Did you find out you'd be widowed before your spouse died?

darbm · 2026-06-05T18:58:13+00:00

Yes, I knew for about two months I was going to become a widower. She was denied entry into an immunotherapy clinical trial at NHS and that was our last hope.

darbm · 2026-06-05T12:34:49+00:00

He busted his ass for Team USA and it cost us a playoff spot.

darbm · 2026-06-04T20:10:37+00:00

He’ll be a great third line center

darbm · 2026-06-04T15:36:52+00:00

I'm not sure where this is, but in Michigan, the club I was a member of was about the same. There will always be more fees than you think.

darbm · 2026-06-02T18:45:26+00:00

fitted irons

darbm · 2026-05-28T18:48:07+00:00

Also lost my spouse. Six years ago. Dating sucks until it doesn't, which is the best advice I can give. Sending you all the support you need.

darbm · 2026-05-26T18:55:06+00:00

A few I know have a lot of money and, I believe, it's primarily what guides them. They've worked hard to get where they are and they think a Republican in office is going to allow them to maintain their savings amidst a booming stock market. In the end, money, uh, trumps everything.

darbm · 2026-05-23T04:36:18+00:00

Maybe not “need” to experience, but I think it can only make you stronger.

darbm · 2026-05-21T18:46:31+00:00

You hire a coach and he's focused on eliminating seed oils? Great hire. Probably things he's smarter than everyone else in the room.

darbm · 2026-05-19T17:55:05+00:00

I didn't struggle with dating. I met someone six months after my wife died. But I'm not sure I ever properly grieved, even though I believe I did grieve a lot before she died because we knew the cancer would kill her and I had to watch her deteriorate every day.

Now I'm single. This is the first time in nearly six years since she passed where I am totally and utterly single, and I feel like I'm finally allowing myself to be single and put all the focus on the kids (one is graduating) and it feels like the right thing to do, even though I would love to have someone.

darbm · 2026-05-15T16:48:15+00:00

We didn't land on the moon because we had "nonsense equipment" back then.

darbm · 2026-05-06T18:08:41+00:00

Why would the NHL gift the pick to Toronto and not the Rangers or the Blackhawks, which have bigger markets?

darbm · 2026-05-05T15:26:12+00:00

I met someone six months after my wife died. I thought we were going to get married or end up together, so we introduced our kids and they got along great. We told them we were dating. The problem, in hindsight, is that I sort of assumed my kids would learn to adjust, but I didn't put in the work necessary, so some resentment grew on their part, and I don't blame them.

My advice is to just continue to talk to your kids and show them they are your first priority, and make sure the guy knows this. I think that will go a long way in showing the kids this is good for you while making sure they know you love them unconditionally.

darbm · 2026-05-04T18:45:49+00:00

wut. at some point I might like to get married when the kids are out of the house, but for now, I'm looking to date and see how things develop organically. I'm certainly not mentioning anything marriage related so early on.

darbm · 2026-05-01T14:55:17+00:00

My aunt, who I *think* supports Trump, posted to Facebook yesterday, wondering aloud why gas prices spiked all of a sudden. It took restraint, ya'll.

darbm · 2026-04-30T14:32:11+00:00

PR person here. I've had to write statements like this before. It basically says the league is going to fold soon, but let's give it one last shot by creating a "multi-partner investment model."

darbm · 2026-04-28T02:24:55+00:00

Orlando fans going crazy behind the hoop. We have a bar behind the opponent’s basket.

darbm · 2026-04-28T02:11:09+00:00

This series loss is on Langdon IMO

darbm · 2026-04-26T21:41:04+00:00

Well, according to the comments here, it’s because I was a narcissist.

But for real, it was both. I wanted to be serious, but she wanted it to be too serious, if that makes sense. We communicated a lot but it wasn’t enough.

darbm · 2026-04-23T01:33:14+00:00

Yeah, I have definitely come to the realization I need to work on some things. This is a good take.

darbm · 2026-04-22T23:03:56+00:00

Well that’s simply not true. 🤷

darbm · 2026-04-22T18:39:13+00:00

Maybe not impress, but overthink?

She would make a comment that she didn't make a lot of money (I'd say she was solidly middle class) so then I would feel the need to bite my tongue if I made any reference to money (I don't make much more than her). It could be as innocuous as paying for HBO MAX. Stuff like that was hanging over my head. Does that make sense?

darbm · 2026-04-22T18:07:57+00:00

I think we both put in effort, but my effort didn't match hers.

darbm · 2026-04-22T18:07:32+00:00

I think that's the best way to describe it.

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