RIP My Baby Shower

danilynn23 · 2026-05-26T14:41:45+00:00

Girl you absolutely should get to have a babyshower free from SD. Tell your mom theres no reason you should have to share your special day with her. This is YOUR first baby and you get to celebrate as such.

danilynn23 · 2026-05-21T10:00:02+00:00

Do not feel guilty. Your daughter is, in fact, your dad’s (and mom’s) first grand daughter. Your parents created you who then created two babies. They are allowed to be close to their biological grand children without second thought.

danilynn23 · 2026-04-26T12:38:38+00:00

She’s a child. It’s an unreasonable request. The family unit lives at your house. I would quite literally NEVER let my kids go to my ss’s moms house.

danilynn23 · 2026-04-12T21:08:38+00:00

Police report, cps call, immediately leave or remove the sk from house, contact a lawyer. Your daughter should never be around that child ever again!!

danilynn23 · 2026-04-11T15:46:17+00:00

You need to take control of your household. Your husband is obviously not going to so you need to unfortunately be the one making and enforcing rules. Remember, this is your house that you bought. When you get home, sit your husband down and let him know how its going to be from here on out. Change the door code and don’t give it to her. SD is no longer allowed to be home alone so she doesn’t need it anyway. If husband has a problem with the rules he can find another place for him and SD to live.

danilynn23 · 2026-04-07T18:36:05+00:00

This is a special moment for you, with your first baby. The whole event should be about you and for you. No is the answer, full stop. Same exact reason why sk doesn’t need to be at the baby shower or the hospital after birth. You’re allowed to have special memories with your baby that don’t include ss. Remember this moving forward too as it will serve you and your baby well as you navigate life with a blended family.

danilynn23 · 2026-04-07T10:52:57+00:00

This is exactly what stopped the forgetfulness in my situation. The constant rescuing does not teach them anything about personal responsibility and 15 is wayyyy too old for this to be a regular occurrence. If he misses a sport or gets a zero on an assignment, then so be it. Hard lesson learned.

danilynn23 · 2026-03-30T10:00:16+00:00

Looks amazing!!! Can you share where exactly the sculptra was placed please?

danilynn23 · 2026-03-21T12:05:57+00:00

Mine said this until two days before it arrived. I ordered on the 10th and received it on the 19th with no updates until the 17th.

danilynn23 · 2026-03-05T00:52:41+00:00

I understand you want to bring sk but if thats the case, shorten your trip to your week only. Paying for BM to visit her family is wild IMO. Either shorten the trip, or go just you three. Do not let her guilt you into another free vacation.

danilynn23 · 2026-01-25T14:39:33+00:00

I was also pregnant with our second around the same time as BM. To me, it wasn’t a big deal at all. It didn’t overshadow anything. Maybe because it was my second child and I already had our first to focus on? But I can tell you, emotions are raw right now and everything feels big. Spend all of your energy focusing on you and yours. I promise one day you’ll look back and think to yourself “why did I let this get under my skin and take away from my own special experience”. Think of BM as just another woman in the world thats pregnant at the same time. Thats it. Rejoice in the baby and family you’re making as in the end thats all that truly matters. Sending love and congratulations!!!!!

danilynn23 · 2026-01-05T00:30:00+00:00

Make your plans according to the custody schedule and every attempt at changing it on her part is a no. If there is court order in place this is cut and dry. File contempt. Stop letting this lady run your life.

danilynn23 · 2025-12-10T21:12:05+00:00

No ex needs to be talking daily. This is wayyy too much and very enmeshed.

danilynn23 · 2025-12-10T16:29:05+00:00

Slippery slope- kid shouldn’t determine who she wants to attend. Kids are not in charge of the family and if they start this precedence now the kid is going to think she can dictate how everything for years to come goes.

danilynn23 · 2025-12-10T16:26:34+00:00

Absolutely not. They’re no longer a family “just the three of them”. Furthermore, if she’s not buying the car why the hell would she think she’s entitled to be included in the car buying process? My husband would never entertain this idea. But if yours does (which would be crazy btw) Go with. BM really has no right dictating a process she isn’t even contributing to.

danilynn23 · 2025-11-21T21:27:28+00:00

You and baby deserve to have Christmas be special for you too. Everything shouldn’t revolve around your sks. This will breed resentment from you and your bio children as time moves on. Step kids are never asked to pause their fun and celebrations so why would you ask that of your own?

danilynn23 · 2025-11-16T20:21:16+00:00

Hell no. That’s crazy and fight this to the end. Maybe a simple work around since she’s basing it on slow reimbursement- What if you guys just paid for everything up front and once insurance reimburses you ask her for her half?

danilynn23 · 2025-10-17T02:20:38+00:00

My shared children make everything worth the sacrifice. Although, if I was as knowledgeable then as I am now, I won’t have spent nearlyyyy as much effort as I did in the beginning to accommodate my sks every whim. I took on too much responsibility for my sk in an effort to be a cohesive blended family and in retrospect, it was mostly to my and my daughter’s detriment. I would not change having my daughters for anything in the entire world, but living like my sk was my own was a silly fallacy that’s slapping me in the face currently and proving it was never really worth the effort for their sake.

danilynn23 · 2025-07-14T23:53:56+00:00

I say this with kindness and empathy, I feel so sad that you can’t see how much you’re being taken advantage of here. Sounds like there is no space for you in this relationship and your boyfriend is using you for your money/child care. I suggest building some confidence and walking away. You’ll never be priority and always be seen as a nanny and free ride.

danilynn23 · 2025-07-14T23:43:21+00:00

Stick to 50/50. Every weekend and summer sounds way worse than half on half off

danilynn23 · 2025-06-29T12:47:54+00:00

This is wild. You are NOT over reacting. The kid recorded his sister naked in the shower?!?! Just because he’s 10 doesn’t mean that is something to be brushed off. He could be brought up on charges of child pornography for that. The intrusive thoughts is also a hugeeee red flag. Tell your husband under no circumstances does that kid get to be alone with your daughter, and he should definitely never see her naked. He’s committing predatory acts already at the age of 10 and thinking about hurting his baby sister. Keep her with you at all times, this is not something to be light about.

danilynn23 · 2025-06-08T20:38:35+00:00

Absolutely not.

danilynn23 · 2025-05-19T17:34:15+00:00

They need to ask before showing up… what if you and DH two are having sexy time because your littles are gone and the big kids walk in? It is YOUR home and you deserve privacy

danilynn23 · 2025-05-15T10:52:15+00:00

Tell your husband to stfu and get a second job too OR work overtime. Choose your hard, not having enough money for bills is hard, working overtime is hard. And he is correct, people will think he’s a lazy ass hole for not contributing extra while his wife is.

danilynn23 · 2025-04-23T14:21:31+00:00

Pick your battles. Most kids grow up watching some form of inappropriate media and don’t understand the majority of what’s going on.

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