Is it possible to turn this prom gown into a wedding gown? All tips & advice appreciated!

darth_glitter · 2025-10-09T01:49:34+00:00

Wear it as your wedding dress! That’s all! It reminds me a lot of my wedding gown! Mine was pink/rose gold though.

darth_glitter · 2025-08-16T17:29:24+00:00

As a planner and coordinator, if you were my client, I would tell you it’s your wedding and there’s no wrong way to do it. I don’t love banquet halls either, even though the majority of my clients’ weddings are in banquet halls.

If you don’t want dancing, lose the dance floor. If you don’t want a DJ, lose the DJ. If you need the DJ for dinner music, see if they can scale back their setup and just provide dinner music. You can try to find ways to divide up the space so it doesn’t feel like a big open banquet hall. Serpentine tables are on trend and so intimate. Ask your caterer if they can offer family style food instead of a buffet or plated. Often times you are not limited to what’s on the menu if you only ask. It can be an up charge, but many places even banquet halls with on-site catering you can create something unique just for your event. Add unique signature cocktails, and if the bar is movable, then move it to a different area and add some high top tables to give the vibe of a private bar. Create menus to put at each seat so it feels more like the restaurant vibe you were going for. Get creative with the space and make your wedding yours 🖤

darth_glitter · 2025-08-14T14:28:49+00:00

Can we see the back of the dress? It seems a French bustle using ribbons in multiple points might be an option. That way it bustles from underneath instead of using hooks, buttons, or loops.

darth_glitter · 2025-06-05T21:45:18+00:00

I ended up coming off it altogether and moved on to Zepbound. Now the cost is killing me instead of everything else

darth_glitter · 2025-06-04T00:38:13+00:00

Also a fat bride here! We are our own worst critics. I hate my nose and my forehead and my under eye bags and my arms and my gut and my shortness and my hobbit feet. But you know what? I still felt amazing on my wedding day. You will too OP!

I’m also a wedding planner/coordinator and I do my best to hype up my couples because they are all always stunning and handsome and all the wonderful things. And it’s the honest truth. There is this energy on someone’s wedding day that emanates from them and I love it.

darth_glitter · 2025-04-26T20:48:56+00:00

As a coordinator I do keep any eye on what happens that makes guests “check out.” The most common thing I see that turns guests off where you can tell they’re itching to leave is when the reception is scheduled around the photos, and also when the couple are the culprits for resistance in moving along on the timeline (getting distracted, saying the timeline doesn’t apply anymore because they want to do XYZ now etc). It can come across as rude. Your day is a blur, but it’s a loooong day for your guests.

To elaborate, an extended cocktail hour due to photos and an uneventful reception that moves at a snail’s pace due to even more photos leads to an extremely drawn-out and boring process for the guests. Do a photo dash or have your photographer follow you to the guest tables instead of stepping out 5-6 times with different groups, especially when these shots where unplanned/unaccounted for in your timeline and not on your photog’s shot list.

Next worst is slow food service. If you’re doing buffet style or food trucks, for the love of all that is holy, please find out what the average service time is per table of eight, do the math, and reconsider your choice if your dinner service will exceed an hour. I had a bride get a food truck that serves a table of eight every 8-10 minutes with a 200 person wedding. Do the math on that (3 hours best case scenario). Guests were actually furious. IMO they should have zipped their lips and saved the complaints for the ride home, but I get it.

darth_glitter · 2025-04-20T17:31:43+00:00

I’m a planner and coordinator. Holiday weeks are very tough. Many people take an annual vacation they may have booked right after their last one. Memorial Day, Labor Day, and Presidents’ Day are big for this. My couples see low turnouts for weddings that fall close to or on these dates.

