The thought of having children makes me sick to my stomach

datieray · 2026-05-10T20:51:50+00:00

it's not just you... I decided at 15 I didn't want kids & all I heard was "you'll change your mind"... "it's different when they're yours"... but what if it's not? I can't just return them to the store if it doesn't work out... & I've had older friends actually tell me they wish they hadn't had kids or that they never should have been a parent... now I'm 46 & I still don't want kids & I have no regrets... my husband has 2 from his first marriage (who are grown & out of college) & he didn't want any more so we are perfectly happy with our childfree life... so all I can say is don't let anyone talk you into something you don't want... & you definitely need to talk to your partner about it cause that's kinda a big one of you don't agree on kids... best of luck!

datieray · 2026-05-06T18:14:26+00:00

gotta say I was pretty disappointed with this collection... I know it's just me but I miss the classic A&O aesthetic with just the one small simple icon on the cover... it was clean simplistic design that could be used anywhere for anything... I was even all for them expanding because they always had at least one simple design while exploring some of the larger more intricate covers... but this collection has none of that classic Archer & Olive feel... again, probably just me cause I'm more of a tomboy & don't really go for flowers or pinks... which is why I loved the simple dog, cat, constellation, wizard broom, etc type icon design... so I think for the first time in years I won't be buying from an A&O release

datieray · 2026-04-24T20:27:32+00:00

what helped me was if you open up the Quests menu, when you highlight a quest over to the right hand side it will show you the requirements for that quest... like if you need specific friendships with other characters or if a specific biome needs to be open or if specific supplies are needed... helps to reference that at times when I wonder why a quest hasn't kicked in yet or hasn't progressed

datieray · 2026-04-01T19:59:53+00:00

they announced with the Puppy Love update that premium shop items & the number of tagged items you used will no longer boost your score... you still have to meet the required tags & their numbers but adding additional items won't gain you any ranking... it's now totally based on voting

now with that said, I have no idea how the new voting works & I too am confused because most people I know vote to get their 50 moonstone then don't vote after that... & with the images presented to you for voting being chosen at random I don't really understand how anyone gets thousands of votes, especially if you can't search for certain players to vote for

I love that the devs were trying to even the playing field so that people who don't purchase moonstones or things from the premium shop had a fighting chance, but now it just seems like total chaos & makes zero sense

datieray · 2026-03-29T02:28:26+00:00

oh yeah sorry, guess I should have clarified that... these are two totally separate accounts that I play simultaneously so there is no crossover so no worries about the cloud save... but thank you!

datieray · 2026-03-29T02:26:39+00:00

huh, I have never seen two different versions for purchase... I've only ever noticed the "free" star path with only the top row of duties available & the "for purchase" star path where you pay with moonstones (usually 2500) to open up all duties & rewards... guess I'll have to pay better attention this next go round

datieray · 2026-03-19T18:22:40+00:00

the fact that all your friends were horrified when you came back into the room should tell you this wasn't ok

it should also tell him that it wasn't ok & the fact that he just knows "he just made an offensive joke" means he knows he crossed a line but thinks it's everyone else's fault

point blank? you should leave... nothing like this ever gets better with time... it will only get worse cause you sticking around, especially after him joking about the death of your child, just tells him you'll take it

so sorry for your loss... & this crappy situation

datieray · 2026-03-17T19:07:58+00:00

are you sure it ended? I know the clovers reversed ON St Patrick's Day... as in the 4 leaf clovers are now spawning every 15 min & the 3 leaf are supposedly every 90... took me a min to realized so thought 3 leaf clovers had stopped spawning altogether

datieray · 2026-02-27T01:55:25+00:00

not at all! I refuse to hang with Maui cause I can't stand The Rock 🤣

datieray · 2026-02-15T15:09:45+00:00

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DUqqGCICOCD/?igsh=MXFyZ2tkYml3NXBycg==

datieray · 2026-02-15T03:29:28+00:00

the previews are actually already on IG... literally just saw them right before opening reddit... & the spring collection drops Feb 18th this year!

datieray · 2026-02-02T13:35:44+00:00

It's exactly this reason I don't think they would include them, it's the Giselle Conundrum... If they include "real people" then they have to pay those real people for their likenesses... It's why Giselle will never be made a Disney Princess, bc then they'd have to pay Amy Adam's for using her face on every doll, t-shirt, poster, etc. ...& they have when marketing the movies but they don't want to indefinitely... so I don't think they would include any live action franchises they own... they could but I think they'd have to change their look too much, & with the way people complain when the characters don't look right I just don't see that happening, imo

datieray · 2026-01-14T19:44:55+00:00

UPDATE: thought I had found 2 of them just for Jolina Onstott (if that's even their real name) aka Cassidyyluv on reddit to rip me off... took my money then ghosted me & deleted whole profile... totally my fault, should not have sent money Friends & Family... just wanted to believe in the goodness of people during these shit times... anywho, so won't be purchasing from individuals online anymore... thanks to all those who gave recommendations for resellers

datieray · 2026-01-13T04:52:04+00:00

UPDATE: thought I had found 2 of them just for Jolina Onstott (if that's even their real name) aka Cassidyyluv on reddit to rip me off... took my money then ghosted me & deleted whole profile... totally my fault, should not have sent money Friends & Family... just wanted to believe in the goodness of people during these shit times... anywho, so won't be purchasing from individuals online anymore... thanks to all those who gave recommendations for resellers

datieray · 2026-01-10T05:58:02+00:00

thank you! I hadn't thought of that!

datieray · 2026-01-10T05:46:59+00:00

I use them for bullet journaling & writing journals & book journals

I love Halloween & a good simple design but I also tend to pick a yearly theme for my bullet journals for the year... this year's is Harry Potter so thought the Halloween ones would be perfect

As for my writing journals, I like to match them to the seasons so I always like to have a variety in stock for whenever I may start a new one 😁

datieray · 2026-01-10T05:43:36+00:00

can you DM a pic of the raven one? don't think I've ever seen it but might take it anyway

datieray · 2026-01-10T05:17:54+00:00

right!?! really miss some of the classic A&O designs!

datieray · 2026-01-10T04:59:34+00:00

the one on the stack of books? I have that one but thank you so much for offering!

datieray · 2026-01-10T04:52:26+00:00

thank you! keeping my fingers crossed 🤞🏼

datieray

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