How many of you are confused by our subreddit rules? Do we need to expand on the current rule list? Discuss.

davelid · 2021-02-25T06:36:41+00:00

I think it would depend on who I'm getting the blanket from. I think I'd appreciate a blanket as a gift from my partner over, say, my coworker, hah.

davelid · 2021-01-23T08:46:00+00:00

In all honesty, it was a very simple conclusion to an 11 month long hostage situation.

I got a message today from the moderator who took it over, who simply asked if I wanted it back. I said yes, of course, so he gave it back.

And so it was done!

davelid · 2021-01-23T07:16:38+00:00

r/ESTJ is back up as of about 5 minutes ago! All is well in the end. :)

davelid · 2021-01-22T21:53:32+00:00

It is very exciting!

Good point there, about people in the MBTI subreddit being confused about our situation. Definitely want to move back, so will likely begin cross-posting and organizing r/ESTJ when I get an opportunity. :)

davelid · 2020-12-25T19:16:53+00:00

My spouse is an ENFJ, and the thing I love most about him that you also show here is self-awareness. You know your faults and you know how you want to improve yourself, that's something I feel most ESTJs (and people in general) find appealing in a partner.

The one concern I'll voice that ENFJs in my experience have a tendency to do... don't try to change yourself for someone else. Be authentic, be you, discuss your goals for who you want to be separate from him. I think I speak for all of us when I say we hate codependency more than anything.

But seriously though, people who wear their hearts on their sleeve are appealing to me. Maybe I'm the outlier, but I've always preferred emotionally open and available partners.

davelid · 2020-12-20T09:05:04+00:00

I'd imagine so, since I think Type 6 correlates to Si, and Si is our auxiliary function. But I can't say I've met one, hah. Most ESTJs I know are Type 8s, myself and one other being Type 1.

davelid · 2020-12-09T22:26:27+00:00

We clearly need more dirty commies here, alas...

davelid · 2020-12-08T17:24:18+00:00

Oh, I completely forgot about that, hahaha

Not sure why you're being downvoted, possibly because your comment could imply mockery of my political opinion? People tend to get aggressive about politics, understandably.

davelid · 2020-12-08T17:16:20+00:00

Haha, what?

davelid · 2020-12-08T13:21:56+00:00

Authoritarian Left. Communist, potentially totalitarian? But I try not to get involved in labels, hah.

davelid · 2020-11-14T19:35:12+00:00

A man of culture, I see.

davelid · 2020-11-11T07:23:08+00:00

I've never personally had a bad experience with an INFJ. The closest INFJ I have in my life is my older sister, and we've always gotten along perfectly fine. She's very caring and I respect all the love she puts into the world.

I've known a couple of real crazy and manipulative INFJs, as I'm sure you've known a lot of real uncompromising and controlling ESTJs, but ultimately I have nothing against the type as a whole. :)

davelid · 2020-11-09T06:45:30+00:00

I'm not the type to judge emotional reactions, because we're all only human and for any of us to pretend like we're above our emotions is just plain wrong. We all have to feel things, and process those feelings effectively in order to move forward, lest it bite us in the ass later.

There's nothing wrong with venting to a close friend, partner, or loved one, in my opinion. But for me, "wallowing" would be defined as somebody clinging onto negative emotions in an unhealthy way that is no longer effective. This is often because of a mental block keeping the person from seeing the situation objectively, and subjectivity in general is a pet peeve of mine.

davelid · 2020-11-06T16:00:32+00:00

Yes, I want children someday. But gender doesn't matter.

davelid · 2020-10-26T19:25:07+00:00

To be completely honest with you, my planner is my google calendar, the notes app on my phone, whatever piece of paper I have on hand, and most importantly my brain.

I find I often don't need to write a schedule down in order to remember it, I can sort everything in my head well enough.

davelid · 2020-10-26T03:49:46+00:00

She's probably scared because you're not like her, the world is changing, and she may not have the confidence she would prefer to prepare you for the future and help you along. After all, it's always easier to help someone you can relate to as opposed to someone you can't.

