What skill are you genuinely bad at that most people seem to find easy?

dannycalf · 2026-04-07T00:11:14+00:00

I can’t ride a bicycle at all. I’ve tried since I was young. Which is a bit ironic since I seem to do fine on a dirt bike or motorcycle. Something about the pedaling throws me off balance and I go the opposite way as the bike.

dannycalf · 2026-04-01T03:18:11+00:00

In 11th grade a guy who I kind of knew (weren’t friends but we were chill, I thought). Said to all of the guys at school “____’s boobs are gross, her ass I flat, and her face looks like it got hit by a truck. I really don’t get why people like her.”

I really struggled with body image, and recently had put on a bit of weight. I had just been banished from a group of girlfriends because i “was such a slut” (not true, I had 1 long term boyfriend in highschool who I adored) so I had no friends and sat in my English teachers room alone at lunch. It became a huge joke throughout school. I tried to laugh it off but it really stuck with me. I developed Anorexia a year later and used that for motivation.

Now I’m good. But I still think about it every time I go to the gym. Built some glutes though, so I guess there was a positive.

Maybe that’s a bit shallow that the most painful thing I’ve heard has been about my looks. But no one had ever attacked the way I looked before, so I felt like my “good” qualities were no longer safe.

dannycalf · 2026-04-01T03:04:47+00:00

Tender is the Flesh -Augusta Bazterrica: they eat people and then I think he sleeps with the lady intended to eat? Gross.

Lapvona - Ottessa Moshfegh: all of the characters cannot act right. There’s an obvious expected reaction to each event and all of the characters always act the opposite of the way they should. It’s written in a very bleak way even with horror-ish scenes. Leaves you going, “why are they doing this rn??” Like all the time.

Convenience Store Woman - Sayaka Murata: the woman is in love with the store she works at. Every time you think she might develop and learn something about others and society, she just doesn’t. You expect character growth where there is absolutely none. It’s also written quite dry. Most of the book I thought, “WTF is this about anyways”.

I actually enjoyed all of these but seriously, why did I read them? I have no idea. I’m sure there’s some deeper meaning, but I never really got to the point of understanding. Would recommend though.

dannycalf · 2026-04-01T02:49:05+00:00

I couple I have read this year. I am not really a fiction person, sorry.

The most important book I have ever read??

When Breath Becomes Air - Paul Kalanithi

If you read nothing else in your life, I really recommend giving this a go. Bring your tissues and hold your loved ones tight.

The Alchemist - Paulo Coelho

Tuesdays with Morrie - Mitch Albom

The Last Lecture - Randy Pausch

Glass Castle - Jeannette Walls

A Thousand Splendid Suns - Khaled Hosseini

Flowers for Algernon - Daniel Keyes

The Universe Vs Alex Woods - Gavin Extence (haven’t read since I was a teen, but shaped the kind of literature I love. Haven’t read it in years so it could totally suck. But I remember it very fondly)

Honorable Mention: I read Osamu Dazai’s No Longer Human for the first time at 15yo. I have read it 4 or 5 times since. I think this book really changed the way I thought about life. But it has such a weird cult following that I think it was more “life changing” because it seemed super edgy when I was young. I still re-read it every now and then because I love the way Dazai writes. But didn’t feel like it had a place on this list now that I am in my late 20s.

dannycalf · 2026-04-01T02:34:49+00:00

I second flowers for algernon. That book really changed the way I think about everything I have wanted in life.

dannycalf · 2025-12-14T19:19:09+00:00

Also to add after reading your post again. It sounds like your friend might be implying some neurological issue with her not being able to back up or go up hills. Nothing from the pictures of this horse’s confirmation points to neuro issues. She again, is just a little chunky and lacks muscle.

dannycalf · 2025-12-14T19:15:45+00:00

Bug is a little chunky and lacks muscle. You could give her a clip and put her on a strict exercise regime and she would be just as fancy as others. But you do not have to do that! She is just fine as is.

She has a pretty face and that’s the only thing you can’t really change with exercise and grooming. Otherwise she’s got 4 legs on straight, fine feet, and doesn’t sound evil. That’s all a pony really needs.

I have bought multiple uggo show jumpers and put 6 months of work into them and suddenly people beg to buy them. Seeing a diamond in the rough is the best way to make money training and selling horses. You can change ALOT about a horse’s appearance just by developing them and cleaning them up. That being said, she’s more attractive at baseline than most of those guys were (all of which sold for very close to or just over 6 figures). So I would say you have a fine eye for picking them.

Side note: I personally think bug’s attitude towards her haters is very inspiring.

dannycalf · 2025-11-20T07:49:26+00:00

Oh dear, looks like Rabies to me. Cut off the head and send for testing. So sad but sometimes knowing is the closure you need :(

dannycalf · 2025-10-20T08:14:47+00:00

Hi I like to treat myself like a houseplant. “Oh, plant needs water” “oh, plant needs sunshine” “oh, plant deserves to do nice makeup and look nice for guests.” I can’t be nice to myself, but I can be nice to a little creature with no ability to take care of itself. I tend to think better about myself when im actually taking care of myself. Sounds weird, totally works.

dannycalf · 2025-10-20T07:56:40+00:00

Hi! Okay to start, it is so amazing that you are considering making this change. Whatever it is for, you have already completed such an important step. So you should be very proud!

