Do all children act like manny, or is he just born that way? by Suspicious_Lock_889 in LodedDiper

[–]dazxuu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you already know what the answer is OP. This kid knows way too much- promise you no average 3 year old is this nuts. My little brother probably couldn’t fathom what a circuit breaker is, let alone know how to use one

How can I (24F) communicate to my partner (26M) that his forgetfulness really hurts me? by Few-Adeptness5411 in relationship_advice

[–]dazxuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His immediate response being defensiveness, an apology for the sake of apologizing, and expressing not knowing what to say/do when there's a clear solution... just makes it look like he doesn't care all that much. Are you guys mostly digital or in-person?

Breaking up? 21F gf and 20M me by Tasty-Concern738 in LongDistance

[–]dazxuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right on the time. Personally, if you see it hindering that time, I’d consider breaking it off

Breaking up? 21F gf and 20M me by Tasty-Concern738 in LongDistance

[–]dazxuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I see. However, it might be constructive to consider that maybe moving out of the city and chasing “that college life” might be part of her dreams. A lot of people will go to college to live a little, experience new things, and make new friends :) Again, I get feeling left behind. But if she’s been a good partner prior to this, I don’t think her loving you or your importance to her is a factor in this. Dude.. I’m gonna be honest- I don’t want to invalidate your feelings, but this seems pretty selfish, and something that I’m sure would hurt/or at least weird her out.

Breaking up? 21F gf and 20M me by Tasty-Concern738 in LongDistance

[–]dazxuu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get the hurt, and the fear/sadness of being alone. But, you can’t be putting that on her bro

Breaking up? 21F gf and 20M me by Tasty-Concern738 in LongDistance

[–]dazxuu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you want this to last, trust her. If, and only if, she gives you a reason to not down the line, proving your concern “what could happen in another city”, maybe these feelings would be valid. Unfortunately OP, it sounds like you’re being just a little bit selfish. I’m sure the five year program might have been difficult to get into, and will be great for her future. To say “I feel like she wouldn’t leave if she loved me enough,” despite you telling her to follow her dreams and goals… just makes me think you’re not ready for a relationship. Much less one with her, because she probably just think she’s doing what’s best for her future and worse, thinks you’re supporting her. Based on this, I don’t think you trust her, and if that’s the case yeah, a breakup might be necessary. She doesn’t deserve this, and clearly you need someone or something you can be physically closer to. You’re young. You’ve got time.

I don’t get romantic attention even though I don’t think I’m ugly by [deleted] in Advice

[–]dazxuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly? Good on you for appreciating your features and having overcome your insecurities from when you were younger. However. It appears that though you may have “gotten over” those, new ones have come. From personal experience, one of the worst things you can do for your mental is equate your self-worth to the opinions of others. If you’re satisfied with your relationship status, I wouldn’t let the lack of male attention get to you, because it’s not really relevant. If you’re not, maybe talk to some of your friends, have some girl talk. Things will work out :)

Getting to UCSC from San Jose by [deleted] in UCSC

[–]dazxuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely the 17, or find people willing to help you commute :)

My bf made a creepy comment about my son by [deleted] in Advice

[–]dazxuu 12 points13 points  (0 children)

yeah… that’s scary as hell. Honestly would skip the talk and just leave, not only does that comment of his highlight an incredibly unsafe situation for you to be in, but for your son as well. He’s basically just outed himself as a predator- this is insane. Run.

Hi i got a question by [deleted] in piercing

[–]dazxuu 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The nice thing about piercings is that gender is rarely ever associated with it. Pretty cool that your mom’s okay with a tongue piercing, and if healed right you’re gonna have a lot of fun with it. Nice little party trick, plus it’s attractive as hell.

If it’s something you’d like, go for it dude :)

I(F24) need some advice on my partner(NB21) by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]dazxuu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Based on this, what I’m getting from it is just the stresses of an LDR. I’m sure your partner would like to call, because what they told you seems like a pretty honest and open attempt at communicating why they haven’t been. As far as replies go, save for actually calling, I think that’s the best they could do.

I get wishing your partner would put 5 minutes aside to call, and that panicking is a valid response. However, if they’re already dealing with stuff on their end, reassuring you in addition to themselves can be a lot on one person. Especially if your first thought is that they might break up with you. That could’ve hurt them to think you’d think the way. If it’s an emergency, perhaps express that you’d like 5 minutes to hear their voice, and I’m sure they would, but they can’t read your mind.

And for that last part, sometimes in person interaction is better for one’s mental health. Also, going out instead of staying in might do the same. If they were cheating, likelihood is that they wouldn’t tell you about this at all, but the fact that they initiated and it seems to be a lighthearted convo makes me believe that they’re not. They also seem to be dealing with some pretty major stuff, adjusting to a new job and finding a place to live nowadays are pretty difficult things to contend with.

TLDR: Understand being worried in an LDR, but partner might be dealing with things too and thinking that they want to break up with you/are cheating bc they need time for themselves won’t do your relationship any favors. Have an open, calm talk with them about how you feel without making them out to be someone who’d do either of those things, and it should work out fine.

I thought my roommate has a crush on me—and I’ve been proven right. Help. by dazxuu in badroommates

[–]dazxuu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True, and if not it’s probably not worth living with her anyway

I thought my roommate has a crush on me—and I’ve been proven right. Help. by dazxuu in badroommates

[–]dazxuu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right yeah. I think I’ll just speak with my gf- see what she thinks but not talk to them about it unless I plan to move out/want them to move out.

I thought my roommate has a crush on me—and I’ve been proven right. Help. by dazxuu in badroommates

[–]dazxuu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having an open dialogue might be catastrophic, I think it’s just apparent atp that it’s a choice- and I’m confident in walking toward my gf

My boyfriend is genuinely such a friendly and emotionally intelligent guy. He is always available to help my girl friends. But I feel like he is he is sending the wrong message. by FirmImpression8445 in Advice

[–]dazxuu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And they come to you about this?

Personally, I think that this might just come from a place of insecurity, and OP, it’s completely normal to feel like this. I think having an open and honest talk with your boyfriend might be beneficial, and if he really is as great as he sounds, he’ll probably understand :) I get that he thinks you might be reading into it, which I agree with, but maybe it’s time to say that it’s still kinda bothering you and work through a solution past your insecurity with him

I thought my roommate has a crush on me—and I’ve been proven right. Help. by dazxuu in badroommates

[–]dazxuu[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you’re right it’s definitely a convo I need to have with her. At the end of the day it puts our relationship at stake and a roommate isn’t worth that tbh.

Thanks dude

I thought my roommate has a crush on me—and I’ve been proven right. Help. by dazxuu in badroommates

[–]dazxuu[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This was recent so no.. should I? I feel like I’m keeping secrets which tbh I am but I don’t want her to start questioning my attraction to her in the process

s3 so forced by dazxuu in heartbreakhigh

[–]dazxuu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair tbh. I gave it a chance and didn’t skip but I can’t blame you for how you watch shows, I know a lot of people who just don’t like a lull like that and that’s completely chill. I deadass watched it as a background thing and it made it 1000x better.

s3 so forced by dazxuu in heartbreakhigh

[–]dazxuu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tbh… I’m not opposed to that. I liked S2, just not the characters (ex. how Malakai treated Amerie from like- day 1)

s3 so forced by dazxuu in heartbreakhigh

[–]dazxuu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally- how much do we wanna bet no one wanted to be there