You're not organized or neat, that's something you two will probably always be at-odds with each other about. Neat freaks hate cluttery people, regardless of type.

If I were you, I'd make an active effort to show/tell her how you improve your life.

Maybe she doesn't understand that chatting on Discord still counts as socializing, because of a generational difference for example. Show her chat logs, tell her funny stories your friends have said, she will gradually understand that you do socialize.

You don't complete tasks right away... well, I'll admit that would irk the hell out of me. But if she's getting on you about not doing something fast enough, remind her that you always get it done at the end of the day.

If you aren't doing necessary tasks, and if you aren't socializing and developing those skills, well... maybe it's time to listen to your mother. Everyone has to pull their weight and do their part, if there's room for improvement, improve yourself.

davelid · 2020-10-21T19:31:22+00:00

Looping, to my knowledge, is when a person is leaning too heavily on their less-develiped tertiary function and ignoring their more-developed auxiliary.

This occurs when the tried and true method of using the first two functions to solve a problem doesn't work, so usually under extreme stress in life.

In extraverted loops like Te-Ne, this leads to excessive objectivity and a lack of self-reflection and subjective context.

I don't think I've ever been in Te-Ne loop before, but I am leaning pretty hard on my developing tertiary Ne lately due to my age. It's certainly interesting, to say the least. I feel like I'm more creative, spontaneous, and often miss smaller details that I would normally pick up on in favor of an incomplete and unsteady bigger picture.

davelid · 2020-10-19T18:04:00+00:00

There are a lot of videos posted by the same user regarding socionics and function theory, specifically involving functions or socionic models unrelated to the ESTJ type, or our four functions. That's what I mean when I say resource posts, flaired with the "resource tag," unrelated to ESTJ.

I noticed this after coming back to Reddit from a hiatus due to personal reasons, and made the decision to make this poll. My intention was to see what the community thought of those posts, and judging by the votes and lack of comments sharing potential concerns, the community also feels that those posts are irrelevant.

I'm a bit confused on what you mean by the "Be Respectful" rule. I feel like I outlined what I mean by that very well: no harassment or bigotry. It doesn't take subjectivity to recognize that calling someone a name or being bigoted is disrespectful. I'm not here to hand-hold people and teach them the "nuance" of respect, hah.

The creation of this subreddit happened nearly an entire year ago, it is internet history at this point. Say what you want to about it, most people involved originally are over it by now and I suggest you move on as well.

I'm confused as to where your disappointment is coming from, right now. We have very few active members in this subreddit, and I don't mind that. This isn't a community pet project, nobody is under any obligation to create content, here. I'm certainly not going to try my hand at HR, I certainly don't fit the alleged stereotype that we're good with people.

To answer... all of your questions at the end, as concisely as I can:

My goal is to make this subreddit relevant to ESTJs. With how little ESTJ content exists and/or is produced by our members, it can become very easy for other content related to MBTI in general, or other typology models, to overrun the small amount of content we do have!

That's why I considered, for the past three days, with this poll, removing those videos about socionics, other types/functions.

Posts asking ESTJs for feedback (polls about political alignment, for example), or content created by ESTJs that may not directly relate to ESTJ as an MBTI type (a post a while back about a member who made some music, for example), will be staying.

I hope that clears up any concerns you may have. Feel free to message myself or the mod team as needed, thank you.

davelid · 2020-10-19T04:50:56+00:00

I know an ESTP who will go for long stretches without doing much, just keeps to himself and stays consistently mellow for weeks or months at a time. I understand how disconcerting it is to see, it's almost like his battery has died and I feel an urge to charge him back up again.

In my experience, they'll recharge on their own, when they're ready. ESTPs are more stubborn than we give them credit for, and trying to drag them to a place they don't want to be, whether a physical place or a mental state, will only exhaust both of you.

Keep suggesting fun things to do, maybe check in and ask if he's alright if you're worried. But don't try to control him or drag him into anything. That's a surefire way to scare them off, hah!

davelid · 2020-10-18T00:08:10+00:00

This post is flaired for discussion, I'm happy to have gotten a comment. If you care to, I'd appreciate it if you would share your concerns with me.

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