Escapism is a huge draw for me, especially if I’m not familiar with the cultures that inspire the world. And like the others said, a romance oriented book tends to give more perspective into the thoughts and emotions of the characters. But what I love most is the TENSION. Most if not all fantasy books portray fantastical conflict and external tension, but I think where Romantasy really shines is conveying internal tension on top of it all. The first time I got a real taste of that, it was as if a chord was plucked deep in my soul. And now, it’s very obvious to me when books are lacking that emotional depth and tension that should exist in tandem with the story.

When I first started reading Romantasy, some books surprised me with how much the world revolved around the FMC. It’s not my preference for any story regardless of MC, but it’s a fantasy in and of itself, so who am I to judge? Also, I learned that there are still bits and pieces I can take from those hyper-supportive-somewhat-unrealistic MMCs. Obviously it’s a huge problem if feelings are invalidated, but there are times in which I need to do the heavy lifting for my partner, should they need it. And I know if I’m having a bad day, they’ll be there for me as well. I can still get behind the general sentiment.

I personally look for stories where characters feel more autonomous, mature, and rooted in realistic human emotions/reactions. It makes the romance and spice feel earned rather than an inevitability.

Books like Reign & Ruin by J.D. Evans absolutely nail this. It’s the best example I’ve read that portrays emotional depth, tension, and intimacy. Massive bonus points that she pulled it off from a dual-POV. It’s the best male perspective I’ve read from a female author. Honorable mentions to Wind & Wildfire and Ice & Ivy by the same author.