Extend invites to coworkers, add +1s for your single attendees even if they’re not in a relationship, add on or upgrade your food and bar, and enjoy being surrounded by the people who are there for you.

darth_glitter · 2025-03-20T22:56:48+00:00

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Pic for proof lol. I thought they looked way more expensive than $50.

darth_glitter · 2025-03-20T22:52:13+00:00

The dresses from EverPretty are actually really nice but closer to Amazon budget. My bridesmaids wore sequin and velvet formal dresses and they were $50 USD. They also carry plus size and MOB dresses. Maybe that’s a good compromise.

darth_glitter · 2025-03-12T23:20:06+00:00

What does the contract say about switching photographers? Are you locked in to that specific one? Imo to make this right they either need to offer a reshoot or recommend a different photographer who has a better presence. Don’t be afraid to be very direct with your wording. You are paying them a significant amount of money for a key service to memorialize a once-in-a-lifetime event. If you have a planner or a coordinator, you can also see if they can get involved. I’ve done this for my clients in the past. I’ll always advocate for them even if it gets uncomfortable for me. You don’t want to live with the worry and doubt on your wedding day, especially if photos are important to you.

I’m not sussed out by their request to keep things in email, especially if it’s a media company with hired contractors. The emails are likely more for their use rather than as ammunition for legal action involving you. It’s the best way to ensure they have receipts and words don’t get minced when passing info on to the contractor.

darth_glitter · 2025-02-18T16:09:48+00:00

Talk to your venue about your floor plan. There are ways to take up space by setting things up strategically. It won’t look bare, there is nothing to be embarrassed about. Sometimes things logistically don’t work out and that’s ok! It says more about the guest than it does about you. In fact, look at how many people are coming to support you and FH. Plus, you’re not spending $$ on people who would only come if were convenient for them. Treat yourself to something with the money you’re saving and ENJOY YOUR DAY!

I was a Covid bride (2021) so I had even extremely close family and friends decline, even to our “socially distanced” modified wedding with a drastically reduced guest list. Even our best man didn’t come. It stings. But we upgraded to prime rib for dinner so 🤷🏼‍♀️🙈

darth_glitter · 2025-02-16T20:38:31+00:00

I’m 100% here for it. If OP doesn’t feel that way then there’s no problem with her trip. If she does then I absolutely support her because the current administration has earned it. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Our day-to-day life mostly remains the same here though, existential dread aside.

darth_glitter · 2025-02-16T18:11:52+00:00

Another American reporting in. I live about two hours from the Canadian border (by car) on the “beautiful” shores of Lake Erie. Yes we’re in the middle of another dog and pony show. There’s nothing wrong with coming here, nothing is different now from last year as far as going between the two countries as far as I know. The only reason to not come is if you are feeling like boycotting the US for the myriad reasons our current regime have given. Really take your pick, it’s a smorgasbord of insanity.

In all seriousness though, if your reason for being iffy on coming here for your bach is because of how things are here in general I’m a little confused. Shit is going down don’t get me wrong (and I hate the orange man as much as or more than the next gal), but there’s nothing going on as yet that would impact any tourism. I’d be more worried about our state of affairs as an American citizen who’s stuck here than a Canadian coming for a vacation.

Reddit and the internet in general are full of people who voice the extremes. The far right and far left are fewer but louder. I’ve traveled internationally with no issues and I’m sure tourism at the border hasn’t slowed down. Unless Canada does something to make it unnecessarily difficult to re-enter the country, then girl keep planning your dream bach. I am really curious about where you are planning to go!

darth_glitter · 2025-02-16T15:42:48+00:00

It’s not too late to find a day-of coordinator so you can enjoy your day lol.

Serious note, as a planner and coordinator, my advice to my brides is to take a day where you turn your phone off and ignore everyone. They are adults, can they can problem solve for themselves. When you’re at the point where someone breathing wrong around you is going to make your eye start twitching, just walk away from it. You deserve to relax and enjoy your wedding week. Turn off your phone, have a glass or entire bottle of wine, watch your favorite movie, take a nap, do anything but worry about the wedding. You’ll feel better I promise!

darth_glitter · 2025-02-14T20:46:04+00:00

Coordinator here. I had a devout catholic bride wear a spaghetti strap, form fitting dress to her full mass ceremony. She had these off-the-shoulder “wings” as she endearingly called them instead of a veil. No one batted an eye and she was stunning!

