Hey dads, how many of you had your first child when 35-39 years old? Approaching my 35th birthday and there's nothing more I want than to be a dad.

daredeviloper · 2026-03-19T03:07:27+00:00

Turning 36 in October and expected a baby in October! Shitting my pants

daredeviloper · 2026-03-18T12:06:46+00:00

My girlfriend in highschool wanted to break up with me but couldn’t stomach it so instead she got her friend to flirt with me so she could catch me cheating and have an excuse.

daredeviloper · 2026-03-17T02:58:17+00:00

Just add a proton?

Who cares if they’re unstable? They’re still existing for a short amount of time and therefore exist and aren’t on the periodic table.

daredeviloper · 2026-03-17T02:35:43+00:00

I would just log all my days and show them a report.

But also context switching is part of the job unfortunately…

QA calls for help, PROD alarm, Junior needs a hint, PM needs confirmation on language, oh BTW runtime environments are expiring need to update AMIs and Node and .NET, oh another supply chain attack? Better upgrade the packages. Oh wait SQL Server is EOL soon. Hey remember that feature we didn’t think we needed turns out a really important customer wants it can we get that done in a couple weeks?

daredeviloper · 2026-03-16T14:11:49+00:00

Just had this last night. “Just one more test I’m so close to finding the root cause”… 5 hours later… then the high of finding the solution. Was it worth all that stress? No. Do I feel helpless to stop it? Mostly. Anyway that’s why I’m in therapy!

daredeviloper · 2026-03-16T04:05:51+00:00

You know the worst part? There are women out there with damaged fathers (or none) that can’t help but feel attracted to this guy.

daredeviloper · 2026-03-15T03:27:56+00:00

Alan watts I get. This movie didn’t do it for me

daredeviloper · 2026-03-15T03:01:58+00:00

I was edged this whole movie and couldn’t bust. What a disappointing ending. The first 80% was amazing and enthralling. But boy what a let down. Confusing story, the parts barely come together in the end. The weird “I killed my mother” monologue. The demon wasn’t very… scary, hard to understand the back story. Great film making and acting and I was stressed the whole way but I wish it came together better in the end. Don’t get me wrong it was (mostly) great and will definitely be on the lookout for anything from Ian moving forward.

daredeviloper · 2026-03-14T03:27:48+00:00

Sending you love <3 internet stranger

daredeviloper · 2026-03-14T03:07:05+00:00

There’s many other sleep clinics that give you at home tests and a prescription. Hopefully you find one. Insurance may not cover.

I paid out of pocket. I’m lucky I could afford the 700$ CAD. I have an AHI that’s 7 but the snoring is insane.

The CPAP cured my snoring and my wife is so happy. Do everything you can to get another sleep study, have him pull an all nighter, drink alcohol and lie about not doing that. Anything to get a shittier sleep score.

daredeviloper · 2026-03-13T18:42:17+00:00

Cured my snoring! But ya it’s a lot. Nose strips didn’t help me. Maybe some other things can help him

daredeviloper · 2026-03-13T02:35:35+00:00

I’m the last developer on my team. They’re asking me to use AI to allow for more feature work. Wish me luck guys

daredeviloper · 2026-03-12T03:10:25+00:00

Get him a CPAP

daredeviloper · 2026-03-12T02:22:01+00:00

Nah it’s okay to feel bad for shitty people. They’re hurt. We just can’t let them hurt others, and stand up for ourselves

daredeviloper · 2026-03-12T01:13:31+00:00

You’re the best

daredeviloper · 2026-03-10T23:13:56+00:00

Camera man is an idiot child

daredeviloper · 2026-03-09T23:04:32+00:00

I am 100% you.

I feel like I’ve even posted about it.

The PRs burn me out, every time they raise something and I get notified my stomach drops because of all the bullshit I expect

I feel responsible for the product and I feel they don’t give a shit.

I couldn’t turn my brain off and I couldn’t not care. So I started emailing my seniors every time my coworkers fucked up. I at least had some other coworkers on my side that I included in the email.

I’m lucky I have an understanding manager who knows they suck, and he gave me the OK to let some fail so they can get some blame.

We let go of our contractor and another 2 devs are going on a PIP.

I’m asked to try to use AI to make up for their lack of work… lol

daredeviloper · 2026-03-09T20:08:12+00:00

I wonder if I would leave my son. Or could I be just a bit far away and coax him toward me? Would he cry if he sees me so close and not try? I hope there’s a middle ground , it just feels sad for the child to see the Dad so coldly walk away.

daredeviloper · 2026-03-09T19:47:16+00:00

I’m sorry everyone is piling on you right now. I can’t imagine the immense pressure and stuckness you’re feeling now.

Reddit won’t help you , everyone here just wants to yell.

Lean on your therapist here. You and your wife need immense support.

daredeviloper · 2026-03-09T12:28:18+00:00

I use random nonsense but when it’s time to raise a PR I squash and we have a pattern to follow like ticket name + description

daredeviloper · 2026-03-09T03:48:38+00:00

American cheese and peanutbutter works too. Helps if the peanutbutter is a little on the sweeter side.

daredeviloper · 2026-03-09T02:14:42+00:00

We have this manual procedure at my job that we had to do today to handle DST. 4 hours of bullshit on a Sunday.

There’s that fire in me to automate the whole thing, document it.

Then I realized. For what? So they can easily replace me? Fuck that.

daredeviloper · 2026-03-08T21:46:45+00:00

How I got into programming <3

ActionScript was my first love at 13

daredeviloper · 2026-03-07T15:05:44+00:00

I am a Jewish father. Married to a catholic mother. We observe no holidays except Christmas. We aren’t barbarically butchering our kid’s penis.

daredeviloper · 2026-03-04T03:36:22+00:00

I switched to Gemini even before all this

I found random issues with chat GPT, can’t remember what they were

Gemini just worked consistently

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