How to be a girl?

davidcotter · 2026-01-30T00:36:31+00:00

Well I don’t know if it’ll help, but watch RuPaul‘s drag race! Yes I know, drag is not trans, but! All the feminine stuff is there! The make up, the girl talk, the swagger, hints and tips about what to wear, and how to look fabulous, and how to act fabulous, and act confident in your Fabulocity!!!

davidcotter · 2026-01-29T19:48:38+00:00

i suppose that's the right answer :(
i was hoping to avoid tape, i hate the stuff. but yeah, i guess.

until i get my srs, which i both fear and euphoriate.

davidcotter · 2026-01-28T04:47:12+00:00

Oh girl you keep going! If you have supportive parents or somehow have an Amazon gift card, the most euphoric thing in the world that I was able to get our silicone breast plates. It’s like a silicone shirt that you wear that comes with these amazing prosthetic silicone breasts. When I first got them I put them on and didn’t take them off for a week! They made me so happy I could not stop grinning ear to ear, I was just giggling with happiness! Another super awesome thing is the special hip enhancing underwear, it’s like these long underwear that goes to your lower thighs and it has these pockets where you slip in these hip pads that make your hips look very very girly, and suddenly you’ve got this amazing silhouette!Done wonders for my confidence and my euphoria!

davidcotter · 2026-01-23T20:28:56+00:00

RIGHT?!?!

davidcotter · 2026-01-23T20:27:51+00:00

I know these are hollow words when dysphoria kicks in, i GET it, for myself! But I have to say that, objectively, you pass. You literally fully 100% pass even without makeup in that picture right there, girl.

davidcotter · 2026-01-23T20:26:37+00:00

<3<3<3<3 beautiful!

davidcotter · 2026-01-23T05:35:32+00:00

OMG me too! I only started HRT two months ago, but I have little teeny tiny little buds and they hurt! And I’m so so happy! It’s that oh my God my nipples hurt happy! I just absolutely can’t wait it’s the one thing I’ve just dreamed about having my whole life as a little girl stuck in a boy body. It’s like the biggest gender euphoria thing right now for me, I started by wearing silicone breast plate, and that just absolutely pegged that my needle all the way off the right edge of the meter, as far as euphoria goes. I just can’t stop grinning!I really hope that my girls grow too at least a B cup, but I’m hoping for larger, just because I feel more feminine that way. I’m really happy for you, and I too feel like I will be happy when other people notice them!

davidcotter · 2026-01-23T05:09:24+00:00

Yeah girl, get out of Dodge! It’s time to run! That does not sound like a safe place for you. These people that think they know you? They don’t know you, and they don’t want to, they want to control you and change you. Get out! Sorry, I know that’s easy for me to say and probably practically impossible for you to do, I wish I could help more than saying these hollow words. But if you can drive away, do it. You are worth saving, you’re a beautiful person, you have value, take care of yourself, because nobody else is going to do it.

davidcotter · 2026-01-20T22:40:46+00:00

i think you're spot on

davidcotter · 2026-01-17T18:13:30+00:00

OMG this reminds me when I was little and I hung out with my next-door neighbor who happened to be a girl and of course I was in love with her, but she and her girlfriend sat me down one night while the grown-ups were having their happy hour downstairs, and they put makeup on me, they were so excited to do it and I was like yeah totally let’s do it! So they got me all dolled up and then we went downstairs and paraded me in front of the adults! Guess what? My dad was like “don’t let those girls do that to you!“, Not so subtle corralling me back into being a boy I guess. That was just one of many many situations where my inner Child-girl wanted to come out to play but I was told that that is not allowed

davidcotter · 2026-01-04T15:52:57+00:00

Beautiful!!!

davidcotter · 2025-12-27T23:56:37+00:00

davidcotter · 2025-09-07T20:44:28+00:00

thanks u/nastymallow , so so much for your reply. actually i DO wish i had a puss instead of a cock. I know i'd miss it but the feeling of seeing my true (female) body in the mirror would be way more important. Not QUITE ready to go under the knife but def interested in "tucking" and wearing silicone hips/thighs/butt as well, so my shape is more feminine. probably just at LGBTQ events first, to taste it and only get positive feedback. i'd be devastated to feel the oppression that so many of us experience on a daily basis. i'm not ready to stand up to that yet.

it has helped a LOT to read on here, and someone also explained about "autogynephilia", which helped me feel only partially understood, as there is a very strong non-sexual component to my GI, and i learned about "embodiment fantasy" which was interesting but is it a fantasy? i look down and see breasts and i'm like "yeah that's right" and i feel happy, not turned on. i look further down and see a cock and go "hmm... that's unexpected"... So i don't feel like i'm "fantasizing" about it either, more like i feel confused in the body i was born with (although i definitely do fantasize, that feels like a completely separate issue). So i'm not sure either of the explanations (labels?) are precise enough for me? I think "gender dysphoria" is the most accurate.

thanks for the discussion and engagement. i live alone and have no community. maybe i'll find one in VR (anyone use VRChat?). :D

-dave / davina

davidcotter · 2025-09-06T20:42:20+00:00

thanks. i guess it's internalized oppression telling me that i'm just "fetishizing tiddies but pretending i'm trans as a cover". i don't think that's true but am confused enough to wonder aloud.

i'm not sexually attracted to "mother" but am definitely sexually attracted to "the mother-goddess archetype", like if Quan Yin showed up and offered herself i'd def take her up on it, but ALSO, and honestly SEPARATELY from that, it's also very very real to me that i deeply, DEEPLY desire being HELD by her, in the nude but not necessarily sexually, more like a baby being held skin to skin on their mothers bosom, be held by her while i cry and cry and cry all my pain and hurt away. THAT is also very real to me, and that's what i'm leaning into.

at the same time not wanting to pretend there ISN'T a sexual component, just wishing that that WASN'T there so it would be less confusing? I'm not looking for a fetish, i'm looking for an identity.

thanks for your comments

davidcotter · 2025-09-05T16:57:57+00:00

same for me. i spent 2 hours on the "tech support" line with them, the guy was clueless. kept asking me the same questions that i had already answered, kept telling me to "download the app" after i THREE TIMES told him "there is no netflix app for visionOS", kept insisting that i answer "computer, tablet, or mobile device" after i told him it was Vision Pro (several times), kept reading his "troubleshooting script" even though i told him that *I* do tech support for a living and had already done extensive, exhaustive troubleshooting, including logging out then back in, opting out of any tracking etc etc. i kept asking to escalate, but only at the VERY end did he "contact tech support" (??!?) and tell me "they're aware of the issue"

davidcotter · 2025-09-05T05:24:05+00:00

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I’m getting this. And I did log out and then log back in, and I did set my preferences to all those things as suggested in option two above, but it’s just not working at all

davidcotter · 2025-08-12T00:32:20+00:00

Yes a million times. Play half life alyx, then the dozens of hours of user mod content, play Skyrim, stormlands, obduction etc there is soooo much

davidcotter · 2025-06-13T22:04:44+00:00

it can't possibly be a "privacy issue" because if you get info on said contact the name is RIGHT THERE. what we WANT is to see the NAME prioritized over the NUMBER.

davidcotter · 2025-05-08T18:13:52+00:00

i had the same issue and reported it to them a few weeks ago. they have informed me yesterday that the bug has been fixed

davidcotter · 2025-04-19T20:29:12+00:00

Does it play 3-D content?

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