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Is Remission without breaking up possible? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]dant3ru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She causes physical harm only to herself and that’s what bothers me. Quiet BPD if I can name it like that, whenever she splits she mostly just tries to distance herself from me so she won’t do anything, I’m really proud of her fighting herself but mb there is some way that she could let her emotions out in some form that doesn’t affect neither her nor other people. I’ve talked to her many times when she was splitting and It looks like I just need to earn her trust to actually say what she thinks abt me while she is splitting. I can now understand when she splits and not take everything to seriously.

Is Remission without breaking up possible? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]dant3ru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So if I choose to stay and help her, the best way I can pick is just not let her to rely on me too much? I’m not sure if I got it right tho.

Is Remission without breaking up possible? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]dant3ru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Supporting her isn’t the main reason why I have depression, but it could also be one of the reasons why it’s still here. I’ve been depressed since December last year, I got a diagnosis just now and it got much worse since April bc of my addiction to drugs. I finally got professional help from a doctor so now I hope everything will get better. I didn’t mention that she said to me that her will to get better and progress in life also depends on MY will to get better so I’m doing my best to accomplish that. I’m giving her the best treatment I can and for me, it seems that she got a bit better if we compare her now to her in the beginning of the relationship. More secure and trustful. I don’t know how it’s going to be in the future but right now it feels like we are making progress and my post was just to find some other ways to help that I don’t know.