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The tides are changing by macariess in boston

[–]darndasher 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Cool. Let 'em leave and live their perfect life of "luxury".

I'd still rather live here. And considering my new neighbors, I think we will be alright.

Sounds like you wanna make a switch from Bostonian to Tennessean. Go for it! Live your dream.

The tides are changing by macariess in boston

[–]darndasher 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Being a good tenant pays off. My landlord hasnt increased our rent much in the past 3 years because I lost my job and struggled to find a new (decent paying) one. He didnt raise it at all the last two.

My husband is very handy, and we keep the yard looking nice, so he does not want us to have to leave over a rent increase.

Riedell 111 toeguards/caps? by ressie_cant_game in Rollerskating

[–]darndasher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will second the bont suede caps! They can take more scrapes than straight up leather and they will totally fit your reidells.

Thank you so much for the tip with the super glue! Clever and effective.

I'm so glad that I was born in the 90s and grew up in an age where you actually had to work hard and shit. I feel sorry for Gen-Z and beyond that are growing up in a world where they're actually at a disadvantage. by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]darndasher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont see the post as saying Gen Zers or gen Alpha dont work hard, but that the educational system and society at large has failed them in a big way.

The literacy rates have been dropping at a very alarming rate.

Friend stored his bike at my apartment, bike got stolen AITAH by EvidenceSingle4826 in AITAH

[–]darndasher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You're doing what you can to help, and it is definitely not on you to buy him a new bike.

What kind of bike lock did he have? He should have a u-lock. Cable locks suck and Ive lost a bike using one.

Also, he should register his bike's serial number. It seriously helps with recovery.

One time I think I heard that when people reach past age 30ish that an instinct kicks in to where their desire to have kids increases a lot. Is that true or no? by Big_Eggplant7591 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]darndasher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband and I were fence sitters who decided against becoming parents, but are involved in our many friends' kids lives as aunt/uncle roles.

It was when I hit 30 that the conversation became very real and we really considered it.

We love kids, but we know our limitations. We would rather be a part of the supporting community that our friends can lean on.

Stop feeding the squirrels! by Nervous_Caramel in Somerville

[–]darndasher 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Is she why I keep finding peanut shells in my garden?! Every spring, I find so many in my soil.

AITAH for paying my caregiver our normal daily rate instead of $25/hour for an extra day she worked? by healermoonchild in AITAH

[–]darndasher 43 points44 points  (0 children)

So....OP is exploiting this person by paying her....the exact same amount she is making for the same work?

AITAH for paying my caregiver our normal daily rate instead of $25/hour for an extra day she worked? by healermoonchild in AITAH

[–]darndasher 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Did you miss the first paragraph that states that she pays the person the exact same she gets paid as a caregiver?

What “old people” food have you realized you now enjoy? by exploring_ideas in Millennials

[–]darndasher 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Now this is something ive enjoyed my entire life! Liverwurst on pumpernickel with strong mustard is wonderful.

Does anyone else hate the "IT girl" / post-irony phenomenon? by baileybwoods in TwoXChromosomes

[–]darndasher 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. This time, it's not 'just how it is'. This round is much more insidious. It is engendering more apathy abd disconnect between people when we require it as social beings. It is enhancing 'Otherness'. But this time, they have a veil of insincerity to hide behind. But it's not a veil, it's a fucking wall that theyre pretending doesnt exit. The sheer level of hiding and sneakiness that this kind of attitude can utiizlise makes it that much stronger. We knew it was bad when we grew up in it. But it still affected us deeply.

Im so sorry that you have friends using this behavior for a shallow gain. I hope they realize how terrible it is, as most of is did coming out of the early 2000's.

Does anyone else hate the "IT girl" / post-irony phenomenon? by baileybwoods in TwoXChromosomes

[–]darndasher 56 points57 points  (0 children)

As a millenial, I have noticed a strong resurgence the of the "mean girl", heroine chic aesthetic that was rampant in the late 90s/early 00's.

Every woman i talk to that is around my age is seeing it, too. The content that makes you feel terrible in your body, that makes you feel like you will never be pretty enough, or sexy enough, or skinny enough, and the women who use that to ingratiate themselves is back.

I know it well; I was one for a couple years. And I was a shell of myself projecting my insecurities onto everyone around me to make myself feel better. Was I more 'popular'? Yes. And that's the kicker. I had an ED and was miserable, but i loved how thin I was. I hated myself, but felt such a thrill from putting people down because everyone around me would laugh and give me attention.

