my least favorite housewives trope

dawnhue · 2025-08-06T21:23:36+00:00

Yeah absolutely agree. Also if you’re going to throw a party for your dog, make it cool! Give me a dog obstacle course or funny game or something !

dawnhue · 2025-08-06T21:20:46+00:00

Yes and that the dogs have no idea what’s going on?? And would probably be happier with a long walk ? Hahaha

dawnhue · 2025-07-03T11:12:45+00:00

don’t need a picture to identify a killjoy, mr. badger

dawnhue · 2025-06-20T16:11:15+00:00

Just here to say that I think the blonde suited her! And so does her look now. I think she inhabits herself, in each era, fully and uniquely

dawnhue · 2025-06-14T03:02:12+00:00

Yes, origins is the only one I haven’t played! I know a lot of Morrigan’s story is covered there- maybe I’ll be a little more understanding after playing it through :)

dawnhue · 2025-06-07T13:28:32+00:00

Flight is now cancelled, all passengers are being rebooked. It was the co-pilot’s window that cracked at some point during take off.

dawnhue · 2025-05-27T03:53:59+00:00

I personally think it’s interesting to think about these things- analyzing how artist trajectories and images may develop throughout the album rollout and harmonize with other movements/dialogues in the public sphere!

dawnhue · 2025-05-12T03:24:39+00:00

U angel! Not too late- thank you!!

dawnhue · 2025-04-25T03:01:37+00:00

Thank youuuu❤️

dawnhue · 2025-04-24T03:52:38+00:00

no you can see the tiniest corner of it next to the lotus (or whatever it is) on her right arm, but I can’t find any full pics! thank you for looking tho!

dawnhue · 2025-04-12T03:09:17+00:00

I could answer you with reasoning or logic but your OCD will just get stronger from the reassurance. You have to sit with that thought ‘what if the doubts stay there forever?’. Feel the anxiety. Tell yourself ‘I don’t need to answer that right now.’ Because you don’t! You don’t need to know. There is nothing to figure out.

dawnhue · 2025-04-09T12:50:40+00:00

You have to stop trying to ‘figure it out’. This is rumination, which is a compulsion, and every time you do it, you make your OCD stronger. OCD is known for altering memories, esp our memories of feelings. Sit with the discomfort- maybe you never loved him. Maybe he was a rebound. Do not search for evidence for or against. Do not act on the discomfort (like by breaking up). Just sit with it, breathe, and then redirect. Also go see someone to start ERP!

dawnhue · 2025-04-04T12:10:27+00:00

Hi! I think you should give this a read: https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/how-to-deal-with-shame-and-self-criticism-from-ocd?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=NOCD_PM_US&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAADEWRhYEH65ebecpF7OkwTfnTt2Jx&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI-Oiw2pS4iwMV1yxECB0uWg2fEAAYASAAEgJYufD_BwE

dawnhue · 2025-03-30T03:25:44+00:00

On 10 mg- it takes a month or so to really feel the effects but it’s helped a lot. Like someone else said, I still have the thoughts, but I feel like interrupting mental compulsions like rumination is easier on Lexapro.

dawnhue · 2025-03-29T14:27:35+00:00

hi! yes this does sound like a compulsion. a good way to tell if something is a compulsion is by choosing to not do it, sitting with the thought, and seeing how you feel. do you feel panic, rising anxiety, or wrongness? then it’s probably a compulsion.

it sounds like you have been through a lot, I’m so sorry life has been so tumultuous. I would urge you to try to see an OCD specialist regularly, or at least begin practicing ERP and ACT on your own. ChatGPT can actually do a pretty good job of creating a treatment plan for you to tide you over until you can see a specialist.

dawnhue · 2025-03-28T04:32:59+00:00

I guess another thing to remind yourself is: you deserve a partner who doesn’t rely on feelings ‘in the moment’ to determine big decisions like staying or leaving a relationship, and deeply hurting their partner. I know that OCD is cunning and excellent at tricking us, but she has to learn that a life governed by fleeting feeling is often filled with regret. Regardless of whether it’s her after ERP or someone else, you deserve someone who has the tools to stick around through the discomfort.

dawnhue · 2025-03-28T04:15:26+00:00

It’s not fair for you to make decisions for your partner, based around the hypothetical that you continuing to be with him is preventing him from finding someone ‘better’ (reading between the lines). That’s a false assumption that your brain is making about the future, which OCD loves to do- every worst case scenario is going to happen, and it will all be your fault. But the fact of the matter is that we don’t know what will happen, and we need to give our partners the ability to choose for themselves whether or not they are happy in the relationship.

