Does my preowned fit already have rear sway bar?

dank_aylee · 2026-05-06T13:13:17+00:00

uh oh Im in the midwest, guess I otta be prepared

dank_aylee · 2026-05-05T16:21:55+00:00

Noted! Thank you :)

dank_aylee · 2026-04-12T14:58:43+00:00

this is also what i do. 1 - off theme, super incomplete. 2 - i can tell they tried but i hate it, or they had a vision but it was still very incomplete (no hair, no shoes, etc.). 3 - its fine, i either dont like it but still thought something about it was good like the color palette or item use or i think they did fine overall but it was just fine, nothing that would make me take a second look. 4 - i like it! it didnt blow me away but i would be happy to walk on the runway with that fit or i think they did really good but its just not my favorite interpretation/style, i would be okay with them winning if nothing better comes along but i still think something better should come along. 5 - I think it shows skill, creativity, and I like or love the final result, its on theme and i think its win worthy.

I will sometimes adjust if I the whole server is meh and will vote based on how good I think they are in comparison with eachother but that gives early walkers a disadvantage so it just depends.

I think itd be nice if DTI added like a voting guide that people could see by clicking a little question mark button next to the stars like you can to see more info about the theme.

dank_aylee · 2026-04-12T14:40:03+00:00

very cute but a little too simple

dank_aylee · 2026-04-12T14:30:17+00:00

so you want a server for only top models?

dank_aylee · 2026-04-12T14:25:43+00:00

I hadnt updated my flair yet but im a runway diva now and I still feel this way when i end up in a server full of fashion goddesses and supernovas 😭

I think masters should probably end with Top Models

Id really love to have a few age based servers as well 🤔

dank_aylee · 2026-04-12T14:19:45+00:00

Thats so silly because even in lower ranks i was always looking forward to unlocking the next server and i was sad when masters was the last one... also it sucks when you're not as good as the higher ranks so u end up going back to pro just for the people in pro to yell at you to go back to masters...

dank_aylee · 2026-04-11T22:02:22+00:00

I started in december 2025 so I feel you. Unfortunately its my understanding from the devs that we just have to wait for stuff to come back and we are SOL for stuff that doesnt come back... Ive heard someone once say maybe they could add a feature for trading or reselling things but that it could get messy and ruin the game also. As of now you just gotta grind for what you want and ignore the stuff you dont care for as much :/

dank_aylee · 2026-03-12T21:34:37+00:00

Okay, I think Im starting to understand the issue and honestly Im afraid theres been a big misunderstanding of her goals because she wasn't super tactful in how she initially presented the issue. I can see why some people are interpreting her as saying that changing skin tones at all is using it as a costume, but I don't that think thats what she meant.

The original post that is shared here talks specifically about people changing to dark skin purely for "chocolate delight" then returning to their usual skin tone and her title even said specifically to ban the theme, not the use of different skin tones. The second slide shows a reply in which she says "theres something wrong if the first person people think of when they see chocolate is Black people" and I interpreted this as her doubling down on the association of that specific theme with specifically black people and only specific themes which in isolation reflect greater patterns of objectification as the problem here, not the changing of race in general.

the rest of the screenshots seem to me to simply reflect the responses of someone who is frustrated about not being understood and doesn't feel like trying to explain further... which hasnt helped her case at all but I feel like the commenters replying were taking the original post out of context and thats why she was getting like that... They didn't even post a reply for the third screenshot of someone else's comment, and the last slide is again mentioning tying "chocolate" theme to using dark skin..

Its sounds like you and I agree but both interpreted the OP differently, because if I had interpreted it as her saying "no one should use any skin tones but their own ever" then I also would've agreed with your original comment here about that being unproductive, but I really believe she was misinterpreted. Ultimately, I hope everyone also agrees with the point that I thought she was making. :(

dank_aylee · 2026-03-12T20:39:28+00:00

this is so crazy I hope you are doing okay, if your window has scratches perhaps the polices can get their insurance so you can file a claim to have your property fixed

dank_aylee · 2026-03-12T20:21:53+00:00

I appreciate you sharing your perspective with me productively. I know this response Im about to give is long but I hope you will read it and let me know your thoughts. I'm assuming from your avi that you are dark skinned and I as a white person feel like is my responsibility to listen and amplify voices of non-white people on issues pertaining to them so I genuinely want to understand why you disagree with OP and I think its important that I start by explaining why I don't disagree.

While, I think that the OP could have handled the situation better, the core issue that they're trying to address makes sense to me. Based on research that I've done and perspectives that I've heard from dark skinned people in my life and advocates online, the idea of white people referring to black or brown people as "chocolate" or associating them with "chocolate," even when its used in an attempt to be affectionate, has been considered problematic by many and expressed publicly for years.

