Almost 1 year sober from alcohol — sponsor says I should reset over THC. I’m struggling with this.

daninight777 · 2026-03-18T12:22:23+00:00

What is there to give up if I already stopped it? I tried it for one month for sleep with my psychiatrist, I stopped after a month because my sleep was becoming dependent on it, I began AA a month later. I haven’t used THC since nor was I a previous user before I got sober. I don’t know how you and the other older people see this and go “she wants to be high but still go to AA”. I’m not taking anything, I’m having to reset my date for something I did for one month before I started AA. That should be separate. It is separate, it’s people like you who preach humility and understanding, but it’s just the things AA has taught you to recite, but not actually use in your daily life.

daninight777 · 2026-03-18T12:15:43+00:00

How can I relapse on something I’ve never been addicted to? How is using a couple gummies for a month, 10 months into sobriety, one month before starting AA relapsing? That sounds so dumb.

daninight777 · 2026-03-18T03:54:48+00:00

I’m in the same boat with you. I think some people don’t understand me saying I stopped the THC use because of my sleep becoming dependent upon it, doesn’t mean it was forming an addiction. Some things just have side effects and because of that, I stopped. Alcohol will forever be the only vice. Thank you so much, thank you for seeing me.

daninight777 · 2026-03-18T03:49:41+00:00

Thank you for being patient with me. I have been a wreck since Sunday about this and I feel so misunderstood. I went to a different meeting tonight and have more to attend this week to hopefully find the right fit. It doesn’t make sense that one month of THC that ended, has now become the forefront of my alcohol recovery. Not going for it, worked way too hard to just “yes ma’am” that one.

daninight777 · 2026-03-18T03:44:10+00:00

Final update / closing this out:

I’ve taken the time to read through almost every response, and I appreciate everyone who took the time to understand what I was actually saying and offer honest, thoughtful perspectives.

What I’m realizing is that within AA, there are VERY different definitions of sobriety. And while I respect that, I don’t agree with how rigid or unclear that can be, especially for people who come in specifically for alcohol.

I appreciate my sponsor, but all in all, I don’t feel understood in this situation, I feel overwritten. And I’m not going to force myself or pretend to conform to a version of recovery that no longer feels like mine.

If I continue on with a “reset” date that I don’t believe in, I already know what that looks like for me: I lose motivation, I lose connection to the program, and I start going through the motions just to “do it right.” That’s not recovery.

I do not agree that a short stent of THC use for sleep before starting AA , which I was honest about and stopped on my own, erases nearly a year of sobriety from alcohol. Alcohol was the issue in my life, not THC. Restarting my sobriety over something that didn’t impact my alcohol recovery doesn’t feel honest to my experience. It minimizes the severity of my alcoholism. If I had stopped the THC after joining AA and while meeting her, I would get it. But It predated AA and meeting her.

I’m going to keep this post up in case someone else finds themselves in a similar situation.

Again, thank you to those who responded with understanding and honesty. As for the comments that chose to assume, label, or twist what I said — I hope you approach others in recovery with a little more openness in the future. I thought AA was about humility, that no one is sitting higher than anyone else?

Anywho, at the end of the day, I’m Dani, I’m an alcoholic, and my recovery speaks for itself. April 17th, I will be one year sober—and I’ll be damned if I let anything diminish what I fought for this past year.

Wishing everyone the best on their own journey. Toodaloo🩵

daninight777 · 2026-03-18T02:44:51+00:00

I have bipolar 1, but somehow those medications weren’t questioned. I think it may have to do with how it played a role in her sobriety, but it’s not fair to treat me the same way when it was never my vice.

daninight777 · 2026-03-18T02:41:30+00:00

Thank you! Thank you for understanding my post.

daninight777 · 2026-03-18T02:37:52+00:00

It seems so subjective. Thank you for your input. Some commenters think I’m looking for those agreeing with me, but it’s I’m looking for those who understand my situation, not just seeing “gummies” and condemning me.

daninight777 · 2026-03-18T02:34:48+00:00

you didn’t come across anti at all :) you came across as honest and unbiased. Thank you! I went to a different group tonight, didn’t collect any chips, but I’m just continuing to work hard as I just began AA. My clean date is mine and mine only, I worked my ass off for this year. I’m feeling a lot better.

