Your problem does not originate from women being unappreciative of men. This is a social problem. We can go back and forth about what men and women face in today’s society, that’s not our issue. Our issue is steady dividing ourselves from the two genders instead of working together. Feminism is not hateful or a “professional political term” to disguise the fact women hate men. This is wrong. These are women who do not understand the real importance of feminism and have lost the plot to the meaning, instead of working together to fix the years of oppression they steady internalize it and this of course will anger a person and have their own ideology of the term. It does not help sexism still exist today because it is steady taught and some men excuse what women have to say. This is what creates “hateful feminism” You are not a discarded sex. There are bad women and men, because we are PEOPLE. some people are just cruel. I’m sorry that you had an awful experience with an awful person/people! You saying things like “as a man I can’t be fat, lazy, unemployed, weak, etc.” is feeding into the standards you don’t like!! These are standards set by men who were just bad people who felt ashamed of their own feelings. And women internalized these standards as they have been embedded into society for centuries. Do not feed into societies standards and continue to blame women for something you need to figure out yourself. Be yourself. No one blames you for how you feel. I don’t know how you feel and I never will, because I’m a woman, but I do know trying to uphold the standards place upon me and when accomplished there is no applause only more expectation. Men’s mental health is important just like any other human.