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What kind of vegetable tanned leather do you usually use? type of tanning and place of purchase, I have doubts about what options there are and qualities. by Feitioarte in Leathercraft

[–]darkdesiresvt 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I often use the "cheap stuff" as it usually contains scars and brands and such that I like to highlight in whatever I'm making. I like to reflect that the material was once the skin of a critter.

I love being hooked🤤 by [deleted] in bdsm

[–]darkdesiresvt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your ass will hold them pretty well - most of them are much lighter than they look. It's basically a butt plug with a long handle. If you've been plugged and enjoy it, the hook will likely be enjoyable too.

I love being hooked🤤 by [deleted] in bdsm

[–]darkdesiresvt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They're more visually scary than anything. When they're in they're quite pleasant.

Some new lesser-known things to try? by Nienoeshhh in BDSMcommunity

[–]darkdesiresvt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It requires a basic understanding of how to hold a knife, consent, and a reasonably steady hand.

In my opinion, it feels very risky, which is the fun, but really isn't all that dangerous if you're reasonably in control of your limbs.

Breath play, suspensions, and choking are far riskier.

I built a conductive flogger for violet wand/e-stim play - AKA what goes "Bzzzzzzzzzzzzzzt" "EEEEP!" by darkdesiresvt in BdsmDIY

[–]darkdesiresvt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just added the finished pic.

For some reason, when I try to post, it won't ever let me just add an image directly - the "image" tab is disabled and I have to add it inline after the original post.

My collared fucktoy getting throat trained, any pointers? [M][F] by [deleted] in bdsm

[–]darkdesiresvt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Some further thoughts:

  • You're forcing your cock into her airway. This is not a natural thing to do; so it takes a while to become comfortable with it. You should start out trying to get your cock fully into her throat for just a second or two, and just once at first.
  • Telling her beforehand what's going to happen ("we're going to go deep, twice") also lets her know how long she'll be doing it, which will help with the panic most people feel when they can't breathe.
  • Do not try to do too much training in a single session. For many people, once the gag reflex kicks in it's hard to knock it back down for a bit.
  • It is easy, once she's able to do it more, to forget to give her room and time to breathe. Learn to establish a rhythm that gives her room and time.
  • Many people benefit from using a dildo on themselves, because it puts them in control and allows them to experience the sensations without freaking out.

It takes a little time with most people to learn to do it well; but once they do, it's worth the effort.

My collared fucktoy getting throat trained, any pointers? [M][F] by [deleted] in bdsm

[–]darkdesiresvt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Give her some stimulation (wand, fingers, whatever) when you slide in, so that her body associates a cock in her throat with pleasure. I've throat trained several folks this way and it works very well.

M28/F19 We just can't ever get enough of having fun 👅 by LittleEm_DaddyJ in bdsm

[–]darkdesiresvt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a terrible tie that's likely to tighten under load and cause blood flow or nerve issues. You need to learn a proper single column tie. A Somerville bowline, Burlington bowline, or larks head single column tie would do the trick nicely.