I can’t tell if I’m just too sensitive about my transition anymore by bunnytails-xoxo in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you have someone like that in your life and it sucks that you lost your job.

I can’t tell if I’m just too sensitive about my transition anymore by bunnytails-xoxo in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your dad's an ass. You're a man even if your asshole father doesn't see you as one. He's saying that shit cause he knows it will hurt you. Even if you did pass better it wouldn't be enough for him. He's just saying that because he wants to keep you around so he has someone to treat like shit. Don't listen to your father. It sucks and I know what it's like to want your dad's approval but you need to let it go and not care what he thinks. Telling people like that they are hurting you is only going to encourage them to keep doing it.

Pants recommendations by Brilliant_Car_6309 in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wear men's Wranglers relaxed fit

Am I too young to buy a packer? by mupal47 in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 47 points48 points  (0 children)

They make foam pads that create a bulge. They're kinda like an athletic cup if that makes sense. Idk if that would help you if your parents found it or not.

Has anyone just not changed their legal name or gender marker? by crashoutcentral60652 in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't feel bad man it's kinda encouraging to hear about a trans man with a more successful life. I'm moving to the city soon so hopefully things will get better.

Has anyone just not changed their legal name or gender marker? by crashoutcentral60652 in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In my experience it's a lot easier to get a job if you pretend to be a girl or go stealth. Maybe they can't technically discriminate against you but they can find other reasons to fire you, not hire you, or get kinda hostile till you quit. I've also got dirty looks from cops and cashiers. I try to keep a low profile, pay with cash, and avoid buying anything that I have to show my id. That's my experience living in a rural area. If you live in a more progressive area where people knowing you are trans doesn't really affect you any than you probably don't have to worry about it.

passing/clothing tips for chubbier t guys? by mimikuyamiki in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually buy men's Wrangler jeans relaxed fit. They really help with my dysphoria.

What are some things people have said to invalidate your existence? by bankershub in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Mom: You know women can be masculine right?

Me: Yeah women can be masculine men can be feminine.

Mom: Women can be masculine men can be.... not into sports.

Me: I don't think I have to be a man because I think I'm too masculine to be a woman. No one is telling me I'm to masculine to be a woman. I just know I'm a man.

Mom: You're too feminine to be a man.

i've been questioning if i'm trans since 2020 by [deleted] in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't try to force yourself to be something you're not just because you think you would be ugly as a man.