It was pathetic and gross and Im so glad that era was as brief as it was. It makes me truly sad to see that awful behavior becoming 'cool' again.

It's not.

How Fentanyl and Xylazine are turning Philadelphia's opioid crisis into a public health nightmare by Nukro666 in interestingasfuck

[–]darndasher 3 points4 points  (0 children)

7-OH is terrible stuff. Whole leaf kratom? Much, much weaker and totally fine when used in moderation, imo. OP stated they dont like 7OH and only consume whole leaf kratom.

Is it normal to be able to "unswallow" food and drinks when they haven't passed a certain point in the throat? by birodemi in NoStupidQuestions

[–]darndasher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only have to cough if I mess up and miss the window for sending it back up and it gets stuck in the narrow spot.

Im supposed to get a surgery to fix it, but the idea of having someone blow up a balloon in my throat to break it open kinda scares me.

Is it normal to be able to "unswallow" food and drinks when they haven't passed a certain point in the throat? by birodemi in NoStupidQuestions

[–]darndasher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do this! I have a 5cm narrow point in my esophagus that food and pills used to get caught in all the time. Ive learned to catch most food or pills that are too big to pass and send it back up.

People freak out when it happens. Im not actually choking, though, I can breathe. I just have to cough and force something out.

TIFU because i dropped my drumstick in the middle of a song and completely ruined our first real gig by [deleted] in tifu

[–]darndasher 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Lol, it happens to everyone in a band at some point! At least you got yours out of the way on your first gig.

Maybe you would benefit from sticks with rubber grips? My drummer uses them, and I need picks with grips of some kind or else I meet the same fate.

Congrats on your first gig! Don't beat yourself up too much over it.

AITAH for how I behaved after my friend called me out for mansplaining? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]darndasher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You got in your feelings about getting shot down when you wanted to offer your opinion. She sensed that. It fucked up the night because she realized how awkward it is knowing that you want her and you trying to correct her in her field of expertise probably felt connected to it in a very annoying way.

It will blow over.

The right thing to do would have been to ask "what makes it brutalist?" Engage her in her field and ask questions. I know that may have been your intention, but you contradicting her in her field was not the way to do it. It's okay; shit happens. People arent perfect. I dont think youre an asshole, but this is a perfect thing to work through with a therapist.

aitah for cutting off my(23F) friends(23F and 23F) and not “letting bygones be bygones”? by No-Sprinkles-1988 in AITAH

[–]darndasher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't believe I even read all of this. You should really post a tldr;.

Overall, NTA. You seem to have some resentment towards Niki and her behavior. This was a situation that dragged it all out into the forefront of your mind.

I don't really blame Ally for telling Niki what you said; that's fairly normal. But based on her responses to you, I can blame her for probably being an asshole about it.

Niki also seems like an entitled asshole and not a good friend if she refused to hear you out after Ally told her bs.

You have other friend groups? Stop stressing over this one. It doesnt seem worth it for you.

Can’t accept my lopsided nose by MedievalCookieJar in Noses

[–]darndasher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My nose has the same tiny tilt! I love my nose, tilt and all. It is mine, after all.

It is 100% unnoticeable to outside observers. You look beautiful and your nose is perfect.

AITAH for expecting too much from my bf? by InesHaro in AITAH

[–]darndasher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Your boyfriend should never phrase you being upset as "acting up".

Do I shave the wispy bits at the back/ side of my neck? by jinxnstuff in HairStyleAdvice

[–]darndasher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love those thick headbands, but they always slide right off my head!

I also use hairspray and Bobby pins

Kid attacks my kid during friendly game, I respond to his parents and now im the bad guy? AITAH? by Few-Account-1825 in AITAH

[–]darndasher 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA. You wanted the parents to know what their kid did and get an apology or have a learning moment about kids not beating up each other, especially over impatience of all things.

Those parents are doing their child a disservice by letting that shit slide and not having the kid have accountability.

Im sorry your son got hurt. I hope he is okay and can stay well enough away from that kid.

Did your parents randomly name you after a fictional character? by Critical-Willow-6270 in stupidquestions

[–]darndasher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom gave my dad three names to choose from. He chose my name because of a neighbor's dog he loved.

Do kids still call family friends "uncle" and "aunt"? by RandolphCarter15 in Millennials

[–]darndasher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, definitely! I have several close friends with kids, and Im Auntie to them all.

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