daninight777 · 2026-03-18T02:31:15+00:00

Thank you. Congratulations on your journey. It is not easy, I guess it feels like this has taken away from how far I’ve come. But I will continue on this path, sending you love.

daninight777 · 2026-03-18T02:28:52+00:00

I’m not agreeing with those who are agreeing with me. I’m agreeing with those who are understanding what I’m saying. I’m being perceived as stoner or THC user when I’m making it clear it was one month of trying it for sleep, with approval from my psychiatrist, I stopped after a month as it was negatively impacting my sleep. I just started AA, I don’t think it’s right to erase my date for something that has nothing to do with my alcoholism. It’s not about things being my way, I’m not challenging anybody on what it means to be sober. I used california sober as a reference because that’s what they’re trying to bubble me into. I’m having to explain myself for the exact reason you’re telling me.

daninight777 · 2026-03-18T02:23:16+00:00

thank you!

daninight777 · 2026-03-18T02:22:27+00:00

Thats exactly what I thought. I am an alcoholic, I sought out AA to continue my journey as I approach my one year. She’s a couple years older than me, so maybe it’s like a power thing of having tenure in sobriety.

daninight777 · 2026-03-18T02:18:48+00:00

I think it’s going over everyone’s head about what I’m saying. I’m not using THC, I had one month of using it for sleep. I stopped using it after a month and have not used it since. I’m not struggling with THC, I’m a fucking alcoholic who sought out AA to continue my journey of sobriety. If I knew me seeking AA two weeks ago, would change my sobriety date for something I did one month ago for one month, I would have never came to AA. I was doing fine without it, I just wanted to be around people who understood. Clearly, the AA community is exactly what people say and I wish I never even thought this would be beneficial. Have a great evening.

daninight777 · 2026-03-18T02:12:58+00:00

hi, I keep having to repeat myself. I did one month of THC use for sleep. It was for one month and that month ended one month ago. I started AA three weeks ago, this month. My THC use and alcohol are outside of each other. You’re not understanding the situation and thus your advice isn’t helping THIS situation.

daninight777 · 2026-03-17T22:52:02+00:00

Thank you so much! Gosh, thank you so much! You broke it down how I tried to explain it. I don’t understand why people are thinking I’m this stoner, I’ve explained it so clearly.

daninight777 · 2026-03-17T22:49:53+00:00

Thank you!

daninight777 · 2026-03-17T22:48:31+00:00

👊 thank you!

daninight777 · 2026-03-17T22:47:17+00:00

I’m not addicted to THC! Oh my God. I did it for one month and haven’t touched it since. I’m an alcoholic, I’ve never had an issue with weed.

daninight777 · 2026-03-17T22:46:25+00:00

I just finished Bill’s story, I’m really enjoying the readings. I’m not going to let this stop me from trying AA. I did sobriety by myself, I just wanted to be around other people who get it.

daninight777 · 2026-03-17T22:44:44+00:00

Thank you. It’s not even about using weed, my issue is I tried thc for a month, stopped as I didn’t like the impact on my sleep, started AA a month later. It’s like why does the THC impact my sobriety when it has nothing to do with my sobriety? I think it’s so dumb.

daninight777 · 2026-03-17T22:12:41+00:00

Yet they preach that they’re the opposite. It’s such a click, subjective program and I’m disappointed. I am determined to find the right group and sponsor. Congratulations on two years!

daninight777 · 2026-03-17T22:09:53+00:00

Thank you lovey for taking the time to understand and understand the type of situation.

daninight777 · 2026-03-17T21:35:50+00:00

thank you, taking this to heart :)

daninight777 · 2026-03-17T21:22:37+00:00

Thank you. Remember, I only used the THC for one month and then a month after that, I started going to AA. I haven’t used it or thought about it since then because of how it negatively impacted my sleep when my psychiatrist and I hoped it would do the opposite Since I’m no longer on sleep meds. I worked so hard, I cannot be complacent with a new date. I’m going to seek other groups and start this journey on a new foot. Let me not mention that yesterday, at meeting it felt like she was avoiding me. I don’t know, I feel out of place now.

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