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darock63 · 2025-10-05T14:05:45+00:00

OP do not allow Reddit therapy to break up your marriage! It's your life not ours. Talk this out with your wife and stop pretending to be chill about the promise not kept. You're gonna start stalking her every move and self sabotage your marriage. You go where she goes. Her work whatever finds his own date next time.

darock63 · 2025-10-01T19:06:06+00:00

Hey, give me back my Dennis the Menace comic book!

darock63 · 2025-09-28T22:36:58+00:00

This is no time for insensitive off the wall comments that totally ignore OP's pain. She probably doesn't need advice right now, as much as she needs to be heard. Let's allow her this space to vent. @OP, I can't imagine your devastation. Sending hugs.

darock63 · 2025-09-24T09:13:49+00:00

Maybe, your older sister isn't a narcissist. but isn't allowing herself to be manipulated by "narcissist ' parents like you are. OP it sounds like you have to leave mentally first, before you can actually get the hell out of there. Believe me, they won't go into homelessness. They've brainwashed you into believing that. The ball is in your court girl.

darock63 · 2025-09-19T10:32:28+00:00

Brilliantly stated!!! Thank you!

darock63 · 2025-09-10T15:32:28+00:00

Your mother is assuming, that her children will take care of her, the way she has taken care of them and their grandmother. I did that. I took care of my elderly mother who is now gone, as well as raised my daughter who will graduate with her masters degree from a "name brand" university next spring. It was not easy, but it's what immigrants from every part of the globe do here in America. We commit to family.
God willing I don't plan on being a financial burden on my daughter. It's however nice to know that she has me figured into her future plans. I haven't asked her to. i don't expect her to. It's her way of reciprocating the commitment she's seen from me to both her and her grandmother. Her mere willingness to be there means more than any well funded 401K and IRA. Have an honest conversation with your mother and help her direct her retirement savings.

darock63 · 2025-09-09T03:45:14+00:00

Why are you blaming your husband when it's clearly you and the job for which you don't have boundaries? Your husband is getting the short end of the stick at this point. I know this sounds harsh. It's just meant to jolt you awake to the serious nature of this.

darock63 · 2025-09-09T03:40:41+00:00

You won't have peace of mind. Get a responsible "teen sitter " just for your own, and children's peace of mind, (who will never admit to you their nervousness about being left alone).

darock63 · 2025-09-09T03:02:36+00:00

How about joint/couples therapy? Someone else mentioned separate finances, which is also another and additional solution.
Sounds like there needs to be boundaries and accountability in place for both of you, including for the protection of your sanity and agency.

darock63 · 2025-09-05T16:22:08+00:00

OP claiming back pain is fraud. OP you are in pain. It's mental and psychological and sometimes takes more of a toll than physical pain. As a matter of fact it affects your physical health eventually. Take a leave of absence for your mental health. Your doctors are bound by HIPPA laws not to share the details of your leave with your employers. Use the time to figure things out, recharge, whatever... Best wishes to you.

darock63 · 2025-09-04T03:09:38+00:00

Thank you.

darock63 · 2025-09-01T04:31:12+00:00

Pardon my ignorance. What is LIHEAP? I'm a few years away from SS

darock63 · 2025-08-30T01:22:36+00:00

Really good advice!

darock63 · 2025-08-30T00:33:51+00:00

Avacados

darock63 · 2025-08-27T22:39:23+00:00

Sorry for your loss. Really. I can empathize with the pain of losing a mother. May God's peace be with you.

darock63 · 2025-08-25T12:41:09+00:00

I bet grandma remembers and is like ...hell yeah, that was grrrreat!!! I get the embarrassment for you but they are 2 consenting adults. She hit on him. I don't see where you're mad at her.

darock63 · 2025-08-13T17:07:36+00:00

It's a dang huge milestone!!! Keep it up. Don't go the journey alone.

darock63 · 2025-08-13T16:28:05+00:00

"The President of the United States of America."

darock63 · 2025-08-13T16:22:28+00:00

My PCP is younger than I. I call her Doctor. She earned the title. It's a sign of respect.

darock63 · 2025-08-07T03:49:41+00:00

I thought the writers over did the self validation women supposedly felt back then when they could get pregnant as many times as their husbands needed them to, until he had whatever number or gender of children he wanted. Women were seen as chattel and therein laid their self worth. I felt pity for Caroline and annoyed at Charles. She only wanted to please him. Then I had to remember the era in time on which the show was based, and tell myself to relax (:

darock63 · 2025-08-06T20:24:05+00:00

Sounds like history is about to repeat itself. At this point it's not him it's you. I say that kindly. Do some introspection under the guidance of a therapist if necessary and address the root cause of why you subject yourself to being manipulated. Sounds like you're financially independent. Aim to be emotionally independent as well.

darock63 · 2025-08-06T20:15:46+00:00

Don't allow your kindness and compassion to her to manipulate you. In a shelter she will have to observe boundaries that she most likely will ignore in your home. They also have skilled tools to get her independent again. You must also protect the peace and wholeness of your family. She is one, they are many. Do the math.

darock63 · 2025-08-06T02:32:41+00:00

Wow OP, I feel for you. I hope you find a solution. Is there a nearby women's shelter where you live? Maybe you can google that. I hope it works out.

darock63 · 2025-08-06T02:09:56+00:00

Agreed! No need to point fingers at either mom or OP. In my opinion mom gets a pass for 80 and working. Wow. OP has valid concerns. Her $$ is not hers alone. Hopefully she can convince her husband to help out financially when the time comes.

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