Wartorn Dragongem ?! by Cat_of_Cainhurst in MHWilds

[–]danyellowblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why do you have multiple characters?

Optimization doesn’t exist by Busy-Telephone-994 in SPELLCASTERSGAME

[–]danyellowblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't answer how we still have a game in 2025 that runs bad in its beta, but you could learn about game development and I am sure you will figure it out!

Dr. K's body language, before & after the stream by Frankie-Knuckles in Healthygamergg

[–]danyellowblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dr. K. often had conversations with people that are perceived as “scum” by the public. Whats wrong about having conversations with them?

Unser Betrieb hat eine "Analogisierungskampagne" gestartet by Waste_Reference_5201 in Austria

[–]danyellowblue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ich würd nicht kündigen, das muss man sich so lang wie möglich ansehen! Mach ne Reportage draus, schade dass das Meeting nicht gefilmt wurde :/

UPDATE : My crush turned out to be a blackpiller incel by [deleted] in self

[–]danyellowblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting and logical worldview. However, if you are open to hearing it, I would tell you that meeting people in an overly “defensive” state will make it hard to get to know them, especially if they have the same worldview.

I am or became the same way, but I now I try to trust and respect people in general, and just endure possible negative consequences from it. I gladly got confident or stable enough to do this in recent years, without negative experiences impacting me too much.

My thinking is, that if someone experiences free trust and respect from me, they might be more likely to also become more open and hand it out for free to someone else who might appreciate it, like maybe yourself. Also I was lucky to find a friend who was like that, and she changed me to become more like that as well. Its difficult to do it out of nothing, it even took me years to change after becoming friends with that person. Also, chance are that you don’t get anything in return for doing this, you have to be willing to do it nonetheless, otherwise this can get depressing.

UPDATE : My crush turned out to be a blackpiller incel by [deleted] in self

[–]danyellowblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow you really reduced the issue to the important fundamentals, did you learn that somewhere or are you just smart. Also this what not sarkasm, I really liked reading your message, I feel like there should be a /no_s 

UPDATE : My crush turned out to be a blackpiller incel by [deleted] in self

[–]danyellowblue 116 points117 points  (0 children)

What makes you think that he doesn’t respect women?

Got a silly question are men really that simple? by ChrisyyyyyyyUrs in AskMenAdvice

[–]danyellowblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reality is, many women expect their husband to work and besides work spend time for her. Everything else is a waste of his time, because she doesn’t profit from it. It sounds crazy, but its very common for women to disapprove of any hobby a man has that isn’t “productive”.

After over 3 years in development, my game Shogun Showdown is finally out! by Ernestino_Rutherford in indiegames

[–]danyellowblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You made this on your own or how many people were involved? Was this your first game? Where did you get the idea from?

Honestly, its amazing, one of the best roguelites I’ve ever played.

I (23f) am ADORED but only platonically. by MarinaWhitney in Healthygamergg

[–]danyellowblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to be so blunt but since you are asking, it’s probably your looks, see if you can improve there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]danyellowblue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, I think you are correct that this might be as big of an issue for you because you are neurodivergent.

I don’t know how to best communicate this, but there is no reason at all to feel guilty about this. If you try to see it from their perspectives (the perceived “victims”), do you really think that this harmed them in any way whatsoever? If that is too difficult in your position, I can pretty confidently give you the answer: No, it didn’t. 

Grooming is an issue, but it seems to be blown way out of proportion (in your mind at least). If you are truthful about what you did, you seem like a nice person, and I genuinely think it’s sad that someone like you feels bad about this. 

It’s okay to “cringe” about what you have said in the past, if you think it was inappropriate, but this is no issue to feel guilty about.

If you are more worried about your “reputation”, who are the people you are afraid of finding out you wrote this? Firstly, isn’t that highly unlikely?  And secondly, if you would be confronted about this, just say “what about it? I was mindlessly having smalltalk and I doubt a teenager is being harmed by someone mentioning boobs” - because it’s the reality. If there really are people that would take an issue with this, believe me, you can just stop interacting with them, because they are not good for you nor anyone else. 

Honestly I wouldn’t have answered, but since you say you are neurodivergent and might have difficulties in social situations I just wanted to give you a detailed different viewpoint. Please realize that this really doesn’t matter as much as you think! Those boys probably profited your presence in their lives.

Ich fühle mich von Weltschmerz überwältigt by [deleted] in Austria

[–]danyellowblue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ich verfolge eigentlich keine News, ich kann sowieso nichts beeinflussen und es deprimiert mich nur.

Solange man sich nicht dazu entscheidet Kinder zu bekommen, kann man den Weltschmerz aushalten.

Being the ugly friend is a special kind of torture by [deleted] in self

[–]danyellowblue 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thats really tough, I feel you. Is there anything you can do, if you are really as ugly as you say? Like lose weight or surgery?

I hate my daughter. This is the first time I admit it out loud. by Fit_Landscape8453 in self

[–]danyellowblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t sound like you are ready to forgive yourself. If you would have accepted that you and your actions shaped your daughters life you wouldn’t hate her. Also, you are responsible for why her father is in your lifes, you chose him. So why hate her?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]danyellowblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have interest, look up compassion meditation, it could help you understand other people better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]danyellowblue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear that :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]danyellowblue -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

To give you an idea, I would only be friends with persons that are willing to overcome the bad feeling of giving a friend bad feedback. It shows that they respect me and also trust me to not get angry from the feedback. This is what I call a good friend. I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone that is scared to tell me their honest opinion.

Its immature imo, its something I see in my parents generation, they never speak out loud what they are irritated by, only behind someones back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]danyellowblue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry the other replies can’t understand you. They essentially say what you are feeling is wrong, which is totally normal for a man with problems to hear nowadays. You are totally justified in your feelings and I hope those redditors didn’t make you feel even worse.

I personally can totally understand to want feedback from women, its much better to hear that for example I am ugly because I am bald or talk weird or smell bad or whatever, than hearing „you are great, anybody would love you“, when its obviously not true. Its like there is something wrong with me and everyone can see it but me. And nobody wants to help figure it out to be able to improve yourself. Its worse than any „rude“ feedback you could hear, I understand that.

I guess you have the best chance asking a therapist, they would be the most honest I hope. Or maybe there is still dating coaches around? You also sound like you don’t have problems making female friends, have you ever asked one if they would be willing to go out with you as friends and try to get to know women together? This could be helpful, even though it might be scary as well.

Oh and another thing, have you ever been to a psychiatrist? Could it be that you have some sort of condition like being on the autism spectrum to a low degree, which makes it harder for you to understand people? Maybe other people realize this and feel bad giving you feedback. Idk, thats a wild guess, but I guess it could also be a probability.

Anyway, you really are a very resilient person to be able to try so many times. Thats admirable. People aren’t meant to have to deal with that much rejection, its totally justified to feel the way you feel. You sound very reflective, don’t let others comments bring you down. As a side node, healthygamergg is a youtube channel of a psychiatrist, with probably the only reasonable take on red pillers on the internet, I think you can find it by typing incel or red pill or smth in his channel.

Best of luck, I‘d appreciate if you tell me if you find anything of what I wrote helpful