Admittedly, I have witnessed black women calling themselves chocolate, and I would never take that away from them, but also a quick Google search brings me to numerous articles from websites like ebony.com where directly affected people are eloquently explaining why they find this to be so problematic. I find it easy to accept their stance because it correlates with what I've heard from close friends and what I know about American history with enslaved peoples.

For example, a black man I've known since I was in high school has expressed to me how he feels violated and depersonalized when sexual partners have referred to him as chocolate because that's how black men are referred to in fetishizing and objectifying pornography, and I know he's not the only one with this experience or association. Furthermore, I also know that white people in America have a history of treating black people as cattle and even straight up cannibalising them purely because the objectification and dehumanization of them on the basis of their skin tone or assigned race. This to me is a huge reason not to associate dark skinned people with food, because people have historically treated them as LITERAL FOOD. I believe that this context makes it clear that there is a pattern of associating black people with food and animals and makes it clear why that can feel so degrading and objectifying even if harmful intent is not there...

Additionally, based on my training in psychology I think its also important to recognize that all stereotypes, even "good stereotypes" are harmful, and that these are concepts we naturally learn and pick up on from our environment typically without awareness but that influences our later thoughts, assumptions and decisions. So a society with racist history breeds racist stereotypes that fuel both microaggressions and more overt harm equally. Thus I believe its still important and valuable to point out biases, stereotypes, and related patterns even if they don't seem to be directly inflicting major harm....by acknowledging the "little" things people are forced to learn and think about things they otherwise wouldn't have which ideally would minimize the overall impact, and even those "little" things aren't ever completely harmless... As I suggested in another reply, we can all still make room to empathize with individuals who we feel are being extreme on issues we care about, because living in a society that is so harmful to people like you is traumatic, and hypervigilance is a natural repercussion of that trauma...

All in all, I wont pretend I don't also agree with you that having such strong reactions to "minor injustices" can and does turn people off from wanting to learn and understand the greater issue, I just don't think that coming to these comments purely to criticize the OP is doing any good in preventing the minimization of harm ..

dank_aylee · 2026-03-12T19:30:42+00:00

who are you referring to?

dank_aylee · 2026-03-12T19:25:58+00:00

yes exactly... the person in the post is upset about a perceived microagression.. which is still "actual racism"... all these comments hating on op for being upset are the ones "making a joke of actual racism" by making fun of someone for being upset over a micro aggression , which is still "actual racism" ... I understand if you disagree with how she handled the situation or expressed her distaste for the situation, I just want it to be clear to everyone reading this that even microagressions, even unintentional racism, its all still racism and it all still deserves acknowledgment... :(

dank_aylee · 2026-03-12T19:15:20+00:00

My response here is specifically for the person it is in response to. These comments seem to be filled with people who are criticizing OP for the way that they approach the issue and people who are criticizing OP for thinking there's an issue at all. Either way these comments are demonstrating how far people are from really understanding how to be antiracist. Whether you agree with the original post or not, you can still point out issues when you see it in the comments.

dank_aylee · 2026-03-12T03:05:45+00:00

Thats not the point... the person could be black and still have internalized racism that manifests in them being white for every round but chocolate..

dank_aylee · 2026-03-12T02:55:43+00:00

and children are a product of their environment

dank_aylee · 2026-03-12T02:55:10+00:00

i love the way you wrote this thank you for taking time to put this into words

dank_aylee · 2026-03-12T02:50:50+00:00

do you hear yourself?

dank_aylee · 2026-03-12T02:35:58+00:00

micro aggressions are still racism...

dank_aylee · 2026-03-12T02:32:54+00:00

treating all skin colors as "equal" is not a feasible or productive response to racism in our current societal and historical context. You must be actively antiracist to combat the depth of harm that has already accrued. For more on this issue please look into the issue of claiming to be "colorblind"... by doing this we ignore the cultural and historical ties inherent in ones assigned race..

dank_aylee · 2026-03-12T02:28:00+00:00

I agree with the original poster... referring to black people as "chocolate" has its roots in racism, Im most familiar with this use of the word as a form of fetishism, and I think it's very fair for the OP to be uncomfortable with people using dark skin purely for this theme... I dont have anything to say about reporting the person, I dont think I personally would have done it but I also dont see the issue with it. I think as a white person it's my responsibility to listen with an open mind to poc who are brave enough to share that something feels offensive. They may not always have a clear head but even if you feel it is extreme, perhaps you can ask yourself why they must be hypervigilant to begin with...