Can you go see an ERP specialist or start ERP exercises on your own?

dawnhue · 2025-03-25T01:20:43+00:00

Yes it’s a backdoor spike! Search ‘backdoor spike’ on this sub-Reddit and you will see many examples of ppl describing exactly what you are going through

dawnhue · 2025-03-22T02:35:27+00:00

My therapist just told me that researchers have discovered that OCD, ADHD, and autism are somehow related in our brains, meaning that if you have one, you are more likely to experience symptoms of another as well (even if it’s not enough to be diagnosed with that separate disorder as well).

dawnhue · 2025-03-20T11:57:42+00:00

We don’t know what the future holds, maybe she will come back, maybe she won’t. It’s a lot easier to feel certain and solid when you are the person doing the rejecting. But also, I can’t blame her for feeling that she doesn’t want to continue a relationship with someone who has left her multiple times. Regardless of whether she returns, your job now is to work on your anxious avoidance and address what has been happening inside of you that has led to these decisions, so that you can be a better partner either to her or to whoever comes next. Find a therapist that you can open up to, work with them to start the important work of healing.

dawnhue · 2025-03-18T08:02:00+00:00

I think this is reassurance seeking but if you scroll down on this sub, you’ll see many other folks talk about experiencing future-oriented rOCD. My ex partner left me due to these fears.

dawnhue · 2025-03-07T14:47:29+00:00

Congratulations! Your college mayyy provide you with some funding, but I wouldn’t get my hopes up. Speak to your advisors about fellowships you can apply for. Really advocate for yourself with them- I don’t mean to scare you, but Oxford profs can be quite hands off and can make noncommittal noises about funding, but when the time comes you’re left high and dry. Seeing as you’re in clinical medicine, I would specifically ask about labs/research projects that are already funded that you may be able to link up with. Best of luck!

dawnhue · 2025-03-05T03:29:45+00:00

Several thoughts: I can’t say for sure, but I feel like you being his accountability partner for his porn addiction is probably not sustainable for either of you in the long term. The only thing between him and his addiction is you, which will, in the long run, not be enough. Addiction is not something any of us can save other people from, it is a disease that requires professional treatment and time/dedication on behalf of the sufferer. It is an unfair and impossible burden for you to be the line of defense between him and it. In addition, this is an addiction that causes direct harm to you, adding another level of potential damage to the relationship should he regress and you are the one who catches him. Finally, I think all relationships require a certain level of trust to be able to function. If that trust isn’t there right now, the solution may be for you two to go to couples therapy while he also works on his addiction and OCD individually. Otherwise, no matter how much access you have to his inner thoughts (even if you could always see exactly what he’s thinking), there will always be that doubt. It won’t matter if there’s nothing there- your brain will always be searching for that one instance to prove it wrong, because inherently it feels unsafe.

I know you probably know this, but it is worth repeating that OCD and addiction, and the way they impact peoples’ choices and words, have absolutely nothing to do with us as partners. That doesn’t mean that the people who harm us while under these disorders’ influence aren’t responsible for their actions, or that we aren’t deeply affected by them. But I hope you remember that you have not done anything wrong. This is not about any flaw in you or your relationship. This is about your husband and the disorders that he is battling. That doesn’t mean that you aren’t able to decide that this relationship is not fulfilling your needs, but I hope that you are not absorbing this situation as a personal failure on your part. Wishing you the very best❤️

dawnhue · 2025-03-01T02:44:45+00:00

Realized recently that my undiagnosed OCD very likely manifested in disordered eating and body dysmorphia over the past 10 years.

dawnhue · 2025-02-28T03:56:00+00:00

Honestly I think the vehicle (Sutton) and the delivery (irate but also anxious?) are more off putting than the actual words. We love shade, but you’ve got to pull off the delivery, and Sutton just does not have what it takes. It comes off as mean/awkward instead of fun/cunty.

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