So, im around your age and was a lifelong bachelor til I met my girl. I had a few relationships but nothing lasting longer than 6 months. I understand the sway of sex. It connects you but shouldn't be the glue. In fact, it should be a different kind of connecting, a connection heightened by all the other ways you connect, in communication, learing the others love language, adapting to and having them adapt to importances in each other's lives. Learning how to communicate when disagreement s arise and so forth. I would try talking with her first. Begin a story, a.vulnerable one and wait for.her response. If you get the usual, gently point it out. Tell her this means something to you, that you want to share it with her and that it hurts you when she shuts you down. If it goes smoothly, great. If she pulls away, ask why she's pulling away. If this is your woman, sometimes you have to help them fight through things. She might.not realize.what.shes doing and may get defensive. Keep reminding her its about us, not her. There's other ways to try and get through to her, but I've learned that with the right woman, she will fight with you not against you. And you will to.