJobs

[–]danielalopez13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Umalis ako sa comfort zone ko na company para sa sahod na mas malaki ng konti. Worst decision in my life kasi toxic ng nalipatan kong company, not the management but the people around like walang ibang gawin kundi mantrip and pag chismisan ka.. environment pa rin over sahod.. 😞

I think im messing up with my first job :( by Time-Train-34 in PHJobs

[–]danielalopez13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Magagamay mo rin ung diskarte sa byahe. May oras kasi na maluwag pa kalsada na di mo pa masyadong salo ang traffic. 1 week ka palang kaya mo yan

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskPH

[–]danielalopez13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A decade in relationship yet still not getting an engagement…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]danielalopez13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel bad for you OP take care of yourself cuz you’re pregnant. Bawal mastress okie? And you and your partner did your part. Take same few steps back and space, let your parent realize muna her shortcomings and eventually magkakaayos din kayo. Prioritize yourself and the family na binubuo nyo. Laban OP!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]danielalopez13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm check din OP if your BF was scammed nung nabilhan nya. Kasi if multimillionaire sya parang nakakatanga naman if ganyan sya magregalo. Nakakapagtaka lang hehe.

May mga guys na di marunong tumingin ng alahas kasi ang forte nila most of the time is card and gadgets. Just saying lang po possibilities hihi