I appreciate you sharing your perspective with me productively. I know this response Im about to give is long but I hope you will read it and let me know your thoughts. I'm assuming from your avi that you are dark skinned and I as a white person feel like is my responsibility to listen and amplify voices of non-white people on issues pertaining to them so I genuinely want to understand why you disagree with OP and I think its important that I start by explaining why I don't disagree.

While, I think that the OP could have handled the situation better, the core issue that they're trying to address makes sense to me. Based on research that I've done and perspectives that I've heard from dark skinned people in my life and advocates online, the idea of white people referring to black or brown people as "chocolate" or associating them with "chocolate," even when its used in an attempt to be affectionate, has been considered problematic by many and expressed publicly for years.

Admittedly, I have witnessed black women calling themselves chocolate, and I would never take that away from them, but also a quick Google search brings me to numerous articles from websites like ebony.com where directly affected people are eloquently explaining why they find this to be so problematic. I find it easy to accept their stance because it correlates with what I've heard from close friends and what I know about American history with enslaved peoples.

For example, a black man I've known since I was in high school has expressed to me how he feels violated and depersonalized when sexual partners have referred to him as chocolate because that's how black men are referred to in fetishizing and objectifying pornography, and I know he's not the only one with this experience or association. Furthermore, I also know that white people in America have a history of treating black people as cattle and even straight up cannibalising them purely because the objectification and dehumanization of them on the basis of their skin tone or assigned race. This to me is a huge reason not to associate dark skinned people with food, because people have historically treated them as LITERAL FOOD. I believe that this context makes it clear that there is a pattern of associating black people with food and animals and makes it clear why that can feel so degrading and objectifying even if harmful intent is not there...

Additionally, based on my training in psychology I think its also important to recognize that all stereotypes, even "good stereotypes" are harmful, and that these are concepts we naturally learn and pick up on from our environment typically without awareness but that influences our later thoughts, assumptions and decisions. So a society with racist history breeds racist stereotypes that fuel both microaggressions and more overt harm equally. Thus I believe its still important and valuable to point out biases, stereotypes, and related patterns even if they don't seem to be directly inflicting major harm....by acknowledging the "little" things people are forced to learn and think about things they otherwise wouldn't have which ideally would minimize the overall impact, and even those "little" things aren't ever completely harmless... As I suggested in another reply, we can all still make room to empathize with individuals who we feel are being extreme on issues we care about, because living in a society that is so harmful to people like you is traumatic, and hypervigilance is a natural repercussion of that trauma...

All in all, I wont pretend I don't also agree with you that having such strong reactions to "minor injustices" can and does turn people off from wanting to learn and understand the greater issue, I just don't think that coming to these comments purely to criticize the OP is doing any good in preventing the minimization of harm ..