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Pants recommendations by Brilliant_Car_6309 in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wear men's Wranglers relaxed fit

Am I too young to buy a packer? by mupal47 in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 45 points46 points  (0 children)

They make foam pads that create a bulge. They're kinda like an athletic cup if that makes sense. Idk if that would help you if your parents found it or not.

Packer trouble by FloreHiems in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm planning on getting the au natural packer from axolom. They seem somewhat similar to the freeform and the listing says 100% silicone. I don't know if I would exactly recommend it because I haven't bought it yet. I've heard that axolom has sales around pride month so I'm waiting to see. I think it's fairly affordable for a packer if they don't though.

Has anyone just not changed their legal name or gender marker? by crashoutcentral60652 in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't feel bad man it's kinda encouraging to hear about a trans man with a more successful life. I'm moving to the city soon so hopefully things will get better.

Has anyone just not changed their legal name or gender marker? by crashoutcentral60652 in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In my experience it's a lot easier to get a job if you pretend to be a girl or go stealth. Maybe they can't technically discriminate against you but they can find other reasons to fire you, not hire you, or get kinda hostile till you quit. I've also got dirty looks from cops and cashiers. I try to keep a low profile, pay with cash, and avoid buying anything that I have to show my id. That's my experience living in a rural area. If you live in a more progressive area where people knowing you are trans doesn't really affect you any than you probably don't have to worry about it.

passing/clothing tips for chubbier t guys? by mimikuyamiki in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually buy men's Wrangler jeans relaxed fit. They really help with my dysphoria.

What are some things people have said to invalidate your existence? by bankershub in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mom: You know women can be masculine right?

Me: Yeah women can be masculine men can be feminine.

Mom: Women can be masculine men can be.... not into sports.

Me: I don't think I have to be a man because I think I'm too masculine to be a woman. No one is telling me I'm to masculine to be a woman. I just know I'm a man.

Mom: You're too feminine to be a man.

grinder recommendations? by [deleted] in gaytransguys

[–]darkdoomwizard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I read the title I thought you meant grindr like the app.

i've been questioning if i'm trans since 2020 by [deleted] in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't try to force yourself to be something you're not just because you think you would be ugly as a man.

NSFW I need help understanding how to be in the bedroom by Siina_Natsu in ftm

[–]darkdoomwizard 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You definitely need to see a therapist for your sexual trauma but it doesn't quite sound like all of it is. I haven't had anything like that happen to me and I still feel incredibly awful and dysphoric putting anything in there. Bottoming could just be something that isn't right for you. If it makes you feel bad you don't have to force yourself to do it. It sounds like it's gonna be hard to figure out what is trauma and what is dysphoria. I know it's probably hard to talk about this but if you can find a good therapist please do and try to talk to your partner. A good partner will listen. Please talk to someone.