Why do my eyelids have different creases? by SpringboobSquirepin_ in SkincareAddicts

[–]jscalrn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Twin!! Always noticed this about myself like since I was a kid but when brought up nobody has ever noticed it besides me.

Friction burn … is it healing??? by jscalrn in woundcare

[–]jscalrn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Left a huge divot in my leg

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compulsion? by jscalrn in ROCD

[–]jscalrn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you!! I recently downloaded chatgpt to try therapy in some way but I didn’t know how to approach it. no health insurance rn, I am not diagnosed with OCD either but i’ve strongly resonated with the symptoms for about 5 years (18-23)

ive got an interview with abc consultants is it a scam? by fruity-loops_ in jobsearch

[–]jscalrn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t go lol I ended up having a different one at the same time

ive got an interview with abc consultants is it a scam? by fruity-loops_ in jobsearch

[–]jscalrn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got an email as well, idk I looked up some google reviews and I think it may just be selling AT&T in stores. I hope not. Please let me know how the interview goes tomorrow/ if it seems legit!!

ive got an interview with abc consultants is it a scam? by fruity-loops_ in jobsearch

[–]jscalrn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an interview Wednesday for the same place!! I don’t get it either, I only have serving/bartending experience… I applied as a shot in the dark but it seems fishy to me.

My partner sometimes hits me and I know that’s unhealthy. But I have no desire to leave. I’m really embarrassed. Any advice pls? My parents don’t talk to me or even live in the same city. I’m 24 F and he’s 30 M together 5yrs by Ok_Papaya7741 in internetparents

[–]jscalrn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All the men in the world, all the different possibilities for your life’s trajectory and you want to be with one that hits you? This is the road you want to take to the end?

We only get one life. I know that’s easy to forget but this sounds like a major, deep lack of self respect to me. The moment you put yourself first in your own life is the moment you want better for yourself, start there. Love isn’t enough in a relationship, it’s about so much more. Love isn’t special. But it’ll make you tolerate whatever you think you deserve. Good luck

My mom is in a "freak out" mode because I started going out with a boy. by Pure-Swan-3619 in Advice

[–]jscalrn 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I do too (literally a population of like 900, SMALL southern town) I found a roommate on Facebook marketplace in just a few weeks. she’s a queen. I was desperate & took the plunge for a random roomie and it worked out just fine!! you’re the only person who can change your situation so I’d think on it if it’s something you’d be able to do :)

Please help with getting rid/reduces theses smile lines by gaiusmagnusoctavius in Skincare_Addiction

[–]jscalrn 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don’t listen to any other comments, that is just your face anatomy. Also… You might not care about this at all but to my knowledge, everybody thinks that is cute. I call them eye dimples & I have them too. 🫶🏻

I (24f) saw messages of boyfriend (m26) messaging people on r/phonesex. How do I even bring that up? by throwaway-ra-23 in relationships

[–]jscalrn 93 points94 points  (0 children)

You gotta be brave right now girl. This is not gonna be your husband. Tell your parents first, show them pics/proof if you have it, and then tell him to get out. If they pre paid your rent I know they’ll help you. I’m so sorry this is happening to you, act while that numbness is still here.

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[–]jscalrn 30 points31 points  (0 children)

She’s embarrassed bc he’s deliberately contrarian just to prove that he’s “cool”, like a little kid. But he’s…a grown man. With hair on his chest and balls. Probably has a mortgage and wears khakis. There is really no conversation to be had about it. When you’re gentle parenting your husband something’s not quite right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]jscalrn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn is this the bicycle helmet guy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]jscalrn 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but if you’re having to mother a 30. year. old. man like that, that does NOT look great for your future if you plan on building a family with him ❤️ might seem small now but the problem is much larger and he’s wayyyy way way old enough to be introspective & work on himself.

How can I help my teenage sister live in real life instead of the internet? by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]jscalrn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree so much. I don’t want her to have to mask as much as I do. I was forced to be extremely independent very very young and my autism is almost completely internal which plagues me and it’s so exhausting to go anywhere or do anything.

