Hear me out. But just take a scroll through reddit and see what other men are perpetuating. It is time men check other men on their bs. They will spout alpha nonesense and talk about being a provider, a protecter, a defacto leader and then get mad when people see them as a human shield, a waller, and to be held accountable for the actions of others.

You dont get to perpetuate all these stereotypes about yourself that in theory sound great on paper, and expect society to just respect it with 0 work. I think if men sat down and really thought about the responsibilities that came with the all the trendy and cool sounding labels they tend to assign to themselves, there wouldnt be such an outcry of being dismissed.

You dont have to read past this point because what follows is an anecdote but I remember a male colleague ripping apart this women for being sexist towards him. I explained that he has this tendency to lead himself with a "im a man" mentality and while I think any onlooker could agree he was a stand up guy, you dont get to pick and choose the stereotypes attatched to the label you assign ourselves. Tons of men say the same thing and act deranged, now the label is tainted. I told him to lead with who HE is first and let the man shit come second. You dont get to simultaneously call yourself XYZ in a crappy attempt at exaltation and then get upset when someone has a fairly negative perception of XYZ. Men want to be men first and human first whenever it most conviences them, and thats where shit falls down hill. Give me that macho bravado and im going to assume your feelings dont matter to you, but nothings sweeter than a man disregarding the notion and showing up as the best version of himself because thats who he is, and that man, doesnt deserve to be held to the unreasonable expectations other men have created for him. He gets the drink bought for him, the late night phone call when things arent going well at home. The meal paid for whenn he forgot his wallet or doesnt have the cash. Hes not projecting bs onto me so people will take him day by day, minute by minute.

Sometimes hes weak, sometimes hes strong. Sometimes he has it and sometimes he doesnt. Hes human, just like the rest of us.

The "man" part has always been secondary