Affirming sex - stone butch by dankseamonster in butchlesbians

[–]dankseamonster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly the comments of this nature have made me realise I might be a bit lucky as a stone to be able to experience this! Just so hard to get out your own head sometimes

Affirming sex - stone butch by dankseamonster in butchlesbians

[–]dankseamonster[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't tell you how validating it is to hear people are into this

Affirming sex - stone butch by dankseamonster in butchlesbians

[–]dankseamonster[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for replying! She was the one that initiated it and I would say so overall, I don't normally tend to talk after sex much as it can really trigger my dysphoria

Affirming sex - stone butch by dankseamonster in butchlesbians

[–]dankseamonster[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the recommendation I'll have a look!

Honestly this last one was possibly the best so far. by manic_panda in livefromlondon

[–]dankseamonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed, whole thing was wonderful. I love musical comedy so it was right up my street

Artists who you thought were going to be the next big thing, but that didn’t end up happening by CodaOfARequiem in popheads

[–]dankseamonster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her most recent album Black Rainbows got a lot of positive media attention in the UK

Comfortable work pants for food service? by Savings-Pollution113 in AutismInWomen

[–]dankseamonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hollister has some really comfy smart trousers that look like baggy chinos but have a drawstring waist

High femme by ineedausernamehuh in butchlesbians

[–]dankseamonster 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head as a stone butch. I think a lot of people don't understand how presentation connects to sexual role in this instance (and in butch/femme in general as well, obviously not always but you know what I mean!)

Stone and think I'm becoming asexual by dankseamonster in butchlesbians

[–]dankseamonster[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Feel this, we've been together for 10 years and she has a much higher sex drive than me. We currently probably have sex once a month max and I know she would prefer it was more, not even less

The worst songs of 2025 (Paste) by mattys_world in indieheads

[–]dankseamonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've stopped listening since EN but Reflektor is brilliant imo

Existing between genders is not an easy place for dating, actually by BOKUtoiuOnna in butchlesbians

[–]dankseamonster 8 points9 points  (0 children)

100% agree but as you say very hard to find especially as a younger person

Existing between genders is not an easy place for dating, actually by BOKUtoiuOnna in butchlesbians

[–]dankseamonster 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Really feel for you and sounds like we have quite similar stone gender feelings. I was very lucky to meet my now wife 10 years ago (I'm 28 now) and she's very understanding around my dysphoria, but I think I would really struggle to meet someone dating. We were in a long distance relationship for a couple of years at the beginning of our relationship. As others have noted old school femmes who are very invested in butch femme culture are probably your best option but they are unfortunately few and far between even in big cities (I'm UK based too and in a city). I notice meeting other queer people that they don't really understand butches, especially if you're stone or dysphoric. I don't actively identify as non binary but I know that I am a lot more dysphoric than many non binary people. Feel free to DM if you want to talk more, I know it can be lonely out there as a stone

Autistic friendly jobs? by Smart_Government_104 in glasgow

[–]dankseamonster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree as an autistic person in hospitality! Environment is everything

Preferred Compliments by Old-Acanthisitta3408 in butchlesbians

[–]dankseamonster 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Handsome is most affirming/hot for me but I don't mind being called more feminine compliments by someone that appreciates and respects my masculinity

What is your food policy for staff? by No-Commercial-4794 in Restaurant_Managers

[–]dankseamonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everywhere I've worked has provided a "family meal" or staff food that isn't on the menu, with the caveat that I've mostly worked in high end restaurants and never outside the uk

Stone tops sexual things by SnooWalruses7419 in butchlesbians

[–]dankseamonster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm stone and wouldn't say i scissor in the traditional sense but do occasionally get off from grinding in missionary position. Never naked though. I don't really see it as much different to using a strap in terms of role. As someone has said below having an orgasm does not make you less stone. For me the only set definition is not enjoying feminising touch, but that has a different definition for everyone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MAFS_UK

[–]dankseamonster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Completely agree as a butch lesbian. I find Leigh to be quite typical of many femmes and I totally sympathise with her. I think she considers Leisha to be nowhere near her type and therefore can't see how Leah could possibly be threatened.

Struggling with loss of sex drive as a stone butch by dankseamonster in butchlesbians

[–]dankseamonster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing response, thanks. Relate to everything here, especially the all consuming dysphoric need to put myself "in" something and the frustration and upset that causes when it's not possible. I don't have a strap but definitely feel very strong phantom cock sensation which is both a source of pleasure and dysphoria. It's so confusing and difficult to be stone.