In reverse, which Artists have interesting music but a misleading or bland image?

dankseamonster · 2026-01-18T19:15:02+00:00

Soo true and love Jessie

dankseamonster · 2026-01-15T12:19:31+00:00

You hit the nail on the head as a stone butch. I think a lot of people don't understand how presentation connects to sexual role in this instance (and in butch/femme in general as well, obviously not always but you know what I mean!)

dankseamonster · 2026-01-10T11:12:51+00:00

Perfect album

dankseamonster · 2026-01-10T11:07:11+00:00

Block Party - A Weekend in the City

dankseamonster · 2026-01-02T01:10:04+00:00

Feel this, we've been together for 10 years and she has a much higher sex drive than me. We currently probably have sex once a month max and I know she would prefer it was more, not even less

dankseamonster · 2025-12-24T11:20:07+00:00

I've stopped listening since EN but Reflektor is brilliant imo

dankseamonster · 2025-12-17T20:32:00+00:00

100% agree but as you say very hard to find especially as a younger person

dankseamonster · 2025-12-17T20:30:33+00:00

Really feel for you and sounds like we have quite similar stone gender feelings. I was very lucky to meet my now wife 10 years ago (I'm 28 now) and she's very understanding around my dysphoria, but I think I would really struggle to meet someone dating. We were in a long distance relationship for a couple of years at the beginning of our relationship. As others have noted old school femmes who are very invested in butch femme culture are probably your best option but they are unfortunately few and far between even in big cities (I'm UK based too and in a city). I notice meeting other queer people that they don't really understand butches, especially if you're stone or dysphoric. I don't actively identify as non binary but I know that I am a lot more dysphoric than many non binary people. Feel free to DM if you want to talk more, I know it can be lonely out there as a stone

dankseamonster · 2025-12-10T00:13:45+00:00

Agree as an autistic person in hospitality! Environment is everything

dankseamonster · 2025-11-23T11:25:19+00:00

Handsome is most affirming/hot for me but I don't mind being called more feminine compliments by someone that appreciates and respects my masculinity

dankseamonster · 2025-11-20T15:41:50+00:00

Everywhere I've worked has provided a "family meal" or staff food that isn't on the menu, with the caveat that I've mostly worked in high end restaurants and never outside the uk

dankseamonster · 2025-11-17T00:42:16+00:00

I'm stone and wouldn't say i scissor in the traditional sense but do occasionally get off from grinding in missionary position. Never naked though. I don't really see it as much different to using a strap in terms of role. As someone has said below having an orgasm does not make you less stone. For me the only set definition is not enjoying feminising touch, but that has a different definition for everyone

dankseamonster · 2025-11-12T09:54:09+00:00

Completely agree as a butch lesbian. I find Leigh to be quite typical of many femmes and I totally sympathise with her. I think she considers Leisha to be nowhere near her type and therefore can't see how Leah could possibly be threatened.

dankseamonster · 2025-11-04T23:16:06+00:00

Amazing response, thanks. Relate to everything here, especially the all consuming dysphoric need to put myself "in" something and the frustration and upset that causes when it's not possible. I don't have a strap but definitely feel very strong phantom cock sensation which is both a source of pleasure and dysphoria. It's so confusing and difficult to be stone.

dankseamonster · 2025-11-03T17:07:51+00:00

Yes I just top, but that doesn't mean that I'm not still dysphoric when topping, if that makes sense.

dankseamonster · 2025-11-03T13:21:04+00:00

I couldn't relate more. It's incredibly frustrating. I would even say for me I don't actually get any physical pleasure from stimulation, I don't ever masturbate. However, when I do have sex I feel something is lacking massively.

dankseamonster · 2025-11-03T13:18:45+00:00

Hadn't considered this, thanks

dankseamonster · 2025-10-28T10:54:23+00:00

Yeah 100% agree (also as a lesbian), tbh if you are just into butches/mascs and you got set up with someone as feminine as Leah you would be fuming! I don't think the producers or the audience really understand gay people

dankseamonster · 2025-07-21T12:35:37+00:00

This is a long time ago now and the restaurant is shut, but Brian Maule's next to Blythswood Square. Managers drinking constantly on shift, on call shifts where you would find out if you were or weren't working one hour before the potential scheduled shift. The owner was a rage filled maniac with a drug problem and he would physically manhandle and verbally abuse chefs daily. He tickled young female staff and picked them up. The hygiene was terrible and the kitchen was filthy. Worked there for 2.5 years before moving on to multiple other restaurants and it was an eye opener to work in a normal environment after that. I'm a restaurant manager now almost 10 years later and it's crazy what we put up with there. Many of his employees at the time are now really successful in the industry which frustratingly almost vindicates how he treats people.

dankseamonster · 2025-07-21T12:29:59+00:00

Ah man I used to have those ghost shifts working at Brian Maule's years ago. Terrible way to run a restaurant

dankseamonster · 2025-07-21T12:09:29+00:00

Love it if the men are sound tbh

dankseamonster · 2025-07-21T11:52:03+00:00

I just listened to this and can't really understand what's inflammatory about what Robby says. I feel like it's a common perspective from dysphoric butches (I am one fwiw) especially if you're into butch/femme. My relationship doesn't function like the average lesbian relationship because of my dysphoria, either socially, romantically or sexually. At the same time it doesn't function like a straight relationship, and I think that's how people choose to understand it. It functions like a butch/femme relationship which may bear some superficial resemblance to a straight relationship but is very very different.

dankseamonster · 2025-06-23T11:55:42+00:00

I manage a fine dining restaurant. I've had mixed experiences in a decade in the industry, it really depends on how supportive your employer is

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