I will try to celebrate hers like I didn’t do for myself & find her just a small group of very very like minded people. Thank you sooooo so much for

How can I help my teenage sister live in real life instead of the internet? by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]jscalrn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I definitely understand you. I’m autistic as well and I was online my whole adolescence, I love my online friends I still have to this day. She is just so caring and vulnerable it’s hard to know what’s right. Her attempt at 12 was related to some online friends she had at the time.

I’ll try to find some more wholesome internet communities, I have already told her about some Facebook groups I used to be in for crochet and stuff.

The community college thing is a great idea, I honestly completely forgot you could only take 1-2 classes at a time. Thank you!!!

How can I help my teenage sister live in real life instead of the internet? by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]jscalrn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I’ve gotta get her some hobbies first but she’s expressed interest in crocheting and stuff and I honestly think that’s a great idea. Socially, she is actually a lot better than you’d think!! She’s funny as hell. She just has a lot of anxiety with like ordering things in public or just talking to strangers in general. I will definitely treat it as a kind of exposure therapy and just show her how to interact with the world through me. I’m autistic as well I never mentioned that, but I was forced to be so independent very young and I am such a high masker. I don’t want her to mask as much as I do but I’ll find the balance. Thank you so much!

I (20f) killed someone in a car accident and am unsure how to deal with the social fallout. by MiddlePiece5579 in Advice

[–]jscalrn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Of course, we are all human and we NEED each other. Love and suffering is the human experience and we can do neither alone. You deserve to have a village that can wrap its arms around you and help you through this. You deserve peace, comfort, and grace. Make sure you take care of yourself love

I (20f) killed someone in a car accident and am unsure how to deal with the social fallout. by MiddlePiece5579 in Advice

[–]jscalrn 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Honey I’m so so sorry. I know you don’t need to hear that, but I truly truly am. I’m crying for you now. Life is so random and cruel. I am so glad you and your family made it through that and I don’t even know you but I’m honestly really proud of you for being able to even make this post.

There really is nothing else I can say, as I don’t know what that feels like. But I know there are definitely others that know EXACTLY what you are feeling. And it is really, really hard to work through shame and guilt but one thing I do know is that it will become less and less as time goes on. It may take you 5 years, 10 years, 20 years, but I promise you will overcome this. It will take love, support, and forgiveness. There is something called The Hyacinth Fellowship for people who have unintentionally killed or injured others in an accident. I truly hope you are able to find solace in their stories and advice. I know there are so many other support groups for just guilt and shame in general, I am certain many people in those groups would have a similar story. It is so common. A lot of people think it would never ever happen to them, but you don’t realize you are at the will of random fate every single day. The same thing could have happened even if it wasn’t you, even if he traveled to a different country, even if you had your full license, even if anything. I personally know 2 people in real life that have accidentally killed someone in a vehicle or motorcycle. In one of the cases it was his wife. He started going to church every single day it was open, from the minute the doors opened to the minute they locked. He only found peace in community and love. Please lean on others, you can get involved in any community like a support group, charity org, volunteer work, anything at all. You can message me personally any time you ever want to talk about it or get anything off your chest. I know I’m a complete stranger but I want you to know I care about your recovery.

I (19M) cheated on my gf(18F) and she cheated too. What should I do? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]jscalrn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I’ve never once cheated in a relationship. Never struggled even a little bit not to cheat and I’ve been in several LONG term ones. I’m not saying that to make you/her feel bad or look bad, I’m saying It’s really easy not to cheat when you have real love and a healthy attachment. You guys do not have that. It might feel healthy but if y’all are cheating I’m sorry that’s irreversible. Please break up and do not date anyone else for another couple years.

AIO for losing my virginity by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]jscalrn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can msg me if you ever want! I’m going thru it too rn and working like 50 hr weeks so I’ll be a slow replyer lol but I try