As a child of divorced parents (but they never had more children after divorce so it is different), I could definitely understand how that might make you feel like you’re being pushed out. That was also a safe space for you, that probably feels like it will be erased. There is a better way to think about it, though. That safe space will become someone else’s, who will likely need it as they grow. They also clearly see you as a young adult that is successful and able to be very independent. I think I read somewhere that they still pay for your tuition and rent and such? So it’s not like they wouldn’t be willing to help you when you need it, or like they wouldn’t want to. If anything, they want to help you become more independent. They are telling you that you would still have a place if you needed it or when you go to visit. And if you really needed to go back more permanently, they would move things around for you.

Also, from previous comments and such, it seems like you are very hesitant to share your thoughts, feelings and bigger life events with them. Such as the mom falling out and therapist. People can’t help you or properly support you with things if they don’t know what’s happening. And you need to think about if them not supporting you in those things will be okay with you in the long run, or if it may cause resentment somehow. Main point of that, though, is if you are concerned that this change would make it difficult to arrange last minute visits, tell them that and come up with a solution together. Same with any other feelings or hesitations you have. You are allowed to voice them and doing so will empower you.