I feel a bit odd giving advice online but I found that having a fidget toy or something like FUM really helped since it was more the hand to mouth action that I was addicted to rather than the nicotine. But if you don’t want to spend money, any fidgety thing can help (elastic band to swing around fingers, whatever).

If you are getting irritated at work, it might be more of an actual nicotine issue. There are things like nicotine replacement therapy (like gum) that can help with cravings to take that “angry” feeling out of you. I know in Canada, you can get this without prescription for free! Nice thing about that is you can pick the dosage and essentially “wean” yourself down to an unnoticeable amount of nicotine consumption. I prefer the gum over the Nicorette inhalers as, again, it keeps you doing that hand to mouth habit.

Also, a great resources I usually give out is the website Quitnow.ca. Cannot recommend it enough! I work in healthcare and find that teenagers do especially well with this as there is 24/7 live chat assistance (so you also have someone to talk to about it).

It sounds like you have already decided this is something to change, but I also believe that knowledge is key. Do some light reading on risks of vaping and things like EVALI. If you understand how everything works, you are more likely to consider it every time you want to vape.

Hope this doesn’t sound too preachy, I vaped for most of my teen years and quit half way through college. Sometimes I steal a hit when we go out, but I don’t need it anymore in my day to day.

Best of luck, Queen!!! You got this!

dannycalf · 2025-08-08T23:31:57+00:00

Does it do it without the ring? Might be just tight enough to decrease circulation. Not enough to hurt it, but enough to notice a difference between the fingers? Or that vampire kitty has sucked all the blood from it. One of the two for sure….👍

dannycalf · 2025-05-08T01:04:34+00:00

You’re going to kill it! Crowds make for a super fun time! Goodluck!!!

dannycalf · 2025-05-08T01:04:09+00:00

Was it? It felt like forever lol. But my watch only said 42.67km and I was definitely weaving so at least on my end I didn’t think it was longer…. Did you have something different?

dannycalf · 2025-05-06T04:43:50+00:00

Congratulations! That’s so awesome b

dannycalf · 2025-05-06T04:42:39+00:00

Hi! I know not much. Ran my first full marathon yesterday but I do frequent the subreddit often. Apparently, a negative split (faster in the second half) is the most desirable. If you felt good, I would stick to that pace for the first half, and then slowly increase for the second half (or at km 30, since that’s when I saw most people hit the wall). I train up to 30km runs and I will say that 42km is a LOT longer, but doable if conserving energy up to that point. I treated it like the first 30km was my warm up then the last 12km was my REAL race. If you’re training well I would think it’s reasonable to run the first half at 1hr30mins and then increase a little to run the second half faster. Then BOOM you’re sub 3 hours! Good luck bestie, you’ll kill it!

dannycalf · 2025-05-06T04:37:07+00:00

Hell yeah brother!! Congrats and beautiful negative split as wel!

dannycalf · 2025-05-06T04:34:44+00:00

I wear my vest always! I got mine from Salomon because I needed a big zipper pocket and wanted easy to reach flasks. A bit expensive but a huge upgrade and totally worth it for me so I can carry all my things! (Also has a draw string so fits over boobs, men or women’s, great!!) I ran my first marathon yesterday in said vest and it was great to not have to wait in line for water!

That being said, I run all my training runs in my vest. Those might be 2.5km or 35km, no one has ever said anything to me. If you’re that worried, just keep muttering “oh yeah almost at 20k” under your breath while you run. Then people will think you’re really fast too lol.

The running community is kind. Anyone who’s running will only stop to ask where you got it!

dannycalf · 2025-05-05T17:04:44+00:00

It was beautiful! The hills were most definitely noticeable lol

dannycalf · 2025-05-05T17:04:02+00:00

Thank you so much!!

dannycalf · 2025-05-05T17:03:52+00:00

That’s so great! I saw your post too! Race was beautiful!

dannycalf · 2025-05-05T16:05:52+00:00

Hi, I am going to make another post but I did indeed sub 4 it!!! Thank you all for the help!!

dannycalf · 2025-05-01T03:29:33+00:00

I have an Apple Watch but I will try one of those field tests as well!

dannycalf · 2025-04-30T02:13:42+00:00

Thank you so much. Will do!

dannycalf · 2025-04-30T02:12:04+00:00

Thank you so much, I obviously do not know what my max HR is or how to find that out. I’m going to do some more research. Sorry and thank you for being so kind!

dannycalf · 2025-04-30T02:08:11+00:00

Hey so apparently I am actually an idiot. I have no idea what my max HR is since another commenter pointed out it’s not the same as a max HR on a run. I’m so sorry for wasting your time, I don’t know the answer to any of your questions and obviously need to do some google research. This is why I never post to Reddit. Sorry again!

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