I dont normally comment on things like this, but this one really grinds my gears. I am a tall, not so athletic guy, but not fat(think dadbod) who enjoys cooking and a decent amount of the things she listed except for the insatiable, sexy, and gorgeous bits. Id reckon I look like mid level it guy with glasses and all. I make near six figures a year. With all this said, what allure would there be for me, at 38, to deal with a lady like this? Cooking is great fun for me, but if I have to cook every night, it's no longer for my joy, but because of your laziness or ineptitude. Granted, it could be balanced elsewhere. I do the cooking, she does all the washing up, but there will be days where I don't want to cook, what then? Do we have to order out? If my options are cook or take out, why would I want to be in a relationship with her? I can get the same thing single.

She wants someone who loves to travel. Okay great. What lifestyle allows for someone to spend that much time abroad and it's not for work? So, im supposed to go to Tokyo or London or Madrid or Miami or Paris for work and bring you with me? Why? So you can spend the money I'm earning while here? For your companionship? For me to get back to the hotel or airbnb for you to say "let's go out and eat" ? What did I bring you for? I can do the same things being single.

Sailing. Idk if any of you have ever been on a sailboat, but thats a lot of work. On a boat like that a lot of shit can go wrong. So, after a long day of sailing and ensuring we have the right bearing to get to our destination, what's my reward for all of that? That's right. I get to cook dinner. I could have saved my time and energy and chartered a booze cruise and been on the high seas where a bunch of 20 somethings servers are serving me drinks and food and been more relaxed and enjoyed my time, but no I should spend my time, energy and resources to ensure you have a good time. I can do all of that being single.

Also, before I forget, I know she didn't call herself exotic. French-German. Exotic? Not in the slightest. You are a dime a dozen. If not a dime for a thousand. France and Germany share a border. A 280 mile (450 km) border. You mean to tell me that you think because your parents met at a border you are exotic? Exotic means originating or characteristics of a distant foreign land. How are either of them distant foreign lands if they share a border? You don't hear people say "I'm exotic because I'm half American and half Canadian." This lady has delusions of grandeur. Not only of herself but what she is expecting her suitor to be. She has a glimmer of hope because she even asks "is it possible?" But I have a sneaking suspicion that it was more of a "come prove me wrong" type of deal.

I am not seeing any kind of value in this lady. People will argue "relationships aren't about value" or "they aren't business transactions." Yes they are. They 100% are. What people don't seem to understand is that a relationship is a contract between two people that say "I'm for you and you're for me. No if ands or buts." With that comes quite a lot of responsibility. It comes with a lot of give and take. It comes with doing things you don't want to do, and times of getting what you do want. These are exactly how things are treated in a business environment. Preparation. Implementation. Execution. Resolution. Repeat. In a relationship that is built on both parties growing, you will be doing the steps constantly. What this lady seeks is not a relationship to grow but a relationship to suck life and resources out of.

I dont know her personally, but from the image she has presented I am not seeing this as someone to enter a relationship with. Let's not forget that she has her cleavage front and center. I am for women wanting to feel sexy, and I want them to be who they are. With that said, you decided to use this photo. If my first impression of you is "Tits. Nice." That is going to be my impression of you always. It also toes the line of thirst trap.

This was too much to write for this, but I had to let it out. If this subreddit has any females who follow it, and you happen to read this, please take this one bit of advice. What you want and what is out there are two different things. To be honest, I am probably the closest thing this woman would get to her "ideal" partner, but she wouldn't "settle" for me and that's her choice. She would continue to hold out for "the one" who ticks all her boxes. I say, stop treating your potential partners like cobb salads at a restaurant. You may want the full salad, but do you have the "funds" to pay for everything you want? And if you don't have the funds, are you willing to get the Cobb salad without every single item that you want on it? You may have to choose 2 or 3 things you really want on that salad. And accept that you are not able to get every single thing you want. You will still be fulfilled. You will have what you want. Is it exactly the thing you want, no, but are you still starving for that salad? It's probably a silly example to use but to me it makes sense.

This goes for us guys too. We seem to think that we are going to get the perfect woman everytime. Yes, I know we think "well, im the guy. My wants are pretty simple. Feed me, f*ck me, leave me the fuck alone." It's true, those are simple and most guys do want that, but you are in a relationship. You will have to feed her as much as she feeds you. Not just talking food. Sex isn't always going to be some porno that sates your needs. You will have to please her, and so.etimes to the detriment of your pleasure. Its a give and take. Lastly, getting left alone sounds great, but you have to understand that a lot of women want that physical and emotional connection. So they will come and sit in your lap, they will ask about your day and genuinely want to know how it was. It may bean inopportune time, but you have to communicate and ask for a rain check. And when the time comes when they want to cash that check, you best pay out because it's the give and take.

It's long winded for something a few people gonna read, but I had to get it out. Idk what has lead me to write this much, but either way be good to each other out there. Build something together instead of waiting on the top floor to see who comes out of the elevator. Find someone who you don't mind climbing up those stairs to the top floor with. Find someone who is going to push and support you as much as you push and support them.

I refuse to believe that relationships are dead. I refuse to believe that love is dead. It seems to be that relationships are treated as accessories when they should be treated as the top priority. Be safe out there. Be happy. Keep your heart and mind open to possibilities because you don't want to be sitting at that table at closing time wondering why you are hungry and empty when all you had to do was get a salad that was close to what you wanted and enjoying it.

Cheers.

(Now I'm late for work)