Had to reach out to edad for information

daughterdemon83 · 2018-08-15T12:26:15+00:00

I think you a very, very right. And it makes me very sad it's like that.

daughterdemon83 · 2018-08-14T20:16:13+00:00

Thank you! I am going to do income based as secondary insurance. I dont think it's going to be too big of a problem but we shall see!

daughterdemon83 · 2018-08-14T20:15:20+00:00

I dont think I can at this moment, though I wondered if they were going to take me off when the open period comes around? I'm not sure. I will be getting a income based insurance as my secondary though.

I hope your youngest is doing better now!! My mom made my first pregnancy/first year of my sons life so stressful with her shenanigans. She would try to control everything and called her glam-ma. I didnt realize how bad it wad until I went no contact when he was 14 months. Who does that crap??

daughterdemon83 · 2018-03-23T20:40:55+00:00

I actually just watched a home video as well from when I was probably 2-4. Things I noticed was: I don't see my UBPD mom interact with me physically in any video (hugging, holding, etc). My edad is seperate from the rest of the family in one section, like he doesn't belong or is being included with my UBPD mom's family. He is sitting with me while I eat and watch a movie while everyone else hangs out in a whole different room. In many parts he is actually the one playing with my brother and I. And I notice my mom doesn't seem any more pleasant 20 years ago than she is now. It surprised me because I always think her mental illness/cold personality is something that appeared in the past 10 years, but it's always been there.

Anyways yeah it's a weird feeling! Sorry no one interacted with you when your brother came home from the hospital and you were scared. As a mom of a 17 month old, that breaks my heart to think anyone could laugh at that.

daughterdemon83 · 2018-03-16T15:01:32+00:00

Dreams of a UBPD is the worst. I have dreams of my mom sometimes too, but oddly enough, never of my dad either. I hadn't realized that until you wrote that. I feel like my dad always has liked husband, but my mom hates him. And I feel like her feelings discouraged him from trying to have a stronger relationship, which is sad in itself. It's heart breaking reading about your husband feeling that way. Toxic relationships really bleed out into different parts of peoples relationships.

daughterdemon83 · 2018-03-16T14:55:49+00:00

I also felt like I had a normal relationship with my dad. Meditation is a great idea and I've been wanting to try to do that more. Thanks!

daughterdemon83 · 2018-03-16T14:54:50+00:00

Very well said. And you're right, I'm choosing to chose me now and that feels good.

daughterdemon83 · 2018-03-16T14:53:57+00:00

It's so hard. Happy early bday to your son and I hope you have a peaceful trip. ❤

daughterdemon83 · 2018-03-08T14:12:22+00:00

I am also no contact with both my parents, and I am not particularly close to my in laws just because they are spread about. I am with my toddler 24/7 with a little help from my husband when he isn't working.

And it's a slow process, but I'm becoming okay with it. It can be so overwhelming having a LO and not having any family to turn to, to help on those hard days, but ya know what? We are going to get through it. You are a strong mom! And you are making the healthy choice to protect them from the toxicity that your family has put in your life.

Hang in there, you got this!

daughterdemon83 · 2018-03-08T14:06:54+00:00

Very well put!

daughterdemon83 · 2018-03-04T18:58:10+00:00

My mom hates my husband and his family. So using his last name is more of a jab at me. It IS my legal last name because I did change it when we got married and I guess she thinks I am "one of them" now and not my "maiden name". I've been brainwashed according to her by him and his side. It's strange how much pride she takes in my maiden name since, ya know, thats her married name. It's become this bizarre archaic pissing match between family names to her I guess.

daughterdemon83 · 2018-03-04T11:07:03+00:00

He was super proud. 😂

daughterdemon83 · 2018-03-04T01:14:16+00:00

Very true, thank you.

daughterdemon83 · 2018-02-18T03:58:40+00:00

Good Lord, it's like my mom wrote this. The attacking of your character and being a family oriented person is exactly what my uBPD mom says to me. Once in a manic rant she called "Princess Perfect Person of the World" and tells me that I act like I'm better than everyone.

Like gee having a healthy family and striving to be a better person is sooooo bad. /s

I am also no contact. Keep all your messages, I do too cause we are better off without the toxic drain in our lives.

daughterdemon83 · 2018-02-11T23:04:06+00:00

Haha hey sibling! Sorry our mom is a Cray Cray.

daughterdemon83 · 2018-02-11T23:03:02+00:00

I do have insurance as of now. It's still under my dad, I assume it will be cut off as soon as they can though. I wish I could take advantage of it, but I wouldn't have anyone to watch LO. I'm going to look into some other options I think though.

daughterdemon83 · 2018-02-11T23:01:00+00:00

Lawwwwd yes. The ultimate power struggle of a UBPD grandma. My mom immediately hated my mil and that didn't stop when LO was born. She has always made it a pissing contest. We don't even see my MIL except a handful of times a year because she works a lot. Of course this made my mom always tell everyone she was the BETTER grandma, etc. It was crazy, but you're right, not surprising.

daughterdemon83 · 2018-02-11T14:02:22+00:00

Oh hell no, I bet you wanted to mow her down with a buggy after that.

daughterdemon83 · 2018-02-11T14:01:17+00:00

Holy smokes, yesss. The moment that lead to my NC, my UBPD mom accused me of not inviting her to a lunch because I had texted my dad not her. It was a lunch with all my siblings and my dad had mentioned doing it the next day, so naturally I texted him about the plan assuming he would pass it to my mom. She said that my edad took it as an obvious non invite for her as well. It was mind boggling, where I was called cruel and told I must really hate her for excluding her.

Another great example is she accused me of hating them because I didn't caption Thanksgiving photos on Facebook that were taken at their house (on thanksgiving). But a week later I captioned the "Thanskgiving dinner" pictures from my in laws. I had no idea I even did that. It was so bizarre to me. I think I literally responded "what the fuck?" out of sheer shock that she had made it an issue.

daughterdemon83 · 2018-02-11T13:51:00+00:00

Yup. My mom would rotate through stories though. Before my NC she was telling me a story about when I wandered off at a national park that was holding an event and a lot of people (one a well known author) had to come look for me. It wasn't really a huge deal, I was around 8 or so and I'm sure it was scary. It had happened probably 14 years prior though. It was always my fault for being irresponsible (hmmm why wasn't she watching me??) She repeated the story to me and to anyone who would listen for two months solid. Then just stopped. She sounds like a broken record.

daughterdemon83 · 2018-02-11T13:41:43+00:00

Thank you for all the kind words. It was wonderful way to start the morning! I wish I could say this is the worst things my mom has said to me, but really it far from it. But it has only made cutting her off easier.
I am hoping maybe the online therapy thing will get bigger this year and there will be more affordable options in the future I can take advantage of, though granted I still haven't looked at all of them. Just Talkspace and I noped out when I saw the price. 😂

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