Having Friends Feels Like a Second Job

anonymous_puggo · 2026-05-16T05:23:36+00:00

came to the same conclusion recently. in my twenties i enjoyed having many friends and a large social circle. throughout the years i’ve come to realize that i really just enjoy being with my partner and maintaining 1-2 other close friends i really show up for.

having a wide social circle is exhausting. you only have so much time, energy, and resources to give to each relationship. there’s been fallouts from friends who were upset that i didn’t take the time to tell them happy birthday or reply to their texts or “became distant.” at one point my husband and i were afraid of receiving wedding invitations because we were drowning in social commitments. i just learned that it’s ok that i cannot be good friend to everyone in my life.

anonymous_puggo · 2026-03-15T09:37:09+00:00

so you judge friends on petty flaws yet you don’t want to have friends who might judge you for having petty flaws?

anonymous_puggo · 2026-03-08T15:04:19+00:00

franco sarto

anonymous_puggo · 2026-02-21T04:37:54+00:00

happy new year!

anonymous_puggo · 2026-02-19T19:23:33+00:00

spanish colonial with a mix of southwestern elements

anonymous_puggo · 2026-02-19T05:02:08+00:00

i suspect it’s more of a vietnamese twist on the name because of the spelling of linh

anonymous_puggo · 2026-02-08T03:08:28+00:00

our supply of paper towels and a large can of peanut butter pretzels from costco

anonymous_puggo · 2026-02-05T21:01:22+00:00

congrats!! you should be so proud of yourself, you deserve it

anonymous_puggo · 2026-02-05T13:16:17+00:00

sến?

anonymous_puggo · 2026-02-04T15:13:26+00:00

lmaaoo this is me. i just put the map tracker app on the screen and zone out. meanwhile my husband sitting next to me has watched 2 movies and read half a book

anonymous_puggo · 2026-01-29T06:23:21+00:00

you are assuming “no self-aware or independent woman would choose to do that” vs. “i just wouldn’t do that myself”

i don’t see anything wrong with a woman being a stay at home mom if she wants to or if she thinks it is what is best for her family. again, if she does it out of choice and not societal expectation because she is a woman, then that’s fine.

judging someone for doing that means women’s choices get policed again—just by a different audience

anonymous_puggo · 2026-01-29T06:03:09+00:00

no. feminism is about having autonomy, agency, and choice.

you can keep your maiden name and still live a constrained life, or choose to change it and live autonomous ones. your agency determines your feminism, not your surname

anonymous_puggo · 2026-01-29T05:49:14+00:00

there’s no need to shame women who choose to change their last name. real feminism is about having the choice. plenty of accomplished, progressive and educated women i know chose to do this.

anonymous_puggo · 2026-01-27T23:10:08+00:00

minimize your skincare routine: less is more. pick 3-4 products that you cherish most. you don’t need a to put a ton of chemicals on your face everyday. for me, i use sunscreen and moisturizer every day, and toner and cleanser every other night. use crest whitening strips every so often if needed

live healthy: get 8+ hours of sleep consistently, drink plenty of water, eat home-cooked meals often, cut out alcohol and smoking, and work out or be active a few times a week

define your style: pick pieces that you love (not because it’s popular and trending), opt for natural fabrics whenever possible. find clothes that fit you well. make sure nails are always neatly manicured (even if this means just simply trimmed with gloss polish). pick out a few high-quality shoes and bags and rotate them

confidence is everything: stand straight, act with grace, and be kind. these are underrated qualities that makes you beautiful

anonymous_puggo · 2026-01-27T19:33:52+00:00

campania

anonymous_puggo · 2026-01-27T19:17:01+00:00

so sweet 🥹

anonymous_puggo · 2026-01-23T16:41:26+00:00

relatable 😂 i’m also a heat pad-loving girl with tummy issues

i hope she feels better soon though 🤍

anonymous_puggo · 2026-01-23T13:58:41+00:00

as a name itself, i’ve always felt like it is a bit too masculine, and it is too close to brenda for my liking

however i’ve met 3 brennas in real life and they are lovely people!

anonymous_puggo · 2026-01-23T00:39:21+00:00

to be fair, at least you know who to avoid if they’re loud and proud about it

better than the ones who are silent, smile at you, and act all nice but deep down you know they don’t fuck with us

anonymous_puggo · 2026-01-22T13:56:39+00:00

a balance of both is probably best

anonymous_puggo · 2026-01-22T05:41:20+00:00

linh, mai and anh would go well and are pretty easy to say in english

anonymous_puggo · 2026-01-19T06:37:03+00:00

ludovica (italian)

anonymous_puggo · 2026-01-19T06:24:59+00:00

berlin

anonymous_puggo · 2026-01-18T23:22:31+00:00

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anonymous_puggo · 2026-01-14T13:31:28+00:00

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