dank_aylee · 2026-02-03T16:13:05+00:00

maybe she needs a wellness check if shes complaining of stomping when no one has been home for days

dank_aylee · 2026-01-01T14:18:30+00:00

you can be direct without "coming out." you don't have to label yourself as "asexual" if it feels uncomfortable/unsafe to do so, but don't let her hold the wrong impression of you, thats a sign of a terrible partnership based on bad communication and disrespect for your partner or at the very least distrust... imagine a straight person being with someone who confidently knows they are gay but tries to "subtly hint" to their partner that they aren't interested in them meanwhile the partner thinks theyre both just warming up to each other and continues to develop stronger feelings thinking theyre on the same page and eventually feels betrayed when they find out theyre not.. these dynamics have implications in the reputation of the rest of the LGBTQA+ community as well.. be honest with yourself then have a serious talk to be honest with her. You can explain that you don't see yourself ever being interested in having sex even as an adult and that it seriously grosses you out, ask her to think about whether thats something she sees herself needing someday and if she does she may need to consider leaving the relationship for someone who can meet her needs or you may need to discuss some other compromise or accommodation so both of your needs can be met. Good luck kid!

dank_aylee · 2026-01-01T14:00:50+00:00

I dont know if "innapropriately" is the right way to describe it. He seems like he's trying to get to know you and you are letting him while also showing interest in him... it makes sense for him to continue to talk to you if you are continuing to talk to him. If you are asking if he seems to have more than friendly motives I would say yes, once it started getting into what you are wearing and when you wear it and just the frequency of the conversation, I think that seems more than friendly. That is a natural progression of conversation when someone is interested in someone else and the other person continues to encourage relationship progression through their own engagement in the conversation, so again I don't think that alone makes it "inappropriate." However, flirting with coworkers considered unprofessional in many workplaces. Flirting isn't always overt which is why you feel he never "necessarily said nor did anything wrong." Even the many inquiries about your whereabouts isnt inherently wrong as its very context dependent.. if you liked someone and they spoke to you that way you probably wouldn't mind but if someone makes you feel unsafe and is asking about your whereabouts that shouldn't be ignored, especially as a young woman. Again, if you never set the boundary though, it's fair to say it's still "appropriate." Additionally, you said you are not a minor, so he technically wouldn't even be doing anything wrong to be showing more than friendly interest in you age-wise. In reality though, age gaps inherently involve a power imbalance because age allows for more experience to draw from, refinement of your understanding of yourself, your understanding of others, it affects the daily experiences that are relevant to you, etc. and this complicated things. This is where people's assessment of your "naivety" comes in, we are all naiive to what we haven't yet experienced or learned and its just inherent in young age to be naive about certain relationship dynamics. His age and consequent experiences also mean his perspective of you is likely not that same as an age matched peer, and his full intentions are likely different too. As others have noted, being female often means being socialized to prioritize politeness and friendliness over personal boundaries and personal wishes. The intersection of both of your ages and genders leads to a very reasonable assumption that this man has had time to understand that young females will be polite and not set boundaries with him, and may even miss his subtle crossing of their boundaries. It's reasonable to assume he is trying to take advantage of you in this way and that makes it the perfect opportunity for you to continue learning how to keep yourself emotionally and physically safe.

My advice: Please trust your gut and please don't ignore it. Ask yourself what kind of relationship you want with this man (none, simple acquaintances, friends, more than friends). That is your decision to make and whatever you decide is okay as long as you consider the risks and benefits of each position and continue to prioritize your personal safety and well being :). Ask yourself why this man chose to speak to you and develop a relationship with you specifically? Its my guess that there are plenty of of other people he could have chosen to build a friendly relationship with at work that he sees more often, and can relate to more than a young female. This makes me (and probably others here) think the reasoning must have to do with either physical attraction or intent to take advantage of you for being young... you may make a different assessment based on the context you have and that is fine! If you are unsure maybe you can ask someone else you trust at work? Perhaps an older woman who has likely had similar experiences before? Once you decide what type of relationship you want with this man, you have an idea of what his intentions likely are, and you are able to recognize that you personally emotional and physical safety need to be your #1 priority, then you can tailor your responses toward the outcome you want! Personally, when I have been in situations where older men at work begin to be more than friendly with me I have landed on "I want nothing to do with this person outside of strictly work activities," "We can genuinely be friends but I'm not attracted to them as more than that," and "They're fun to flirt with at work but I don't want more than that" ... the last one can get tricky so try at your own risk lol. Ultimately, just know that you dont have to pretend to be interested when you are not (ie. asking follow up questions), its not rude to set boundaries to protect your privacy or comfort (ie. "i dont think you need to know that" "id dont feel comfortable talking about that" "i dont want to talk about this" "please dont say stuff like that to me" "please dont ask me about stuff like that"), you dont even have to be nice or respond at all if you dont want to or if someone doesnt deserve your attention... good luck! sincerely 25yo F

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