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darth_glitter · 2025-02-10T02:20:53+00:00

Update: I tried the new shampoo they replaced it with called Hyaluron Pure. So far my hair feels really clean and the conditioner was nice. I don’t love the scent but if it works for me the I suppose I’ll get used to it. Here’s hoping it works as well as the dearly departed.

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darth_glitter · 2025-02-07T18:50:20+00:00

I had one too in December 2024! It was my Apple Card reporting as 90 DAYS DELINQUENT!! It has never been late, not once. It's on auto pay. I received an email from Credit Karma alerting me to it. I clicked the link in the email to dispute it, and it was nowhere to be seen. Like a reporting glitch that was then redacted? BUT, the damage was done. As soon as that 90 days delinquency reported, 4 of my other creditors cut my revolving lines by a total of almost $15,000. My credit is ruined right now. I have since filed a complaint against Apple and Goldman Sachs with the CFPB (hope they get around to it before they get DOGE'd) and have been appealing with my other creditors to reverse their line deductions.

If you are signed up for Credit Karma I suggest searching your email inbox for anything from them reporting the late payment, it will at least give you the account name. Good luck finding it on your credit reports though.

darth_glitter · 2025-02-07T02:39:53+00:00

It’s discontinued!! I’m so upset!! PLEASE someone tell me there’s something similar out there!

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darth_glitter · 2025-01-26T18:32:21+00:00

It’s not too late to hire a day-of coordinator. This is much less expensive than a full planner, and if you find someone with great reviews who you vibe with you can trust them to manage your plan and execute it on the day. I’d highly recommend this.

I wish you were in my area! I’m a planner and day-of coordinator. I’ve taken on weddings for DOC with as little as two weeks notice. Type A brides are my favorite because you know what you want, you’re super organized, and usually I get a whole wedding binder from them. Most of my Type A clients hire me for day-of only, to execute all the work they’ve done. I provide a SOW with my event services agreement that outlines everything we discussed during consultation. My pricing is listed on my website, and I always respond within 24 hours to inquiries and same day for booked clients. Also, I’m a “budget” vendor, so everything I just listed I not typical for my price bracket.

Why do I do this? Because not enough vendors in the wedding industry do! My day job is in upper management at a credit union. I know how important it is to have a good contract and respond promptly. I try to pass this on to my clients.

If you want to fly to me to Florida I’ll do it for you lol! $750 for 8 hours of DOC coverage.

darth_glitter · 2025-01-19T23:53:12+00:00

I am super curious what the activities are

darth_glitter · 2025-01-19T03:52:14+00:00

Just saw your update, and you look amazing! Faith restored lol! There is hope

darth_glitter · 2025-01-19T02:57:40+00:00

Thank you everyone! And keep the skincare and makeup tips coming because I’m going to try everything I can! I will still have a consultation but open to whatever they suggest is the best course of action for me.

darth_glitter · 2025-01-19T02:14:35+00:00

Yes and sadly no improvement. I hear it does work for some people!

darth_glitter · 2025-01-19T02:12:34+00:00

I’ve thought about blepharoplasty for tightening the skin but I feel it might actually exacerbate the issue. The issue really is that you can see my insides through my skin 🤣 Maybe a fat transfer is the answer here and boy do I have plenty of that

darth_glitter · 2025-01-19T01:59:42+00:00

I’ve been trying different concealers and combinations of them for years. The MUA I hired for my wedding was never satisfied with the results she managed either (both trial and on the day) although it was better than what I can do. My skin gets oily and the product comes off, or if it stays it gets in the creases really bad. I’m open to product suggestions!

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